There is this man about 40 years of age, that has constanly humiliated me, or has put me down or said something not really pleasant to me at church as well as to other women. It has been going on for years.
Aside from this he is the chairman of the church, and he is a producer from the entertainment industry meaning he has $$ and can afford to act this way.
Can I ask you if no one complains, but people notice his behavior, how can one get to the top with bad behavior?
2007-09-26 14:57:37 · 10 answers · asked by Born Valentine's Day 5 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
He gets by with it throught life as he does at church. Evidently, your miniter is unwilling to confront him. I would venture to guess that everyone turns a blind eye. It is unfortnate.
Presuming you are not able to change churches, does your church have a different worship service than he goes to?
Could you convince some of the women he insults to act enmasse in a way that show the entire congregation how you collectively feel about this man.
Maybe before service, come in as a block and all sit together.
Encourage the other women to not look at this man, If no one looks at him, he will will not get his anticipated response. You may have to do this for several weeks as he derives enjoyment from all or your responses to him.
Good Luck, in the mean time don't forget to pray for a solution.
2007-09-26 15:26:46 · answer #1 · answered by gerlawgoody1 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Having money is no ticket to act any way you want. Stand up to this pig!! The fact that everyone lets it go on is why he keeps doing it. Also, if he is doing it at church, talk to the higher ups there and make sure he is put on notice. Also, see if you can get some of these other women to stand up to him with you. There is strength in numbers. If you have a whole group of women getting up in his face all at once it likely would turn him into the sniveling little immature boy he obviously is inside. Good luck!!
2007-09-26 22:04:44 · answer #2 · answered by uscitizen 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I agree with Deb, you answered your own question. He gets away with it because no one complains. Why? Why does his money or job title have any influence on his position in the church? The two are non-related, other than the fact that climbed to the top of both by stepping over those with weaker characters (meaning not strong enough or brave enough to stand up to him).
Change the cycle.
2007-09-26 22:07:17 · answer #3 · answered by Magaroni 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, you can't change another persons behavior. If this is at church I urge you to find another church. No church, no matter how rich or not a person is, should allow this behavior to continue. In a place of worship someone's financial background should never justify this type of behavior. I'd definitely find another church because it's not just him that sounds a disgrace its the entire church for not speaking up!
2007-09-26 22:04:43 · answer #4 · answered by Rainey 4 · 4⤊ 1⤋
If the church you attend allows this type of thing to continue, it is time to find somewhere else to attend. I don't care if he is as rich as Bill Gates, it doesn't give him the right to be abusive verbally or physically to others.
I go to church services to be encouraged and uplifted and if there was someone there who was so rude, I would be stressed out and my mind would not be on spiritual things.
I would go somewhere else. If enough people leave and they learn the reasons why, maybe something will be done.
2007-09-26 22:10:33 · answer #5 · answered by nowyouknow 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
it may seem like he will get away with this behavior forever. but if you watch the news or read the paper, almost every single day some man or woman has fallen from a high position because of a smallish slip of the tongue, foolish behavior, or derogatory email. i would say it will probably be a matter of time and he has his downfall too. watch and see.
2007-09-26 22:10:37 · answer #6 · answered by itsjustme 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How......because people whom he humiliates keeps going back to him.
They should go to another church.
2007-09-27 05:25:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are several way to the top
hard work
fear
threatening
buying your way
If you notice there is only one good way.
It sounds like your friend uses threatening
2007-09-26 22:05:30 · answer #8 · answered by Questionable 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
ask lawyers and recent and past ceo's.
2007-09-26 22:00:38 · answer #9 · answered by midnitepoets 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
you said it.... $$$$$
2007-09-26 22:57:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋