is my mom physco??

Question

i know this isnt really none of my business but still..i think its a little creepy that she just found out that my sister smokes cigarettes and that my brother has done weed a few times and she hasnt done anything to them...she hasnt even punished them which i dont get...wouldnt you punish or at least beat the sh!t out of your child if you thought they were doing drugs and found out it was true...what should i do??shouid i just stay out of it??

Answer 1

maybe your mom did drugs in the past that she cant say anything because she did them in the past..or she just dont care

Answer 2

Unfortunately we cannot control our children. She should not condone what they do but truthfully as a parent, you can only do so much and then you have to let go on the faith you have done the best you could and they will make the right choices. Say she punishes your brother or sister; do you think they wouldn't sneak off behind her back and do it anyway? Most teenagers would do it just to rebel. Hopefully this is just a stage they are going through and I hope your mother did at least tell them what they are doing is wrong and they should stop. You should be very proud of yourself for knowing both of these things are wrong and it sounds as if you will be the one to make the right choices.

Answer 3

Depends on their age... I would never "beat the sh!t out" of a child no matter what, but I wouldn't be happy if my child was doing drugs. I've smoked and done weed, so I'd like to also think that I wouldn't be a hypocrite when I have to talk to my children about it... and I hope I'll be able to use my experience to maybe convince them not to even try either. But if its happened and my children are coming to me about this... I'm going to talk to them about it, but I won't get angry about it... Anger and fierce punishment do not solve problems like this... I think if you really have concerns, though, go to your mother and find out why she's acting the way she is and try to understand, or maybe give her your opinion.

Answer 4

I would say butt out..if you know it isnt your business than you shouldnt say anything she is raising you guys not you raising them..maybe your mom is going about it a different way all kids experiment with drugs and cigs as long as it doesnt become a problem there is nothing she can do about it i got caught smoking and got grounded and yelled at That doesnt prevent them from doing it all it does is make them more sneaky..you dont really know how she is planning on handling the situation but me as a parent i would rather know what my kids are doing than have them hide it from me Maybe she wants them to know that they can come to her with anything but kids tend to want to do things more when they get in trouble for it and know their parents dont approve but if she is playin it off then maybe that is her tactic you never know ..i think it also depends on the ages of you sis and bro she most likley experimented herself so maybe she doesnt feel she has the right to scold them depending on your age maybe you can ask her why

Answer 5

When I found out my son was smoking and experiementing with pot I did not beat the sh** out of him - I love him too much for that. I sat him down and discussed it and told him exactly what was going to happen if I found out that it didn't stop immediately. He was going to have consequences. As a brother, I feel that you should definitely express your feelings - it's your right as a member of the family. BUT, that's as far as it can go. I wish you luck!

Answer 6

I think maybe your mom could be thinking of ways to approach these situations. She may also be having a difficult time finding a way to "punish" them if she has done these things herself--in the past, or recently.

Answer 7

Um, being a passive parent does not make that parent a "psycho." You might want to look up the word.

There are many reasons she might have for being this way, you should talk to her if you are concerned.

1. she might be in denial
2. she might be afraid of saying something and acknowlodging it.
3. she might be trying to ignore it to see if it goes away.
4. she might not know what to do.
5. she might be afraid of pushing her kids away by being
6. she might feel like nothing she can do can change it--that kids just do what they are going to do.

Now, while I don't agree with her handle on the situation, I definitely think you should talk about how it makes you feel.

Answer 8

Thank her for the priveledge of a cellular telephone. And once you turn 18 bypass and get your guy or woman telephone. in case you have a 4.6 GPA and generic to each college, she might desire to not be to physco to have raised you. that is complicated desirous to have the administration and unable to get it. possibly you may ask her if there is way you may earn that new telephone.

Answer 9

I personally would punish them but a lot of times it makes it worse to punish teenagers.
She should lay ground rules, like not smoking unless she's around so she can regulate it.

Answer 10

You are their brother, so if your mom doesn't do anything you should do something about it.YES My parents would beat the **** put of me but don't do that to your siblings. Explain it to them that it is bad. They are old enough to know what is bad and wrong, so if they don't listen to you than stay out of it. Don't be violent.

Answer 11

Stay out of it ---- she may have ideas up her sleeve or not wanting to react in a wrong way......we (parents) give things thought, as a rule, prior to the punishment.