I'm a VERY honest person I tell someone the truth even if they don't want to hear it, but they need to, everyone needs to know the truth. some of them get offended but they always thank me later. that's what I would want ppl to do for me, I do that for them.
I've been made the villian and victimized for telling the truth when asked. but it's worth it honesty's the "only word". I won't do sombody something if I wouldn't be cool or understandible for the consequenses of my actions if they did the same, I would not ask a favor that I wouldn't do it for them, the golden rule.
but most ppl want to sugar coat and tell "white lies" to avoid and hide the unpleasant truth like cowards, but you can't runnaway from the truth..why can't most ppl do the same for me even when I beg them to they don't and I can easily tell is someone's lying. but does anyone have ideas of what I should do? does anyone agree? if you tell white lies why, tell me if I changed your mind?
2007-09-26 09:14:07 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
I know how to be tactful so don't make me out to be some *****, if they don't want to know the truth why in the hell do they ask, fishing for compliment want to get they're ears ticked?
2007-09-26 09:29:33 · update #1
Telling the truth is honorable BUT sometimes it's not your place to tell it. You might be correct, and the person might be in denial about an issue, but for YOU to decide that it's YOUR job to deliver said truth is just wrong. If you are asked a question, answer it truthfully. If I can't honestly answer a important question, I'll say I'd rather not answer. But for insignificant stuff, white lies are fine on occassion- life doesn't always need to be brutally honest. Does my new hair cut look good? Saying no even if you mean it serves no purpose but to hurt feelings- since in some cases it can't be undone- so a "yeah, it brings out your eyes" is a white lie and the world doesn't shatter and her feelings are spared.
2007-09-26 09:42:02 · answer #1 · answered by GEEGEE 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I am like you I tell it like it is! and yes people do not like it ! remember that if we tell the truth in a few years from now we could be asked the very same question and the reply will still be the same because we didn't lie from the very beginning. People that have the tendency of lying cannot recall the lie that they told in the past.
I told someone that I find sugar coating a waste of time , I rather get to the point without wasting time .
I rather deal with a person like you because I know exactly how they feel ,and when I promise something I always come trough unless something happens to me and doesn't permit me for doing so .
Personally I would prefer that they would tell me the truth rather then lie to my face.,but unfortunately we cannot have our way!
This is for Rick,
Sorry but that is not the way that I come across when I tell someone the truth first of all I think before I say something and then I have and use diplomacy !
2007-09-26 09:30:37 · answer #2 · answered by bornfree 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is honesty always best?
Supposed you are being chased by a crazed killer with a chainsaw. You manage to hide, and the killer asks me where you are.
Should I tell him the truth?
And you probably wouldn't want to hear the truth about yourself. You might be surprised what people really think about you.
Suppose you cooked someone dinner, really worked your heart out, but it didn't come out right. Do you want to be told "This is awful," even if it's true?
I might not like your clothes, your perfume, the color of your car, even your name. Do you want to hear the truth every time, or would you rather I "sugar coated" the truth, with a "white lie?"
If you'd really rather hear the truth all the time, then you are a very rare person indeed.
By the way, you are a horrible speller, your grammar leaves a lot to be desired, and you misuse punctuation, while largely ignoring capital letters. And typing "ppl" instead of "people" may be acceptable when text messaging, but it's entirely inappropriate in other forums. I guess you must be stupid, or lazy, or maybe you flunked out of grade school.
Sorry, I'm just trying to prove a point. Hurts, doesn't it?
2007-09-26 09:34:36 · answer #3 · answered by Rick K 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
So you NEVER would lie?
Here's a scenario... Your 14 year old daughter is fat and homely.
She comes home crying because someone called her fat and ugly. You're gonna tell her, "Sorry honey, but the truth hurts. You ARE fat and ugly"?
Another... A pregnant woman, not one of those beautiful ones, one that's had a hard way to go and shows it, sits down and says, "I look so awful. Fat, bloated, pale." You're gonna say, "Yep you sure do look awful"?
Little white lies are harmless, used to keep from hurting someone's feelings. Why would you want to hurt someone if you could tell a harmless fib?
Do you HONESTLY believe the tooth fairy, easter bunny, and Santa are harmful lies made up by "cowards"?
How's this? Your spelling is bad, your grammar horrible, you write like a 3rd grader. Do you feel better now?
**So, to prove a point you'd hurt a friend? You ARE a b***h.. you did that, not us.
2007-09-26 12:43:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honesty is a good character trait to have, but being brutally honest if it hurts others peoples feeling is not necessarily the best way to go about it.
Having tact and empathy for people will get you further than being the one who bears the truth.
2007-09-26 09:31:41 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't ever ask this question of a politician. I can sympathize but no matter what some people 'need' it is also not wise to antagonize people who don't want to hear the 'truth'. Nor, in my opinion, is it smart. You can very easily get yourself into major trouble telling 'people' what they don't want to hear. Especially in this day and age. You see and hear what happens to normal people every day in this country, why jeopardize yourself by telling all and sundry what their faults are if they don't want to hear them. If some one asked you to tell them what you 'think' then it would be okay to rate their falsehoods against the truth, but very few people want to be told that fact.
2007-09-26 09:22:44 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is an old saying "Being Honest to a Fault". If someone asks for you honest opinion, then give it. You should never give anyone unsolicited advise or comments even if you are being truthful, as sometimes feelings get hurt.
2007-09-26 09:23:52 · answer #7 · answered by Susan M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-20 01:46:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋