My boyfriend loss his wife of 3 months 8 months ago. We have been together secretly for the past 3 weeks. Any advise on us making it official? We want to be open about it but there has been really alot of negetivity from her side of the family about the relationship and I really just wanted feedback. I never intended to fall in love with the guy. He's someone I knew from college but it just happened that way. We are both in our late 20's and entitled to love. I dont understand what the fuss is all about. They were only married for 2 months and they dont even have kids together.
2007-09-26 11:20:05 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The family will get over it, especially if they see both of you happy together. Do what you think is right for you.
2007-09-26 11:24:25 · answer #1 · answered by jennie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't know what the fuss is all about?
OK, here is what they say behind your back: "Can you believe he's dating that W###E. His wife is barly cold in the ground. I bet he was sheating on her."
Oh, and if it comes up, don't use that "They were only married for 2 months." line. Won't go over real well,
I REALLY think you need to look at this from the dead girl's families point of view. I don't know if you have ever lost someone, but it hurts. Really really bad.
They are going to resent you. They view your relationship as a betrayal.
That many not be right or fair, but that's how it is.
I would just try to avoid them. There is nothing you can do to win them over.
Also, for your sake, be careful. It is way too soon for a new relationship. It suld be you are just a "replacemnt". You may get dumped pretty soon.
You're in a tough spot, tread lightly.
2007-09-26 11:39:31 · answer #2 · answered by Joseph G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who cares what people say about your relationship..Just live in the moment. The only reason why her family is mad its b/c they think that he didnt really love or care about her. He should also be honoring and mourning her death out of respect.Something that her family is going through at the moment. So it just seems that he got over her a little to quick. I mean it all happen so fast right? So God has a plan and just go with the flow.Either way you are still going to keep dating him regardless of what people say or what advice we give you.
So like I said who cares what people say and move on. After a while they will eventually go away and stop saying things. And the relationship will continue right?
2007-09-26 11:28:14 · answer #3 · answered by Lil Miss Lis 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well its only been 8 months!! Maybe they think he is moving too quickly!! Do what feel right for both of you who cares what anyone else thinks!
2007-09-26 11:25:56 · answer #4 · answered by L 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Her family sounds as if they are control freaks...
You and the guy are adults... do as you please.. You are harming no one by starting a relationship. He doesn't have to answer to his former in-laws... or anyone else for that matter.
Yes you are right, you are entitled to love.
2007-09-26 11:24:34 · answer #5 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I see nothing objectionable about falling in love with a widower.
2007-09-26 11:24:33 · answer #6 · answered by Belen 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go with the flow
2007-09-26 11:23:31 · answer #7 · answered by therundown2k3 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't let others dictate to either of you how you should feel.
2007-09-26 11:22:52 · answer #8 · answered by Aiden 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋