I've been seeing a guy for a little over 3 mo. both of us have had our share of financial troubles, & both live with family. My sons & I live w/my parents & he's staying with his aunt & uncle. It appears that our relationship is really taking off, he's very active with my kids activities & I respect his time with his friends. We've discussed the future, our careers, our expectations out of life, etc.
However, one of our problems is "hooking up" as you can only imagine. We go out of town every 2-3 weeks just for a night alone. Today, he made mention that he's going to get a place of his own after the first of the year with his tax money. Then he said "unless things change before then", and when he said it, he had a little quirk to his voice & a cute grin on his face.
Am I reading too much into this, or do you think he's suggesting us getting a place together? If so, would I be out of line to suggest it or asking him to? I would have no objections to moving in together.
2007-09-26 11:22:41 · 3 answers · asked by Piper 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I don't know, but if you have kids, be VERY CAREFUL about moving them in with some guy you just met three months ago. I know you said he was considering getting a place at the first of next year... and maybe he does want to live together.
Meanwhile, step back and take a good, hard look at this person. I know you said you discussed the future, and your goals, etc... but i am here to tell you, my last two boyfriends and i did the same.. BOTH were lying out of their teeth and didn't tell me the truth about their lives, finances or feelings about living... and i was sucked in!
Friend of mine met a wonderful man.. and he and his two kids were constantly with her... at her home... they had a great time together, and he made all sorts of promises to her... She lost her job 4 months later, and he dumped her... so i guess he didn't think she was so great, after all.
It takes a good year (or more) to really get to know someone, and in this case, if it all blows up in your face, the kids will be deeply affected, as well.
Enjoy getting to know the guy, and be cautious... take care of YOU...
2007-09-26 11:30:47 · answer #1 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont assume just wait and see. Moving in together is a big deal especially with kids. Too many emotional attachments and if the relationship goes awry u have more than just your emotions to deal with. Wait and see how things go after the first year before making any plans to move in together. It would be way different if you were flying solo but you have passengers along for the ride.
2007-09-26 18:32:06 · answer #2 · answered by Monica B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait till he clearly mentions it to you.
2007-09-26 18:27:50 · answer #3 · answered by Leona 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋