My dad just moved to Massachusetts by himself for his job, and my mom stayed behind in Michigan while I go to school in CT, my parents are not divorced.
I spend at least half an hour on the phone with my mom everyday (because she's lonely) and then another half hour talking to my dad because he's also lonely. They both do not seem to eat 3 full meals a day because of their separation from the family, so I call them after mealtimes to make sure they've eaten.
Dad keeps talking about visiting me, and it's not like I hate his visiting, I would love for him to visit me but I also need to spend some time at school and take a break on the weekends without being busy going back and forth between MA and CT.
What should I do? I love my family but I don't know how to get some time for myself without cutting them off. I can't stop worrying about them, I don't know what else to do besides the constant phonecalls, visits, and reassurances.
2007-09-26 15:18:18 · 5 answers · asked by yupgigirl 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Well, I'm so busy. I'm taking 5 classes, have two jobs, and also am a part of a musical ensemble as well as taking private voice lessons. If i had time, of course I would spend it with them... I call them everyday, besides. I'm looking for a way to reduce the time and yet still show them I care about them.
2007-09-26 15:25:24 · update #1
When are your parents going to wise up and realize they need to do something with their lives? When will they divorce or reconcile. Not while you're there visiting, calling to make sure they eat, calling to help them not be so lonely.
They need to be hungry right now. And they need to be lonely. They're missing one another but it won't reach a crisis point while you're there bridging the gap.
My advice is to call my mom and dad for 10 min a day. Make visits no more than every 2 weeks for an afternoon. Try that for a while and see what happens.
TX Mom
not an expert
2007-09-26 15:25:08 · answer #1 · answered by TX Mom 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just call them but you are not there parents let them work through it just study hard and enjoy college you are not going to fix them.
2007-09-26 23:17:22 · answer #2 · answered by ben t 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you are that worried about them you should spend more time with them, they are not going to be here on earth forever.
2007-09-26 15:22:35 · answer #3 · answered by luka 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you chase two rabbits, you will lose them both.
2007-09-26 15:26:14 · answer #4 · answered by Bern_CH 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nyar
2007-09-26 15:28:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋