My guy and I want to try new things in bed and one is anal. I've never done that before and he's a lot larger than average. What are tips or helpful ways so it wont hurt for someone who's never done it before?! Please give me mature answers...
2007-09-26 09:28:40 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
First off, use lots of lubrication. Also, make sure you are really aroused before trying it. Make sure he enters you slowly. I have always found it easiest to lay on my back and have my husband enter me like that. You will just have to experiment and see what works best for you. They do have stuff on the market(anal ease is one) that helps desensitize you so there is no pain as well.
2007-09-26 09:35:01 · answer #1 · answered by AsianPersuasion :) 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you really wanna experience anal sex. Lie on your side, facing away from him, and tell him to lie behind you. Have him put on a condom and then use some type of lube and make sure its one that won't weakin the condom, such as Vaseline. Take you time, talk to him, while you slowly ease back on his dick. Take a little at a time, less than half an ich if necessary, and do not move back farther until your anus has adjusted and relaxed with him inside you. The fisrt time he doesn't have to put it all in. Just tell him not to make any moves and allow hyou to do it untill you have taken all that you can bear. Then tell him to sssslowly start moving in and out. This is a good way to do it the first time because you are in control. After that, if you liked it, try it again, and eventually he will be able to please your anus the same way he plaeses your pu$&y. However, if you don't enjoy it, tell him thanx for the experience but its just not for you. =P
.:*:. Yup, its broken.:*:.
ooh and choals lol like u said it stung baby oral gel tht stuff helps numb it
2007-09-26 16:45:42 · answer #2 · answered by ♥Miss'nHim♥ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've heard and read that the best way to start is to slowly work your way toward your goal. If he just slams it in it will hurt you and may scare you off entirely. What he needs to do is to start off with using his fingers first with some type of lube and work his way up. He's got to have you as relaxed and at ease as possible too. There are toy sets that are made specifically for this type of thing that you can look into to help train yourself to work up to the real thing. Only try it when your comfortable and tell him to be as gentle as possible. I've heard and read that it can be very pleasurable for the woman as it is for the man. You should make sure he uses a condom-IMO but if he doesn't then he needs to clean himself really good if you wanna go back to the regular thang after-wards cause you don't want an infection. You can look for more info on the net or your local sex novelty store. Have fun and be safe!
2007-09-26 16:45:06 · answer #3 · answered by jose 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Actually lube made it worse for me. It stung!!! Unless there is a numbing lube out there, in which I was unable to find. It will hurt!! But the biggest thing to remember is to just put it in. Not like the other sex where he puts it in a little and then pulls out and what not. Don't do that. After u get it all the way in it doesn't hurt nearly as much. It's worth a try at least. if it hurts too much u can back out and try again another time.
You go girl!
2007-09-26 16:48:21 · answer #4 · answered by Fancy Pants 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First
Congrats on being willing to be the girl who get nailed in the can...That's a big step.
Second
Remember to drink some "go lightly" or other such concoction so your "chocolate starfish" is nice and clean (don't want your guy swabbing the poop deck)
Third
LUBE LUBE LUBE!!!!
And Finally
Think happy thought because it is going to hurt like hell!
oh and p.s. this might be a story that "auntie" avoids telling Alyssa...
2007-09-26 16:36:25 · answer #5 · answered by SALMON 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi A
I have done many things with my live in and that subject is one of them. We did anything and everything you can think of and we had many different toys. She wanted to try anal and i agreeded.First we used one of the many toys and bought condoms and lube. We would have oral and i would use that on her anus. Finally as she realxed we knew were ready to try it. Use lube and ask him to wear a condom at first once you relax he can take it off.
2007-09-26 18:22:50 · answer #6 · answered by ho8er2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its going to be hurt for the first time. Its a normal thing for a first timer. But don't worry its going to hurt once.. or maybe twice. You get use to it.
The best way to less the pain you may use lubricant to help you. Maybe you want to find a condom also. Just in case..~
And good luck!!..~
2007-09-26 16:40:32 · answer #7 · answered by kesuma_dewi87 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lots of lube. Can try a finger first, something small. Just take it slow too
2007-09-26 16:33:34 · answer #8 · answered by boredatwork 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try laying on the edge of your bed and cross your legs at your ankles. I don't know why but it takes some of the tension off. Also ky.
2007-09-26 16:36:45 · answer #9 · answered by Pinky 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ive don it befor it hurts like a ***** you have to let him (as nasty as it sounds) finger your *** so it can loosen you up. then put some lubrication on his dick and your a$$ hole. tell him to go SLOWLY AS POSSIBLE couse if he goes to hard it will rip you. and if it doesnt rip you your *** hole will be buning like hell. it will hurt the first few times but youll get ust to it
2007-09-26 16:45:17 · answer #10 · answered by **prIncEsS gIrL*** 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋