Should I move in with my boyfriend?

Question

Okay, so I've been with my man a lil over 4 years now. I know it seems like a long time but we've gone through some bad times in our past and have made a lot of progress, i mean alot. When we 1st hooked up he moved away, not that far away maybe 30 min but i didnt have a car, so i was onlly going to see him when I got a ride. This made it hard for our relationship to be normal, not seeing or being w/ each other.To make a long story short b/c its long..He is very aware that I have alot of problems with my dad at home being overprotective, just down right evil and mean, and has caused alot of stress for me since we've been dating. My b/f likes my dad but hates the way he treats me, basically like a 12 yr old. Me and my b/f have a long way to go emotionally and even though I want to move in I dont want to jeopardize our relationship. I feel we should take it slow. The stress at home is unbearable but I bear it somehow. Should I move in or wait it out?? I mean we're both 22, no rush right?

Answer 1

Do whatever you want to do. You don't need our permission.

Answer 2

Look, don't ever make a big choice like moving in with a boyfriend because life at your parents isn't what you wish it to be.This will only cause things to progress to far for the wrong reason. I say you don't move in with him but yet spend more time with him there maybe for a while to see how it goes. And as far as your dad goes. You need to talk to him like an adult women, which you are. Its cool that your dad loves you and only wants to protect you,.But he needs to back off a bit and give you a chance to be an adult and handle your own life. Pull your dad Aside one day and say "Dad, can we talk for a minute?" Stand up for yourself in a adult, non threatening way and tell him how you feel and how the way he acts has been making you feel and how uncomfortable it makes you feel inside. Let him know that you feel he has raised a smart and wise girl and that you think he did a good job doing so, but its time that you took on more Independence when it comes to choices and needs.If he is a loving father, he will understand and get your point. As far a s the boyfriend. Take it slow. There is always time to move forward, but it always takes alot of time and pain to move backwards.If its worth it, it will happen and be good for both of you that much more.
Good luck!

Answer 3

No rush...remember parents are just trying to protect you from mistakes that could change your life forever. They only want what's best for you. U should stay with your parents until u can support yourself then do whatever feels right for you. Don't let your b/f pressure u into moving in w/ him and don't rush growing up.

Answer 4

No rush... enjoy this time you have with him... go out to get drinks and party together. Why pay rent when you don't have to? Lol. That's the way I think about it.

Answer 5

if you have to ask, and seem so undecided, then maybe it's not the right time to move in....

and why doesn't he come to see you? why do you have to "get a ride" to go see him?

i don't get it.

well, to each her own.. i just hope it works out well for you and your boyfriend and that you get good answers here//

Answer 6

I'd say go for it. You guys are both grown -ups and can make decisions for yourselves. Even if it doesn't work out it would be an experience.

Answer 7

I think you should move in, you can still keep it slow. I really dont think you need a lot of pressure on you, its not good for your health. If moving out will help you go for it.

Answer 8

if you love him and he loves you you can wait. if you feel you need to be out on your on . Find your on place and see how that work.

Answer 9

If you feel that it might be a good thing then give it a try if not then don't!

Answer 10

your obviously haign doubts if your asking a bunch of strangers... unless you're 100 percent sure its the right thing, don't do it!!!