They are co-interns at the hospital and spend an incredible amount of time together. She is from another country and has no friends or family here. She is also engaged and is to be married in a few months, but her fiance is also in her home country. My boyfriend talks about her all the time and it's really bothering me. I dont feel right saying anything to him b/c we have only been dating 7 months and they have been working together much longer. Should i be worried or am i just being paranoid?
2007-09-26 12:34:57 · 18 answers · asked by Reilly 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Jealousy sucks... I know how you feel.. It's all about your own insecurity.
My advise: Become friends with her. That way you'll know whats going on at all times, and you'll keep your b/f happy and unsuspecting at the same time! "Keep your friends close and your enemies closer.." lol
Who knows.. You may even make a good friend out of it. :o)
2007-09-26 12:39:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand where you are coming from I am a girl too. However, I don't think you have to worry if they were friends before you met then you can't just expect him to ditch his friends just because they are girls. I have mostly guy friends and I have never thought about cheating on my husband with any of them at any point. Also having a good relationship has a lot to do with trust. The real question is do you trust him? Everybody at some point has the opportunity to cheat the question is are they the kind of person that would.
2007-09-26 12:42:29 · answer #2 · answered by Crazy Train 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry so much about your boyfriend. People who spend time together naturally have some connection but, that doesn't always mean somthing else will come of it. I have a close relationship with the people I work with but I am happily married and have no intentions with anyone other than my husband. I am a people person by nature and my ex-husband was not comfortable with that and was always accusing me of being unfaithful because of his jealosy and it ruined the relationship completely. As long as your boyfriend gives you the attencion and appreciation you deserve don't worry.
2007-09-26 12:47:05 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should be worried and have every right to be. MAKE him spend more time with you and less at work. Also, put some excitement into your routine, that will take his mind of work and any nonsensical ideas of concern for his co-intern.
The fact of the matter is that a lot of affairs tend to start AT WORK. Think about it. Who do you spend most of your day with? Co-workers, not family or friends.
Best of luck!
2007-09-26 12:40:37 · answer #4 · answered by Sicilianguy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u feel he talks about her too much then u should maybe tell him this bothers u a bit, either that or ask him to keep work and personal life separate cause this is your time together and u dont want to spend it talking about work or people in it...it is probably innocent as he talks to u about it, if he had something to hide he wouldnt mention her, but i understand why u would be annoyed, it doesnt matter that u aint been seeing him for long, hes not really thinking of your feelings, u should say something, good luck
2007-09-26 12:42:33 · answer #5 · answered by sharon w 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do you mean you don't feel right saying anything because you haven't been dating that long? Aren't you his girlfriend? Anything that you are feeling is valid and you should tell him what you are feeling. There may be nothing to worry about but I think that he should know. If he doesn't know that it bothers you, there is no way that he is going to do anything differently. You have to tell him or get over it and since it doesn't seem like that is going to happen. . .you should tell him.
2007-09-26 12:39:18 · answer #6 · answered by A W 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only you know the morals and trustworthiness of your boyfriend. I always let my boyfriends (I've only had two) know that if they do "it" with another girl that is the end of us.
The fact is foreigners do have different values about sex (such as ...well if they want to and I want to and I am not married it is OK to do "it" or do oral) It is just a fact. It is up to your boyfriend to set the boundaries.
For now just continue as you have done... keep mum and hope she goes away soon.
2007-09-26 12:41:28 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are entitled to your feelings, IMO. It sounds like bf is a bit insensitive if he has to yack about her all the time. I would ask him to tone it down a bit, perhaps suggest that he put himself in your shoes if you talked continuously about some stud you worked with. Maybe he does crush on her a little because she is exotic and unattainable, so it is harmless, but he needs to take a maturity pill and not let his little crush hurt your feelings or self-esteem or your trust in him.
2007-09-26 12:41:27 · answer #8 · answered by desperatehw 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would proberly feel the same way you do since I'm also a girl. Have you talked to him about it? I think if they have been friends before you two got together then i'd have nothing to worry about.
2007-09-26 12:37:42 · answer #9 · answered by Louise 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd suggest that you not worry. A lot of these foreign marriages are arranged, and the girl is obligated, to conform. They are probably just "work buddies", and he tells you everything that goes on. If he did not, then you might have cause to worry.
2007-09-26 12:40:04 · answer #10 · answered by Beau R 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋