not to do that.. :(
he's pressing my keyboard and throwing a toy car at it, and climbing off and on the bed and spills the milk everywhere, i say "NO" He don't listen :(
i constantly say No.. He don't listen> :(
it's getting me pissed.. but i let go of the anger :) there's more to life then being angry. :D
but how does He learn??????
2007-09-26 09:33:16 · 15 answers · asked by Justin Kalkimer 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
He learns by watching adults. His actions mimic yours. Sooooooo, obviously you eat in bed and spend a great deal of time on the computer.
Give him an old keyboard to play with and purchase a training cup that doesn’t spill.
2007-09-26 09:58:26 · answer #1 · answered by Mr. John 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
How close to a year are we talking? 13 months is sooo different from 23 months :) He won't understand no for quite a while. He needs to be redirected and shown things that ARE ok for him to do: he likes to climb but you don't want him climbing on the bed so take him to a park or buy one of those small climber/slide combos. He's pressing your keyboard so buy him a toy computer or read him a book (he's likely doing this because all your attention is going to the computer, not him, so he's trying to think of ways to get your attention). He needs your love and attention right now!! Someone else suggested sitting in a corner - uh, no! Kids don't understand time outs this young and it should never be more than a minute for each year of age anyway (so certainly not 5 minutes for a 1 year old)! Keep in mind that ANY attention he gets from you (even if it's negative with you yelling NO) is a victory in his eyes - he gets what he wants because you look at him and talk to him - so he does it again. Try to give him positive attention and play with him and read to him!
2007-09-26 16:44:07 · answer #2 · answered by Connor and Logan's Mommy 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like the kiddo is bored and in need of some attention. Once a kid hears "No" a million times, it looses meaning, unless it is associated with a consequence. Time out works well. Also, if he is doing something you don't want him too...give him an option so he feels like he is in control. When he hits the keyboard say, "Do you want to play with this toy, or have a snack?" He feels like he has some control and then is redirected. Using the "option method" has literally changed our lives!
2007-09-26 16:44:37 · answer #3 · answered by Catherine G 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I have been a mom for 28 years to 4 kids (now ages 28, 26, 22, and 10) plus I have been a child care provider in my home for 20 years. A one year old is not developmentally ready to understand the meaning of the word "no". You can say it 100's of times until you are blue in the face and you may get the desired response from him one time. Children his age are learning an awful lot about the world around them, how things work, what happens when they do things, how people react, etc. If it is imperative for you to use the computer when he is awake and around you, then you should expect frequent interruptions. The buttons on the keyboard hold great fascination for a wide variety of ages, from infants all the way through adulthood! You might try giving him something else with buttons that he can push. Perhaps you have an old keyboard lying around for him to use when you type or you can pick one up cheap at resale shops. Throwing toys should never be permitted and you'll have to focus on that situation for quite awhile, it is common in the 1-3 year old age range. I generally take the toy and put it away while saying, "Toy cars are not for throwing. We'll put it away for awhile and play with it later." It is a good idea to take him outside and let him throw a ball around. Say, "You may not throw your toy car in the house, but you can throw this ball outside." Parents and care givers do a lot of repetition when it comes to instructions. Climbing on and off the bed is just too much fun for a one year old - what an accomplishment! He is probably pretty proud of the fact he can do that. If that isn't hurting anything, you may just want to let him do it as long as he isn't doing it in a fashion that is going to get him hurt (i.e. sliding off on his belly and not jumping off with both feet!). Spilled milk on the bed? Try giving him milk when he is in his high chair and in a sippy cup. The only way for him to learn is for you to teach him. Teaching a one year old requires a lot of focused attention, with a lot of consistency, repetition, patience, and humor thrown in. My personal experience is using the computer is best done when a one year old is sleeping. That's a great attitude regarding anger, it is best to let it go, especially with a one year old around. Notice his zest for life and his ability to find fun in the simplest thing. Kids are little for such a short time period and sometimes we have to re-focus our attention to them or they grow up before we know it.
2007-09-26 17:09:14 · answer #4 · answered by sevenofus 7 · 2⤊ 2⤋
He's one do not stand him in the corner.
He's spilling milk put it in a beaker with a non spill lid.
Throwing toys take them away give them back one at a time
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Getting in and out of bed I'm afraid that's a tough one I'm afraid you just have to keep at it keep putting him back into bed every time repetition its all that works I'm afraid.
He's one he's not going to listen you just have to show who's boss and keep letting go of the anger he'll piss you of enough when he's a teenager good luck.
2007-09-26 17:06:20 · answer #5 · answered by kooki 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
He's only 1. He is starting to feel his own power in the world. Typical one year old. If you keep saying no firmly and taking him away from your computer, he will get it, eventually.
Wait until he's a defiant teenager....
2007-09-26 16:37:48 · answer #6 · answered by G.V. 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
One word..... discipline. I know when alot of people hear the word "discipline" they automatically think "spanking". But that's not true. You could put him in time-out, or send him to his room, or take something he adores away from him until he learns. But you have to go thru it too. Don't just put him in time-out for a minute. Put him in time-out for a good while. Each time he stands up, you start over. If he keeps doing it, send him to his room, and close the door until he's more calm. When he is, go to his room and explain to him why you did that. Another reason, he probably gets more attention from you when he does something bad. Next time he does, pick him up and put him in his room without saying a word. It will take some practice but one day he'll think the way he's behaving is the wrong way to get attention and not the right way. Good luck!!!
2007-09-26 16:43:29 · answer #7 · answered by Caligirl82 2 · 1⤊ 5⤋
well wen he comes near the comp you just move him away and tell him no everytime he does it and soon he should learn not to go near it
To the answer above me he shouldnt stand in the coner for 5 mins hes only 1 if he was to stand in the coner it would be for 1 min not 5
2007-09-26 16:37:37 · answer #8 · answered by kirsty 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
redirect him . you and he need to leave that room have a one minute time out and then try again and sont use your pc around him a light pop on the hand should work to and give him a sippy cup that doesnt leak
1 minute per year of life hes one so one minute
2007-09-26 16:39:37 · answer #9 · answered by kleighs mommy 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Discipline him. Pick him up and swat his hand. If he fights hold him tightly in your lap and when he calms down give him a pat on the back and put him in a baby-proof room with some toys. Don't stand back and watch and yell. Show him what's right and wrong, he'll thank you later.
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2007-09-26 16:43:29 · answer #10 · answered by ♥Reese is Blessed♥ 2 · 1⤊ 3⤋