My 9 year old son has always been very sensitive. He is not your typical rambunctious boy. He has always been an introvert since he was a little boy. He is a kind and smart too. But at the same time he is your typical goofy kid as long as he is on a one on one basis with a boy or girl. He loves cars and video games. The problem comes down when he is at the playground he says that most kids just seem to ignore him. He says that he tries to join in whatever they are playing but it never works. He always ends up playing alone and it breaks my heart to hear this. He has had an anxiety issue when he was younger. And I wonder if the kids pick thhis up and that is why they ignore him. I worry it will affect his self-esteem in the long run. Especially when he goes to middle school. Do you think a smaller private school will be better or will he have the same problem (he attends public school)?
2007-09-26 14:06:55 · 11 answers · asked by mari93 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
i had the same problem talk to the teachers
2007-09-26 14:09:21 · answer #1 · answered by luwythefly21 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It could be social anxiety -- I was much younger than 9 when I first presented with symptoms, but onset age can vary greatly. The best thing you can do for him is get him evaluated by a psychologist to be sure. If it is SA and it's left untreated, then the older he gets the harder it'll be for him to get help; trust me, I know from experience.
It could be that he no longer has the anxiety issue, but because the other kids have perceived him that way for so long it's hard for him to break that image. Then again, when I went off to college without anyone I used to know, I still somehow fell back into the same habits, so changing schools might not solve that problem. I do have to say that I went to Catholic school for 13 years and absolutely loved it, but as I've never been to public school I don't know that it was any better or worse for my anxiety.
The only thing you can really do right now is get him diagnosed, and subsequently treated if there's a need. He's old enough to tell you whether he wants to switch schools or not.
2007-09-26 14:19:24 · answer #2 · answered by Caitlin 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is a shy kid. I was struggling with something similar all my life. I am not completely out of it even now, at 35, but I am much better. It got all better when I started college, but I suffered a lot as a teenager. I am afraid it might be genetic because my son seems to have similar problems as your son. He often tells me that he plays alone at recess. The teachers in preschool also said he is noi really joining the group, but eventually found a couple of children to play with and somehow, still, he was very popular in that little school, all the kids seemed to love him. Public school is different, many more children. He doesn't join crowds of children, generally picks one only to play with. Otherwise he's very friendly. I am very interested in other answers you get to your questions. Zoloft sounds like a good idea, if a psychologist would prescribe it.
2007-09-26 14:51:07 · answer #3 · answered by Lia 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would keep him in the public school because there is more available to help him than in private schools. I went to both private and public schooling. Yes private schooling is great for possible a better education, but if your child is a "special needs" child than stay with the public schools.
Talk to the teachers and get help. Your tax dollars are paying for this. I don't think he has a disorder yet, but this could turn into one. He is still young and this is the time to start working on these issues.
He may grow out of this, but talk to the teachers and see what they see. If you don't get any help there get him tested through the school system. Talk to the school counselors.
Good luck and stay positive. You are doing the right thing by getting information and looking for a solution.
2007-09-26 14:19:33 · answer #4 · answered by Athena13 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, for goodness' sake - medicating a child because he's shy and doesn't get on well with large groups? Now I really have heard it all.
Most kids play with their particular cliques in the playground and ignore people who try to join - it's absolutely normal, though not very nice for the one being ignored. It doesn't mean they need to be labelled with a disorder though! Suggest he goes off and plays with another child who is on their own - not necessarily another boy, or someone in his own class - instead of trying to join a large, already formed group. There will be others in his situation in any school larger than about 30 kids - you said it yourself, "most". Encourage him to play with the other ones and to make a point of including any other kids who are playing on their own. My son who is 8 does this - they call it the "Left Out Club".
2007-09-26 23:22:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My daughter was the same way, but she is 8 years. I put her in the after school program, where she can interact with other children her age. The good thing about the program is that the children comes from other schools in the area. She has learned how to introduce herself to children that she was not familiar with and she started speaking in groups. So I would say find other social outlets for your child, a therapist is not always the answer.
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2016-10-09 21:38:27 · answer #8 · answered by esker 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should talk to his pediatrician and let him put him on an anxiety medicine before starting middle school. A wonderful medicine is Zoloft. It is very good for teenagers that are adapting to new things. When starting this medicine, it is best to start off on the lowest does and move up. It takes about three weeks for it to all get in your system correctly. This will really help him and will make him feel so much better about himself! This was such a lifesaver for me.. Being on it for 5 years, I gradually cam off of it, and now I'm fine! Always talk to the doctor first! He/she might recommend something totally different but ask about Zoloft!
Good Luck!
2007-09-26 14:13:04 · answer #9 · answered by Shayna 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Take your son to a psychologist. They can give him counseling and help him with this.
2007-09-26 14:10:18 · answer #10 · answered by seatonrsp 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋