I found out today that my ex-boyfriend has been telling lies about me to his friend. He has been saying that we have a class together(when we don't) That I have a new boyfriend and have been rubbing it in his face(which i haven't) and saying that I called him a loser(which i have never done). I broke up with him at the end of june for lieing and some other things. What should i do? The person that told me all of this(one of his friends) said i shouldn't confront him, but i want to, but i also don't want to cause more conflict with my ex-boyfriend then i already have(we broke up on a bad note). Help me! What should I do??
2007-09-26 09:45:17 · 12 answers · asked by Jalana 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
What should you do? Nothing.
It is his problem not yours. This guy sounds like a pathological liar....if you know it, then other people are going to notice it too. So they will not believe anything he says. Besides why do you care what other people think? People are always going to have their own opinions of you regardless of what he says.
So do nothing besides telling the friend to not tell you anything more. Plus if you approached the ex, he would probably get upset and start spouting more lies. Approach this in an adult manner and it will all blow over.
2007-09-26 09:54:43 · answer #1 · answered by Red 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as the person your ex told these lies to, knows that they're lies, then it's fine. He's just going through a phase where he wants to blame everything on you. He's just jealous. Don't worry about him. If you do confront him, he will find reasons to talk to you, and make up more lies.
Stand strong, and don't care about what he says. He's not part of your life anymore.
Good luck!
2007-09-26 16:50:24 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the best thing to do is to arrange a time to talk to him...without his friends or yours, otherwise he'll try to act cool in front of them. Then calmly and nicely ask why he feels he need to tell lies about you...and that you don't appreciate him doing that and that you've never done that to him so why would he do it to you (unless you have done it to him then thats a different story) Dont mention who told you either because you wouldn't want to start conflict between him and whoever told you. Ask why he'd talk about you if he once cared for you. It might be because he is jelous that he cant have you so hes making rumours so that no one will want you. Tell him it needs to stop and if he is mature he will act grown up about it and just stop altogether because he knows that he's hurting someone he once cared about. If he starts acting immature about it all you have to do is just say i dont have time for ppl who dont know how to respect others and walk away. then just ignore him all together...get your friends to stop talking about it too...the reason ppl sometimes talk about others is because they want attention or they want to take the attention off of themselves...if you and your friends just stop aknowledging him altogether he will soon realize "wow i just she doesn't care anymore" and hopefully he'll stop...hope this helps
2007-09-26 16:57:51 · answer #3 · answered by Cass 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like his friend may be lying to you. It could be that his friend likes you and does not want him in the picture. This could be the reason that he does not want you to confront him. If you know the things his friend said to be true than leave him alone since you have already broken up. It sounds to me like you still have feeling for this guy.
2007-09-26 16:52:45 · answer #4 · answered by BOYD H 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely nothing. Guilty people are the ones who make a huge fuss over something and by making a fuss over it you will be giving the impression to others that what he says has some truth to it.
Act like it doesnt bother you, that is the only reason he did it in the 1st place was to be an jerk and make you mad. If it doesnt make you mad, it will backfire and cause him anger.
2007-09-26 16:49:14 · answer #5 · answered by Rick R , Super Duper Samurai 侍 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You broke up with him so he may justifiably think that you called him a loser because when you break up, you feel like one . He will find a new girl and all the drama will be over with.
2007-09-26 16:49:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
personally i think u should let it go. Do u still have feelings 4 him or something,cause if u dont it shouldn't bother u. maybe his friend is telling u these things because he likes u and trying to work his way in
2007-09-26 16:50:02 · answer #7 · answered by J J 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh my god this is your EX-BOYFRIEND you are talking about just ignore him! he does this because he's probably hurt that you dumped him, if it really bothers you and this is causing a big problem in your life (which i doubt) well confront him, but if not then just ignore him, he'll stop!!!
2007-09-26 16:50:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ignore him, all he's doing is proving that you did the right thing in breaking up with him. Let him get over it in his own immature way! By confronting him, you're doing what he wants and it's like he's won. Don't let him win, for your own sake!
2007-09-26 16:50:11 · answer #9 · answered by sazzie79 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to him personaly about it, don't be rude, don't yell in his face, don't attack him, just be calm and normal and if he makes a big deal out of it, just walk away.
2007-09-26 16:48:31 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋