My best friend's husband has just broken up with her via text message! this is no joke! he didn't have the maturity or decency to walk the block to her parents house to tell her in person or even call and tell her verbally over the phone- he won't accept her calls either. they've been married for almost 4 years - & were married in the lds temple (ie. for time & eternity). How can someone throw that away so easily? He's refused councelling & doesn't seem to want to do anything towards a reconcilliation. my friend sat down with the bishop (church leader) & her husband was asked to come along & discuss their problems- he REFUSED!!! so my friend had to speak to the bishop alone.
Do you have some advice or words of comfort for my friend?
2007-09-26 13:40:18 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
ok Barbie!!! that's why i asked for LDS answers! we view marriage as sacred- so does God! i'm pretty shocked that you take the issue of divorce so lightly or how my friend's husband can dismiss it so flippantly. that is the issue in question - not whether my beliefs are "correct" or whatever- lets save that debate for another time, shall we?
2007-09-26 13:47:25 · update #1
marie- thank you. i think i needed to hear the words- you can't fix it- i am & have always been "the fixer" with friends & relationships & stuff- this time i feel really helpless & not sure of what to do- i guess i'm gonna have to take everyone's advice & just step back and be a shoulder to cry on & not charge in on my high horse...
2007-09-26 14:16:00 · update #2
First let me tell you I am X Mormon, and I'm not here to judge you or anyone else, Even though he refuses counseling she NEEDS to go alone, She can't change her husband, only God and her husband can do that. Your friend needs to stay around good friends like you, and pray and read her Bible, if she need to talk , be there to listen, ..... (try not to give advice of any kind) just listen, You can NOT fix it. Let God be God, He knows exactly whats going on, and He already knows (and knew ) that this was going to happen. God bless, and I'll keep you all in my prays.
2007-09-26 14:04:56 · answer #1 · answered by Marie 7 · 8⤊ 0⤋
Wow! What a heartbreaker! Marie and Newwellness both contributed great answers as did several others. I can only recommend to be a good listener and let your friend know you're available whenever she needs moral support.
The friend's husband has certainly gone around the bend and I cannot understand why. I'd give anything to be married to my wife in the temple, but cannot because she is Methodist.
Help your friend in earnest prayer frequently. Now is the time she needs a strong friend and to increase her faith in the power of prayer.
2007-09-26 14:48:43 · answer #2 · answered by Guitarpicker 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
There's nothing she can do to change her husband. I know that's probably the least comforting thing anyone can ever say at the time.
If she has to move on without him, the most important thing will be to forgive. And that will take time. She doesn't have to forgive him today or even tomorrow. Encourage her to continue to see her Bishop, alone if she has to. And just simply love her. No matter what happens.
2007-09-26 16:12:59 · answer #3 · answered by Lex 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The husband is a coward and isn't worthy to have her for a wife. I've seen it happen more often then not. All I can say is for you as a friend to be there for her, the next few months are going to be hard, she needs a friend who will stay by her side, always.
2007-09-26 13:52:38 · answer #4 · answered by newwellness 3 · 7⤊ 0⤋
I would just suggest to you to be a good listener. There isn't much she needs to do except endure. It is terrible to see this type of thing whether or not they were sealed in the temple.
Good luck and God bless
2007-09-26 14:45:39 · answer #5 · answered by Senator John McClain 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I'm not mormon, but I feel so bad for your friend. One of my friends just went through a similar situation (although he told her to her face that he wanted a divorce).
It sounds like she has done what she can to reconcile the marriage, but he is unwilling. God will judge him harshly.
Just be there for her. Help her to think the way God thinks, help her to forgive him, and protect her from people who might gossip about her.
2007-09-27 05:33:17 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
thats just awful. Is there a minister(or whatever they are called) from the Ids Temple that can maybe talk to him. Maybe he needs an intervention from other members of the Temple. Good luck to her
2016-03-19 00:58:21 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just listen to her and be there for her. She needs you. She needs someone to listen to her when she's crying, in the middle of the night, when she can't sleep.
Tell her that she is going to be ok. Tell her it over and over and over again
2007-09-26 13:46:22 · answer #8 · answered by chersa 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Life can be so cruel, and it is so wonderful to be able to depend on Jesus to see us through the tough times. Just keep your mind and eyes on Him, he knows exactly how to heal the broken heart. He will go through each step with her and will never leave. He is her husband first, for all eternity, and He loves her like His bride.
2007-09-26 13:45:47 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 1⤋
Give her a hug. That guy is a creep. He is the one with the problem - I hope they didn't have kids!
2007-09-26 17:12:08 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋