Do you think it's a god-given role that women should take care of the kids @ home & men should work?

Question

...obviously this question is for those who believe in a god.

Answer 1

yes kinda .. its a natural role also .. the real question that should be asked is who benefits from them not being at home doing those things ... that would be first and foremost those that collect taxes on their wages ..

Answer 2

We live on one income with 3 kids. Yes it attainable, but you have to strive for it. Right now, we are paying down all our debt (including 2 cars, though purchased used, are foreign high quality, almost new so they'd last forever). You have to realize that because you are in school, money is guaranteed tight as can be. As soon as my husband returns to school (even with using GI Bill -not in military anymore), he will not be able to do overtime anymore (which is our pay debt down faster and emergency money, not day to day living money), so we too will have to tighten our belts even more than now, which won't be easy. My husband doesn't make much and while we don't currently live in our own home (stupid debt choices, not because of lack of two incomes), we are happy because we don't let our situation dictate how we should feel. When we do buy a modest home (think only 1000- 1200 sq. ft max) it will suffice, because our children are more important than buying a larger home (some might argue that we need the larger home, but having a big backyard is what kids need....lots of outdoor space, not being cooped up in a family room watching Sponge Bob). I once read that he best way for a stay at home mom to save money is to stay at home!! And that isn't more true. Maybe this isn't your capability now, but when you have that child, don't worry about any off those things that society says s/he'll need to be the smartest, most socialised baby out there. Children have been thriving without all the modern day crap and will continue to in years to come. Like everyone else said, you need to decide what your priorities are and let them dictate your choices, not society's idea of what you should be doing, or money, or anything else.

Answer 3

I do believe that women are better suited, for the most part, to do the housewife thing, but that does not mean that they should be quaranteened to the home. There is no Biblical support for that idea.

But, when I see how great kids benefit when Mom stays home instead of chasing a career, I have no argument against the stay at home Mom. I also believe that the man should be the main bread-winner, since, when pregnancy arrives and she wants to stay home (at least for a while), there is a sustaining income for the household.

Women are also, by and large, queens of multi-tasking - a household with kids must-have gift. Men are "one file at a time", which can be a disaster in a house full of kids.

How many Moms who chase careers have deep regrets, later? How many latch-key kids have a harder time adjusting in some aspects of life? How often do mothers who work outside the home have to work twice as hard because they have to be Moms, also?

But, no matter if Mom stays home or not, the Dad's role is not just in the workplace - he is not just a provider. He should never consider himself as sire and provider and leave the rest for Mom and just check in once in a while. He, too, needs to spend time with the kids, take them places and, above all, take Mom out for a break at least once a month.

Answer 4

Why have children if you are going to let someone else raise them? It's better for the family if one parent is always there. That's the lesson I learned through friends who really regretted going back to work and missing out on all the "firsts", first word, first steps. Also trying to juggle everything and get time off from work when the kids are sick or have school holidays. And usually when a child is ill, they want their mother. I do believe that in general women are made to handle this job better than men. We are more patient and nurturing with children. I know that is from God, but society made it a bad thing. It's only bad when there is not a choice or if someone believes you are not capable of doing anything else but staying home. I made the choice to be there for my children always and it's the best decision I've ever made.

God Bless.

Answer 5

Okay, I do believe in God, fyi. But when I hear this sort of archaic crap, it just grates my cheese.

The roles assigned to men and women are assigned by SOCIETY. When was the last time that God intervened to changed anything down here, huh? Come on.

There is no right or wrong for what men and women 'should' be doing. As long as they are living good lives, and taking good care of their kids, then why does it matter who's working and who's aat home.

The REALLY annoying thing is that since women have won the right to go to work, it's now become expected that they will work AND take care of the family/home. Why should we have two full time jobs? It's practically impossible to give your kids a decent start in life without both parents working nowadays. It's appalling.

If God had of meant women to stay at home, and only be at home, then She would've developed us with a chain already attached.

Answer 6

Yes. I am a stay at home wife trying to have a baby...failed pregnancies but praying and hopeful. Why would I want to relegate the care of my children and home to someone else? I am a natural nurturer, and although my husband is very kind and loving, I am better suited for the day to day all day care of a child(ren). Since I have started being home and taking that role more seriously my faith, patience and femininity has grown. I appreciate my husbands hard work so much more and show my gratitude that was lacking before...He has actually improved in his career since he is solely responsible for us financially. I have so much more time to assist and visit my grandmother, thus increasing her quality of life, and volunteering in the community. My husband can relax more after a rough day/week as before, when I was working out of the home, we would both be tired and trying to get everything done in the house and for all the people in our lives we help. Both of our stress levels have lowered even with money being tighter but I have learned to save in a thousand ways.
I do not have a problem with a woman that chooses a different path, but I have seen Gods promises for faithfully living in the role assigned you work in my life. God Bless

Answer 7

Oh my goodness
to the lady above me
i think i love you! lol jusssst kidding
but really - you said it MUCH better than i could ever say it! i completely agree, 100 percent...that radical feminism has now put women in this situation where they come into society believing that they are NOT EQUAL if they don't go out and have a career or job and make their partner take on some of the child care duties.

call me an anti-feminist, whatever. i consider myself a huge feminist but in a DIFFERENT way. i want to be taken care of, i WANT my husband to provide me and my family with financial security and ALLOW***** me to stay home. I am SICK of radical feminists basically implying that you are somehow less equal to men if you stay home and take good, amazing care of your children.

Yes my opinion is based on religion, not christianity either. but i think its best not only for the children but for their mother because a woman is, by nature, a caregiver and nurturer. she feels a stronger connection to her children from day one, and is the best possible person to ensure the healthy raising of her kids. I am going to be a full time stay at home mother, and i believe that i am not less equal AT ALL to my husband. we are equal. but we have different responsibilities. Please dont think that im judging anyone for having a career..i used to want a big one too. and congrats to mothers who find time to juggle a career and their kids...however i just hope that society realizes soon enough that children are in need of more attention now than ever. Women raise nations. We are behind our children in everything they do, as well as our husbands. I consider being an amazing mother and wife to be a woman's most contributive role and i will always feel this way.

Answer 8

i believe that this arrangement worked best in biblical times, and even now as well, and i believe that women more naturally take on that role. so in that respect, i would say that is how god created us. however, i do not believe that a women should be relegated to the home if she does not want to be. the bible indicates that the man is the head of the household, he takes responsibility for the decisions, but it also says that a man should love his wife as himself and have deep respect for her. he doesn't get to just push her around and tell her what to do. if she wants to work outside of the home, then she should be able to.
these days, it seems that men and women share their roles, and as long as there is respect and love in the household, i can't see what is wrong with that. i don't want women to use references in the bible to justify them staying at home and not contributing to the income or to the household (ie, not cooking or cleaning). i only say that because i have seen it happen before. usually, a woman who works in the home does just that - WORKS.

Answer 9

Well in this day and age I think you have to do what works best for your family, but lets face it women are more inclined to be caretakers, for the most part anyway. I think it is more important to discuss these things before you get married and make sure that you agree on these types of things before you get married.

I believe in a God, but my religious upbringing was cut off when I was 11, so there's a lot I don't know about my original religion....so I mostly go with what seems common sense and ethical.

Answer 10

yes. God gave Adam a job and then gave him a wife as a completer to do the things that his job did not allow him to do, and also to comfort him and accompany him. Women are great at that. Immagine where we would be if God had never made woman... well... I guess we wouldn't be... it takes two to tango... anyway... God chose women bare children as thier attack against satan (who dispises all of human life) and then allow the man to do the job he was created by God to do by nurturing the children while he is unavailable to. We would be in trouble if this didn't happen. As you see less and less of this happening you see more and more kids who are not ready to become adults... this is not a cooincidence. We also see more devorce... this also is not a cooincidence. Men out there, get to work. An able bodied and able minded man who won't work is a sissy and not profitable for society. Women, be loyal. An able bodied and able minded women who can't help her husband to do the work God has called him to is a brazen hussie and is equally not profitable.

Answer 11

No I do not. As times change so must the people. In the beginning men provided for their families by hunting for food. Women are more nurturing and on average are not as strong as men. They stayed with the family and did "safe" things around the camp. Now days, we need a different means to provide for our families. It is all about dealing with other people. Sometimes the woman is better at dealing with people than the man is.
I work and my children's father stays home with them. I am more stable to provide for our family than he is . . . I am better with people. He is doing a better job with our kids (both boys) than I ever could. He is better at discipline and does more of the things that little boys would like to do than I would. This does not mean that I am a bad mother . . . just the opposite. My children have the best parent for home and the most reliable one to provide for them.