Okay, here is the cycle:
I date and date and date. Usually 3-5 guys at one time. I do this because one just never seem sto be enough and because I don't really have a "type". Now don't get me wrong: I don't sleep with 3-5 guys...just date.
During the dating process, I love it. I think it's fun, exciting, interesting and on and on. But then, wham! I get sick of it. I want to settle down. So, the next guy that comes around that I am somewhat interested in that wants to get serious, it happes. But after about a year or so, it fizzles out and 2 weeks after the break-up I've got 4 guys calling me again.
This has been going on for about 3 years now. My last relationship ended in late July and already I couldn't even tell you how many dates I have been on, and there's a constant 3 that I go out with regularly.
I am very happy with myself, I have GREAT girlfriends, I love my life...so why do I do this? How do I stop? Not sure if I want to stop, though...Its fun!
2007-09-26 07:38:08 · 11 answers · asked by meggybucks1 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm not seeing a problem here. I think everybody goes through this cycle, perhaps with less intensity and volume if you know what I mean. But the cycles seem normal to me.
Usually for people I've known, the cycle stops when they've found the one. Let me see, the last guy who found the cycle stopper when he was...56 I think.
Keep having fun while you're at it. :-)
2007-09-26 07:47:04 · answer #1 · answered by Cat_Man 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nothing wrong with dating lots of people as long as they figure it is more about fun and friendship and not romance. And that might be your natural state. It is odd that you say you get bored with it. Do you feel a longing for closeness that only a one-person relationship brings? That to me signals that the dating is shallow...like I said, just for fun. And that is not a problem.
Do not "force" yourself to find a single friend or romance when it does not really exist.
We see girls who are 12, 13, 14 in here trying to act what they think is grown up by having a boyfriend who they swear is the lover of their life. They do not know what they are talking about. You have a much better grip on your feelings and should stay loose and do not feel constrained by what others do (find a guy and a week later they flip head over heals in "lust").
2007-09-26 14:46:56 · answer #2 · answered by Wolfithius 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Until the find your significant other I would not worry about breaking the cycle. It sounds as tho you have not met him yet. When you do meet him you will know & only then will you stop playing the field. In the mean time don't worry about it...you seem to be having a good time & you are happy with your life so don't worry. You are doing the right thing for you. You will know when the person you are supposed to be with is the right person. Have fun.
2007-09-26 20:30:38 · answer #3 · answered by simplesimon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you have to stop? Why can't you enjoy the stage you're in right now? When you are truly ready to settle down, you will...I was never ready for any serious relationships until I hit 30, then I felt I'd had enough of casual dating, and decided to move on to something more substantial.
2007-09-26 14:42:39 · answer #4 · answered by melouofs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you enjoy it, then why worry about stopping? When someone comes along that can keep your attention long term, you'll stop...until then date whomever and however many you like (as long as they know you are dating multiples).
Nothing wrong at all with what you are doing...no reason to settle down until you meet someone you know you want to be with for a while, or unless you decide that you're fine flying solo indefinitely. âº
2007-09-26 14:42:31 · answer #5 · answered by . 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't stop.
Free meals and movies, don't knock it. You've got the long end of the stick. Maybe someone amazing will come along if you keep it up.
You aren't sleeping with all of them so there isn't much risk. There is nothing wrong with being thorough in your search for companionship.
2007-09-26 14:42:49 · answer #6 · answered by Erad 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
im a male and i dont see a problem based on the way you explained it.but im smart enough to know its not going as smooth as your explaining it or you wouldnt be asking for help in breaking the cycle.you first need to be honest about it
2007-09-26 14:46:45 · answer #7 · answered by benny g 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like subconsciously you are more into the thrill of the hunt instead of being with one person exclusively.
2007-09-26 14:42:25 · answer #8 · answered by grisgris100 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you answered your own question. Maybe you don't want to really stop. It is hard to find one man who satisfies everything that as a woman we are looking for. When you meet "Mr Right" you WILL KNOW!!!!
2007-09-26 14:41:34 · answer #9 · answered by bluegirl63065 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
your in love with the chase
2007-09-26 14:41:33 · answer #10 · answered by renegadechef9_0 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋