My sister and mother in-law have been driving me crazy to the point were i hate them and i want nothing to do with them. To my mother in-law i am the worst mother and wife to my sister in-law well she has called me every dirty word in the book even in front of my kids. I have decided that i will no longer have ne thing to do with them. Do u think this is wrong? They have put me through hell for the past 5 yrs. I cant take anymore. Oh and my husband doesnt care that they do this to me. Yea i know what a wonderful husband. WHAT DO I DO. HELP!!!! I dont know how much more of this i can take before i leave.
2007-09-26 09:34:49 · 9 answers · asked by Sheena F 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
the funny thing is that his sister is so dumbfounded that she askes him why i am still mad at her. How dumb can you be. It has been 6 months since i have talked to her or his mother and i have less stress in my life. But i just wait for a bomb to go off with them. Thats how it always goes. my husband thinks that if he sticks up for me that he is choosing me over them which he isnt its choosing whose in the right and who is in the wrong.
2007-09-26 09:47:15 · update #1
Thank you all for your responses so far i agree 100 percent.I'm not taking this abuse anymore and neither r my kids. But i have a big decision to make on wheather i should let my kids go to holidays at his mothers or not. His sister will be there. So i am unsure. What do u guys think. I love that i have people to vent to that understand me
2007-09-26 09:51:04 · update #2
Your sister in law knows why and is not dumb she is playing dumb in order to continue the abuse to you. I agree with you I would not be around then nor would my children as it would be a cold day in hell before someone bad mouth me in front of my kids in laws or not. As far as your husband goes he is the one who is allowing this to continue. This is his family, it is his JOB to either make peace and let them know that you are his wife and if they can't show you respect then he will see them when they can accept you with open arms. He says NOTHING, he dose NOTHING so they think he's ok with the way they treat you. He is showing them that he has little respect for you so why should they respect you.
I had a family member said something disrespectfull to my husband, I can assure you I got up and put them in there place real quick, my husband did not have to say anything and I can assue you it never happened again.
2007-09-27 03:05:15 · answer #1 · answered by Kat G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make it very apparent to your husband that if he does not speak to his mother and sister, that you will not let your children or yourself be around them. It is not write for them to call you names in front of your children, it hurts their feelings! Let him know if this is not stopped, then you'll have no choice but to cut all ties with them and maybe even with him! Don't take this, it's horrible how women turn on each other like that! Your kids don't need to witness that and nor do you deserve it!
2007-09-26 16:41:09 · answer #2 · answered by Chrystal 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You better put your foot down!! They don't make the payments on that house, don't let them run your life!!
Tell your husband what you are doing and that you need him to support you. If he don't then still don't welcome then back at your house anymore!!! Call the cops/police if they try to get in. That will show them you are not playing there silly head games. Don't sit around and take this abuse!!
Good Luck!
2007-09-26 16:46:11 · answer #3 · answered by blondieoftexas 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not good for your kids to see you disrespected that way. If you stay with hubby I would definitely not be around them or allow them to come to my house. You are right to protect your kids. You have some tough choices ahead, but you have to decide what you cannot live without and then make your decisions accordingly. Best of luck.
2007-09-26 16:45:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
They actually say that to you? That is just terrible. Yes, lose all contact unless they agree to keep it on a friendly basis. There is no reason for them to judge you that critically.
I am sure you are a great mother.
As for your husband, tell him to grow some balls and stick up for his wife!
Goodluck.
-ashummz05@yahoo.com
2007-09-26 16:46:46 · answer #5 · answered by Oops, did I say that? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him u wont associate with these low lifes and if he wants to thats his decision but ur not beringing ur kids around them. ur kids shoudlnt witness elderrs disrespecting u, that gives them the wrong examples of how to treat you. he needs to intervene on ur behalf and support ur decision.give him an ultimatum.
2007-09-26 16:43:53 · answer #6 · answered by spadezgurl22 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, you tell your husband that it's his job to PROTECT his children, and they can go for the holidays as long as he makes sure they don't cuss and disrespect HIM, THEM, or YOU. That's his job, if he's not up to the task, they aren't going.
2007-09-26 17:12:40 · answer #7 · answered by reddevilbloodymary 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do a search on SETTING PERSONAL BOUNDARIES, for one.
when we let people walk all over us once, they will continue to do it until we put a stop to it.
and severing ties is sometimes the only thing we can do.
take care.
2007-09-26 16:48:30 · answer #8 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do what i did and slam the door in their face, tell them they are not welcome in your home.
2007-09-26 16:40:20 · answer #9 · answered by Moe 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋