my uncle and aunt have been married for 10yrs and are seperated now because my aunt was just going crazy about everthing is their life. They have 2 kids that are 5 and 6 and after my aunt had the kids she changed so much and all she does is beat them and doesn't take care of them. She doesn't let my uncle touch anything in the house and is always yelling at everyone. So finally my uncle moved out with the two kids but now my aunt is getting help from a Womens Place to get custody of the kids but when you ask the kids who they want to stay with they say with their dad. Is there anything my uncle can do to get help also like she can....he is very very tight on money as well and he doesn't care to get back with my aunt he just cares about keeping the kids. He worries all the time and no matter how much we tell him not to worry he always does and me being his neice I don't know what to do or say anymore. Also my aunt was cheating on him with some guy and that guy gets his cell phone
2007-09-26 14:59:08 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
number every time my uncle changes it because that guy threatens him and that scares him more. What can I do to help????
2007-09-26 15:00:11 · update #1
If he proves that she is not fit to be their mother to the court, the kids will then be taken in custody of their father. Mothers normally get custody only because they are the mother and that's where the children want to be, but since they want to be with the their dad, when they go to court he will probably grant your uncle custody. :)
2007-09-26 15:02:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your aunt is seriously "beating" the kids, why hasn't someone called child protective services (CPS) on her? I'm not sure what services are available in your area, but most counties have a legal aid type place that can offer some assistance. Your uncle can also call the county's CPS and talk to them and sometimes they can offer advise. If he is in genuinely concerned about the safety of his children when they are with their mother, he can call the local sheriff's office or police and ask for a welfare check. Anyone can ask for a welfare check on anyone, but I would only suggest this if/when he has a legitimate concern. (example= very dirty house, bruises on children, no food, ect) Otherwise, if he continues to call and they never find an issue, he could be held liable for harassment.
If the boyfriend continues to harass him, he can file for a restraining order against the guy through the sheriff/police.
Custody disputes are very complicated and can cause a lot of trauma on children. I hope that your uncle maintains his cool around them when the aunt is also there, no matter what her behavior. I would suggest some counseling for your uncle as well to help him deal with this issue...it will be draining on him emotionally.
Oh, and yes...he could get custody of his children but he'd have to prove the mother to be unfit, which is where the above info comes into play. Also, if someone else were to see bruises on the children and report to CPS and it was found out that he knew and didn't report, then he can be charged with failure to protect and would then have to go through the court process to get them back from CPS.
Best of luck to him and the kids!
2007-09-26 15:55:44 · answer #2 · answered by ladybug 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really wish I could help. There is so little in the way of any kind of help for men. We are on our own. I hope some day this will change. One thing your uncle can do is document everything that happens. dates times etc. Unfortunately, children have no say in what happens to them, best they can do is verify the things they are going through to support your uncle, if anyone might listen to them. If your uncle is being harrased or stalked he must file a police complaint. This will support his allegations when the time comes.
2007-09-26 15:08:38 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he needs to find a 'pro bono' lawyer. They are lawyers who will take cases like this for free. If the kids are being treated badly by her...she cheated on him AND this other guy is trying to start trouble...he may have a good chance. Tell him he should report the guy who calls him to the police! That way they'll have an actual record of a complaint. It will help his case.
2007-09-26 15:04:50 · answer #4 · answered by Lisa E 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When they go to court your uncle should see if his lawyer can try to get her ordered to be seen by a shrink or something. It sounds like she is kind of mental. All he can do is just take care of his babies the best that he can and try and prove his case. He needs to try and get proof of her conduct forcourt. It can be done my uncle got custody of his 3yr old girl about 2 yrs ago! He even admitted to the judge that he would fail a drug test if given one!!
2007-09-26 15:07:48 · answer #5 · answered by ryeeeeit 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
seek for suggestion from a criminal expert even no count if it is an preliminary loose consultation. that's a custody settlement and could be changed by skill of going back to relatives courtroom. that's no longer set in stone. you've gotten the skill to relocate esp. once you employ the argument of being continuously reminded. Are they getting scientific care? If no longer please gain this. which will help in relatives courtroom too.
2016-10-09 21:44:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can't really do much except support and be there for him. unfortunately this is something he needs to sort out. usually mothers are easily given custody because of the fact they are the mother but if he can give evidence (the beatings and mistreatment) and his kids feel up to doing this as well he might have a better chance. get social services involved if it gets too bad for them at home with their mother. their safety needs to come first!!!!
2007-09-26 15:05:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
your uncle probably needs good, legal advice.
he can tell the attorney about the events in his marriage, and if he has witnesses, all the better...
your uncle can also request that his wife has a psychological evaluation before the court date (he may have to have one too)... the eval will determine her competency (and also your uncle's) when it comes to relating to and raising children.
and the attorney might have other helpful suggestions for your uncle.
take care.
2007-09-26 15:03:55 · answer #8 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He should look to the family courts for help getting an attorney that will help for little (pays only what he can afford) or no money. Immediately!!
2007-09-26 15:02:34 · answer #9 · answered by kys 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Consult with your lawyer who has good references and a good track record. And trust him.
2007-09-26 15:01:49 · answer #10 · answered by Philladelphia 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋