What is the ettiquette of sending a widow a wedding invitation...?

Question

Do I mail is as Mrs. or Ms. or Miss?

ANyone know? :) thanks in advance

by the way the woman is my grandmother

Answer 1

You use Mrs.

Answer 2

Since they told you in advance that they wouldn't be coming, I don't think it's unreasonable that you didn't send an invitation. After we sent out save-the-dates, a couple people sent us notes saying they would be unable to make it, so we didn't send them invitiations. Have you sent out announcements? If not, you may want to think about it. We're having a very small, intimate wedding, so there were many people we couldn't invite. We ordered announcements in a similar pattern to our invites, and after the wedding we will send them to people we couldn't invite. We didn't send everyone invitations because many people feel if they got an invitation, they are obligated to send a gift. Also, everyone who gets an invitation is, in fact, invited to come. At our small 40 person wedding, if we invited 20 or 30 people that we figured wouldn't be coming, and therefore it didn't matter, what would we do when 60 or 70 people arrived? You can't exactly turn away an invited guest. If receiving an invitation was such an important point to them, perhaps they should have waited to get an invitation, and then declined afterwards. If I tell a host in advance that I won't be able to attend a function, I certainly don't expect that they should send me an invitation. Perhaps call them and talk to them. Try not to let it upset you. I don't think you did anything rude or out-of-order.

Answer 3

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What is the ettiquette of sending a widow a wedding invitation...?
Do I mail is as Mrs. or Ms. or Miss?

ANyone know? :) thanks in advance

by the way the woman is my grandmother

Answer 4

Either Mrs or Ms but not Miss. Click on the link for more notes.

Widow or separated woman -
Mrs. John Miller
Mrs. Audrey Miller
Ms. Audrey Miller

Divorced Woman -
Ms. Audrey Miller
Mrs. Audrey Miller
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Answer 5

most invitations have 2 envelopes, the "outside" envelope with the name and address, then the inside envelope with just the persons name.

for a widow the outside envelope should read Mrs. John Doe and the inside envelope should read Mrs. Doe, or Grandma Doe.

this site had more info on addressing wedding invitation envelopes: http://www.weddingsbytanya.com/Q&A/Addressing%20Invitations.htm

Answer 6

She is still Mrs Whatever unless she has gone to court to get back her maiden name or has made it known that she wants to use the Ms instead.

You would address the invitation to Mrs. Joan Doe and not Mrs John Doe, because her husband is no longer alive, so you use her first name and not his.

Answer 7

If her husbands name was Mr. John Doe, you address the invite Mrs. John Doe. This is the correct way to do it.

Answer 8

A widow (husband died 2-3 years ago) aunt was invited as "Mrs. Lastname and Family".

Answer 9

I'm guessing Ms. but I'm not sure. If it's Grandma I doubt she'd mind Mrs. or Ms. I am certain though that it is not Miss as that's a unmarried woman.

Answer 10

Use Mrs. It's not like she intentionally wanted to be separated from her husband (and thus called a Ms.) Give her the respect a married woman deserves

Answer 11

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I wouldn't worry about it, they said they couldn't come, you needed the invite and now they're being petty. If they're your friends I would consider losing their number, because you don't need toxic people like that in your life.