That I will never measure up to someone's expections. I'm afraid to have a boyfriend because of what others will think. They'll probably say "Oh he is going out with that fat girl" and laugh and talk about me. I've never experienced having a boyfriend and having someone to like and hug/kiss while most by my age and grade have. I'm afraid of what others will think and if he will dump me. I know most of you will say that I need to have more self-confidence but sometimes I feel that I'm ugly and will grow up in this world all alone. I've pretty much been alone so far in my life, never really had any "real" friends in my life. What do I do????
2007-09-26 09:39:04 · 10 answers · asked by MSW2010 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think it's just a psychological thing right now. I know that I am beautiful, other people tell me so. However if I am why don't I get noticed by boys?
2007-09-26 10:16:10 · update #1
ok..listen...you are beautiful no matter what anyone tells you! people will always hate b/c they have nothing better to do w/their lives. you have to live for you and nobody else. don't sell yourself short. you have to love yourself first!! you dint need a boyfriend to feel complete. and when you do get a man, and he dumps you!! guess what its all part of life!!! you will get over it and move on!!! life is too short to be worrying about what other people think!! cheer up!!!
2007-09-26 09:51:53 · answer #1 · answered by ~I'm A Keepa ~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ur the only one who can make urself happy. U cant rely on a guy to do that for u b/c if u put all ur time and self into a guy, what do u do when he leaves u? I used to be the same way u are.....if u want ur life to change then change it. If u think ur fat then start gowen to the gym or running and stop eating so much junk. U need to stop caring what other ppl think so much. I'm guessing ur prolly like 14 or 15 and that mentality kinda comes with ur age group but as u grow up, u will realize that what others think isn't really that important.
2007-09-26 16:46:15 · answer #2 · answered by Abby Jo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are not alone in this. i am actually the same way. maybe not as bad i dnt kno. but i do feel like im ugly, and fat, and i do have real friends so were not like each other there. but i am the same way about the boyfriend thing. wat helps me is just asking my friends to just tell me the truth about wat they think about me. and if ur serious about it they wont lie, my friends will start laughing and saying "girl stop playin u no u aint fat and ugly". personally i think me and you could get a boyfriend if we just talked more and not be shy. i just cant help it though. whenever im not shy more people talk to me and i have a better time maybe you should try it too. good luck
2007-09-26 16:47:32 · answer #3 · answered by jamaican_babii 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Melenie W. Ditto dear, my problem is that I am shy ! The thing is, it is our inward being that matters most ! Having a kind and gentle heart and a forgiving soul that belongs to Jesus is eternal ! So called beautiful people count on themselves to achieve their goals. So just put your faith in Jesus and do the right thing and you will be fine !
2007-09-26 16:59:09 · answer #4 · answered by lonewolf 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask yourself this: Would you whether be accepted by the world? or Would you whether be accepted by yourself? You need to read the book GOD's Trophy Women by Jacqueline Jakes Please find this book. Love yourself for who you are or nobody will. Only follow Christ Jesus and live up to him. If you don't you never know the essence, worth, beauty inside and outside of you!!!
2007-09-26 19:38:23 · answer #5 · answered by KBLand25 J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You gotta stay positive. Just talk and be friendly with guys in your classes and stuff. Who cares what other people say about you, if they are jerks enough to make fun of you then why worry about what their opinions are. good luck
2007-09-26 16:48:25 · answer #6 · answered by Rickyxlnos 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just have to be confident and nice baby, anyone will want to date you. and his friends will like "his sweet gf"
'cause beleive me they're tired of seeing some bi tch that wants all her bf's attention all the time.
2007-09-26 16:43:17 · answer #7 · answered by Lacie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have the same problem, too...
Its so sick to feel like that!
and its hard to"be confident"
its easier said than done
2007-09-26 16:45:38 · answer #8 · answered by melissa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be true to yourself, when you meet someone that deserves you all will fall into place, don't rush, you have your whole life for boys!....
2007-09-26 16:44:32 · answer #9 · answered by Princess 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Formula to become beautiful-------
Your good looks + what and how you speak and conduct yourself – fear = Beauty
2007-09-27 01:54:43 · answer #10 · answered by ADS 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋