My brother in law is going through a custody battle with his daughter , he currently has custody of her and is not letting the mom see her . His sister is driving me nuts , She acts like she is the babies mom , she tells people in public that she is her mom , she takes pictures of her , her boyfriend and the baby and puts them everywhere . She even stated to me multiple times that she should have custody of the baby . She even taught the baby to call her mama . and to make the situation worse Im 4 months pregnant and she says all the time " I have the best baby in the world " OR " My baby is beautiful " . Everyone in the family sees what is going on but doesnt say anything and just lets her do what she wants , its gotten to the point where I dont want her to be anywhere near my baby because she is just going to try and make it a competiton or act like she is better than me . Any advice
2007-09-26 07:26:13 · 13 answers · asked by applesauce 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I have a sister in law like that! They are crazy.... I stay FAR AWAY from her... I don't speak with her because most of the time I want to punch her... I never have but that's how angry she makes me!Once I even caught her telling people that she is my kid's mother!!! I yelled at her and banned her from my kids... Some say that's harsh, but I don't need my kids around that Crazy lady...Have you talked to your brother in law about it? What does he think? She has NO right to the child and needs to stay away and stop confusing the poor baby!
2007-09-26 07:43:36 · answer #1 · answered by Mommyof2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the situation is really going to have the baby screwed up. She already has a mom and she don't need someone to pretend they are there mom regardless of who is taking care of this baby. If she wants to play the world's greatest aunt than that's fine but she don't need to let the baby think that she is her mom and later find out it ain't true and that everyone is lying to her and she will be really upset. Not to mention her explaining her aunt is her mommy. Something just don't sound right there. I wouldn't worry about who is more beautiful god created both babies and they will be special in there own ways. I wish you Lot's of luck and the best with your soon to be lil one.
2007-09-26 07:49:49 · answer #2 · answered by ~~Just me~~ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just because she didn't physically give birth to this baby doesn't mean she can't feel like the baby is hers, especially if she is the one doing most of the care-taking when your brother-in-law is at work, etc. She may also have some issues, such as jealousy at not having children of her own yet, and her basic biological desire to have children may be causing her to act irrationally about "her baby," who is really her niece. My advice is, don't let it bug you. If the rest of your family sees what's going on with her, they will pay her no mind. And if she really tries to start a competition between your baby (when it gets here) and her baby, everyone will just act like she's crazy (like people should ALWAYS do with people who try to pit babies against one another, LOL) and give BOTH babies the love and attention they deserve. Have a good day (and no heavy lifting! LOL)
2007-09-26 07:32:49 · answer #3 · answered by fizzygurrl1980 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
weird...don't blame you there. i know you can't just completely cut her out of your life but the way i would handle it is IF she becomes competitive or acts like she is better than you just be a biitch to her. Seriously, point out the fact that the child is NOT even her's so what's the deal. Also, if she slips AT ALL in anything she is doing with the child, which its bound to happen, just rub it in every chance you get. Make snide comments about. Basically, make it so that she doesn't even want to come around you and your child period. That's the way to solve that problem. I know it sounds mean...*shrug* but the hell are you going to do....let it eat at you or are you gonna stand up for yourself and for you child. Gotta have some back bone girl.
Good Luck!
2007-09-26 07:32:45 · answer #4 · answered by Hey U, Yeah U..Get over here 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ignore her. She has no legal claims on her brother's or anyone else's children. Perhaps she is unable to have children of her own, so she "adopts" everyone else's as hers. The woman probably needs counseling, so she can stop living vicariously through others. If she's married, encourage her to legally adopt or have a child or her own. If she's single, fix her up with a likely prospect (that is, if he could stand her), and maybe that will take her mind off other people's kids.
2007-09-26 07:33:04 · answer #5 · answered by gldjns 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would not care what the family thought of me in this. I would confront the psycho and tell her off. Then I would tell the daddy legally he cannot keep the mother of the baby from seeing her child unless the court strips her rights away. His sister has no right to the child period. I would contact the mother of the child and her lawyer and inform them of the psycho sister so they can use it in court. I would even testify-because psycho sister is going to harm that poor baby emotionally in a major way. Something needs to be done and it will have to be the real mother and her lawyer with your information to get it done.
2007-09-26 07:33:32 · answer #6 · answered by Stefbear 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
woh ya what a nutty bin doesn't the father say anything to her? I would definetly never let my baby be around her!! Can she have her own kids or what? I would be seriously worried if I were the girls father!
2007-09-26 07:43:14 · answer #7 · answered by ღKrissyღ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your brother this is another person that he needs to not let in his life. Tell him you're running away from the mental case and is he going to follow you?
2007-09-26 08:11:25 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
definitly avoid that person as much as u can. And if she tries to make a competition let her. Just dont show any feelings for it and she'll feel ignore and stopped after awhile.
2007-09-26 07:30:27 · answer #9 · answered by 9ball 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stay away from the nutcase.
2007-09-26 07:28:26 · answer #10 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋