You guys give answers. I have a huge proplem. I asked one of my friends to be my bridesmaids I moved out of the house we were living in to save money. One of the other roomates got into a fight with me about me moving. This friend took the roomates side was a huge jerk to me. And hasn't spoke to me in 2 weeks. what do i do with her being in the wedding??
2007-09-26 12:25:10 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
It's up to you. Depending on how close you are with your friend and how close the wedding is, you may want to give her time to cool off. If you really do not want her in the wedding then I would let her know that her services as a bridesmaid are no longer needed. You can choose someone else or not. The sides do not have to be even any more so don't stress about that.
I hope it works out for you.
2007-09-26 12:35:28 · answer #1 · answered by Reba 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, depends if you had a REALLY strong fight and you think she's still really mad, I wouldn't even call her.... I'd probably just email her and ask her whether she still thinks it's appropriate to have her as your bridesmaid, or if she would prefer to decline given the circumstances.... then it's up to HER to make the decision, because apparently you are not as mad as to want her out of your wedding. So just ask her via email if you think she won't take your calls or something like that, and if she doesn't asnwer within reasonable time or declines, go find someone else!
2007-09-26 13:00:21 · answer #2 · answered by Lprod 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her there are some things you would like to amicably work out with her at her earliest convenience. Set a time and place, then try to amicably and diplomatically try work out the issue. If you don't think she's being reasonable or an argument ensues tell her that under the circumstances, you are no longer comfortable having her as your bridesmaid, and you hope she'll understand. It's nothing personal, but you just don't see eye-to-eye.
2007-09-26 12:53:43 · answer #3 · answered by Ms. X 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is a real friend, you will make up. If you think you really don't want to be friends with her anymore than just tell her you don't want her in your wedding. But seriously think about this, you can't tell her she's not in the wedding then make up and ask her to come back later and you probably will regret it.
2007-09-26 13:02:53 · answer #4 · answered by BTB2211 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Approach her and let her know that you ...
a- would like to patch things up and still have her in your wedding
b- are sorry but under the circumstances you no long wish to have her in your wedding as it would be very uncomfortable.
You have to decide what you really want and if your friendship is able to withstand this glitch.
Good luck!
2007-09-26 12:35:11 · answer #5 · answered by Barbia 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would try to talk to them one last time about it and if they refuse to talk to you about it then I would just look to replace them in the wedding. Having a cranky bridesmaid would not be very much fun anyway.
2007-09-26 13:17:12 · answer #6 · answered by indydst8 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You talk to the girl who is your BM, and ask her if she's still interested in being in your wedding. If not, find someone new, and maybe she just isn't the friend you though she was. Good thing to know.!
2007-09-26 12:51:20 · answer #7 · answered by melouofs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to neutral ground without the person who caused the problem and talk it out. If you can't save your friendship then I would tell her she's out of the wedding too.
2007-09-26 12:34:03 · answer #8 · answered by Cory C 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her like an adult and tell her that you are not in grade school anymore. If she is soooo offended at you it may be in your best interest to have her relinquish her job as a bridesmaid.
Hopefully, you can work it out and no one will need to be fired from their duties as bm.
2007-09-26 12:32:59 · answer #9 · answered by Wedding Planner 3 · 5⤊ 0⤋
be nice to her and ask her if she want to still be in the wedding and if she says no then there yo have it.
2007-09-26 12:34:20 · answer #10 · answered by The Living Night 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋