To judge people on their age when they are mothers, or are pregnant. I am a young mom and I have had so many people judge me on my age because I was 14 whenever I got pregnant with my daughter who is now 5 months old. I think young moms should be treated equal to mothers who are not teen moms.
Zhane Morie
Marley Reese 5 months 2w
http://www.geocities.com/zhanemorie/
2007-09-26 12:04:08 · 16 answers · asked by Marleys Mommy 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
absolutley not in any way.
No one should ever judge you on your age.
If you are a good responisble mom then you have no reason to be brought down by someone who doesn't know you and doesn't know how you feel about your child.
It doesn't take a genius to know what a baby need, it needs love, care, & nurishments and any human being can give these out.
2007-09-26 21:16:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
People judge because they feel that teenagers shouldn't be having sex and cannot provide for a child in the way a child needs. Some feel that sex outside of marriage is a sin and having a child outside a marriage is more of a sin.
You may be providing for your child just fine; but the fact of the matter is you are still a child yourself and your main concern needs to be on school not on raising a child.
I'm really not trying to judge here, I just want to give you an honest answer. I believe that if you are owning up to the care of your little girl then people need to back off and let things be as they are. All you can do is just makethe best of being a young mom and do whatever is right for your daughter
2007-09-26 19:32:31 · answer #2 · answered by ♥Mommy to 3 year old Jacob and baby on the way♥ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Historically women gave birth at these tender ages. Today's society prefers a young women have the benefit of at least a high school education before starting a family. What you cannot disagree with is that with age comes acquired knowledge and wisdom.For some that is and thereby the premise of your question. Is it fair? No. Does history show that women in their twenties have less problems parenting? Yes!! In my OPINION, no child under age 17 is ever a good candidate for being a parent. Just not enough wisdom and accumulated commonsense that raising a child requires.
2007-09-26 19:18:49 · answer #3 · answered by Wounded Duck 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it is great that you are such a loving and responsible mother. However, people will never quit judging you for having a child at such a young age.
You have not finished growing and maturing. Because of this, people will continue to judge you. Even when your daughter graduates high school, you will be judged for having her so early in life (even though you will be in your 30s by then).
Sounds like you are doing a great job with your little one, though! Kudos to you and good luck and best wishes to you and Marley in the future!
2007-09-27 01:46:52 · answer #4 · answered by mjh 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if you have truly earned the title of being a mom (and not just having a baby)....then you should be looked at that way. It will still take a while for other people to see it that way. Society is rough on young moms....but people have been having kids young for decades! All you can do is be the best mom possible for Marley....the rest doesn't really matter.
2007-09-26 19:09:54 · answer #5 · answered by alevans1234 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's not fair to judge people on when they had babies. My sister was 13 1/2 when she first got preg and everyone treated her differently too. Everyone was always saying "Oh Dinease made a BIG mistake" and I was like "You guys, she loves the baby. Stop ragging on her."
You don't let people get to you honey. My niece is now 2 years old and is as beautiful as ever. She has a great mom and dad and you are very special too.
Your baby is sooo cute! God bless!
2007-09-26 19:11:23 · answer #6 · answered by Jasmine 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think people should not be judged according to age, but by how well they own up to their actions. If you are being responsible and caring for your baby or are finding someone else who can, then you are equal to any other mother out there. You don't have to be a certain age to love or to be intelligent enough to know what another human being needs.
Congrats on your baby girl, it sounds like you havent heard it enough.
2007-09-26 19:13:27 · answer #7 · answered by Brown Eyed Girl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
children having children, is that what you would wont for your child?
mostly benign a parent at a young age you lose your childhood with this is why people may look down on you,
you not able o get a job yet your having a kid. this is a big deal of growing up for teen mom's and while most are good mom's they often regret it latter on when they understand what they had to give up
2007-09-26 19:11:55 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
i dont think its fair at all. those people have no right to judge you and have no ida what the circumstances are/were. you deserve a lot of credit for having your baby. thats veyr courageous; yo couldve taken the easy way out. my mom had me when she was 17. we have a great relationship. now shes married happily (to my real father haha) and they have two little boys as well as me. she also just got a masters at st joes university and has a successful job. your daughter is very lucky and will one day thank you!
2007-09-26 19:13:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
no, i dont think that it is right. i became a mother at 16 and i am a better mom than a lot of women could ever be! im married, live a stable life, have a perfectly healthy son and pregnant again and really, am much better off than most 30yr old moms.
2007-09-26 19:09:20 · answer #10 · answered by Kayla C 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋