I figure we'll probably have kids by the time hes 40. I'll be 30...give or take. Will it be too much for him to handle parenthood? I want to wait to have kids because I want to be financially and emotionally stable, mostly financially, but I dont want to hinder him...
He doesnt SEEM to care, he knows we want the best for our future children so he doesnt mind waiting, but would it be too long? Are there any older parents out there and how is it?
Nowadays everyone is like 18 when they have a kid or younger! ...I just dont want to make the mistake of waiting...until its too late.
2007-09-26 15:13:32 · 11 answers · asked by fYi 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Honey, I'm 43 and my husband is 51. We have an 8 week old little girl. Granted, we have older children (in their 20's) but MANY people wait to have kids now! They want to get an education and a career first!
2007-09-26 15:17:22 · answer #1 · answered by Lisa E 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Well one thing you need to know is as you get older ( a female) your eggs get older and that means it is harder for you to become pregnant ! It is easier when your younger to try to conceive and if you have any problems with it then that's another reason to start at a younger age if possible!! Have you been checked or do you know if you have any problems in getting pregnant? age can make it worse if so ! Also i had my baby's young and really think that it is alot easier on you all the way around when you are younger and I'm so glad i didn't wait til i was older ! You never know what kind of medical problems you can end up having later on either?! then you can't have children or you have no choice anymore! As far as Financial things I really think that if we wait for more money or better income then we may be waiting too long! Cause sometimes it never happens and we just put it off Until? Also unless he is in good shape physically or exercise and all he wouldn't have as much energy to play alot with a wee one, cause the older we get the easier it is to tire easily! especially if you have to work and take care of a baby, it can be tiresome!! So it can depend on your health and know one really knows how much their health may change with age , so i think you are taking a big chance on that one !!! And things in your life can happen and things canchange for you so fast, So , I for one say What better time is there then Now? Unless you really can't afford it, but then again I know of those who couldn't afford it and some how they do it ! They make away! and there is always going to be those what if's and things to worry about but you know somehow it all works out when the baby does come !! I just think if its something you really want then don't put it off to long cause time can run out on you and things can happen to change things in your future! How old are you now? And how long can you afford to wait is really the question I think? plus as i remember it some kids don't like having an old parent that looks like their granddad!! So you got to think about how the child would feel too especailly when he/she goes to school ?? Like will they be teased about having a parent that looks like a grandpa instead cause there parents may look younger? Just giving you something to think about thats all. Also my girls really liked their Mom looking young and they would always tell me how thier friends thought I was their older sister and they enjoyed that! just so you know o.k. So good luck to you and i hope you make the right choice for you all !!
2007-09-26 22:49:53 · answer #2 · answered by monkeymomma46 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's nothing wrong with waiting for stability to have kids, especially if you're busy building a home, building an education, and building character.
Everyone is not having babies at 18. The statistics show more women are waiting until later--mid 30s to 40. There's nothing wrong with having your kids in your 30s. Unless you have a fertility issue now, you won't be too late. It may be a little more difficult to get pregnant, but certainly not impossible.
TX Mom
not an expert
2007-09-26 22:20:46 · answer #3 · answered by TX Mom 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
You can never be finacially ready when you have children. Lots of unexpected things can pop up at anytime. If everyone waited until they were finacially stable, this world wouldn't have near as many people. As far as emotionally, only he kn ows when he is ready. The older you get though, males sperm count start to decrease, maybe making it harder to conceive. It doesn't matter how old you are, as long as he can physically and mentally handle it. There is no set age limit on having children...ecspecially now a days!!!! Good Luck and I hope everything goes as planned.
2007-09-26 22:55:22 · answer #4 · answered by jen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First I don't know that you an ever feel financially ready to have a child. Every time you think you are there is another expense involved. Anyway, I don't think 40 is too old several parents I know are older and do a great job.
2007-09-26 22:24:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
I don't think he's too old. One of my friend is 22 years old and his father is 65 right now but he turned out just fine. His mother is 11 years younger than his father too. I don't think it's the age and if your husband is willing to do what you wish, that's great! I say go for it and wait till you feel comfortable with this matter.
Good luck!
2007-09-26 22:20:17 · answer #6 · answered by Este 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
My dad was 35 first kid, 40 last kid. He did pretty well. Still doing well 40 years later.
2007-09-26 22:17:35 · answer #7 · answered by Dan H 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
not al my dad was 54 when i was born lots of men and women have kids older makes sense beter able to care for them and have gotten to do al the fun stuff before I'm 31 and want kids but not soon
2007-09-26 22:18:07 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
No way! My parents are in their 50's and i'm 14. They treat me well, although I don't do many physical activities with them. Lol But I don't mind.
2007-09-26 22:17:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
i think 90 is the oldest a guy can be... seriously though, i don't think 40 is too old, its a good mature age. more and likely he would be a greater father than those young dads
2007-09-26 22:18:09 · answer #10 · answered by DONNAGAN 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋