My wedding is 2 months away and I invited a neigbor to my wedding.Well since then she has talked about me and then i confronted her and she said I am not talking about your wedding because no one would be interested in it! So how do I say NO your not invited throw you invitation out!!
2007-09-26 06:48:47 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I wouldn't. Be classy, and don't continue the bad blood. Maybe you can take some petty satisfaction in seating her next to somebody you know will annoy her, but she probably won't show up anyway. It's your big day, forget about her, and congrats!
2007-09-26 07:14:27 · answer #1 · answered by Dose of Reality 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
To be honest, it sounds like she probably wouldn't show up. I don't know why she started putting down your wedding, but it's obvious she has personal issues with you (jealousy?) or thinks your wedding is not "good enough" for her.
If she has any intelligence, I can't see why'd she'd go to a wedding where she'd be unhappy and unwelcome.
Invite her over and first find out the truth. Don't forget that word of mouth info is like a big game of telephone. Maybe she really didn't say anything that was meant to sound bad, and was offended when you "confronted" her.
If you DO think she has been saying things, and doesn't seem to be positive about your big day, then simply say that you hate to tell her this, but due to rising costs, you and your fiance have had to scale back the wedding to close friends and immediate family only. And leave it at that.
That actually has happened before, when someone is laid off, etc. She doesn't need to know the details and if she is rude enough to ask you can call her on it.
Bottom line: You need to sit down and talk with her directly in a *non-confrontational* manor.
Good luck!
2007-09-26 07:01:24 · answer #2 · answered by reginachick22 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Calm down and stop jumping to conclusions. I know it might be hard to believe but outside of you and your familyand friends no one is interested in your wedding,not really. How do you know what the neighbor was talking about. It the row was a big as you seem to think then good manners would dictate that the neighbor just not attend. It would be the very height of bad manners to try to uninvite someone with out far more provication than you describe here. Do not be so petty. If you are going to move you will not encounter this person again so what does it matter, and if you are not going to be moving then this person is going to remain your neighbor and it is better not to escalate any problems with people you will have to see on a daily basis for a long time to come.
2007-09-26 07:10:42 · answer #3 · answered by CindyLu 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well personally you should say it like this: NO you're no longer invited to my wedding! So if you'd be so kind & generous as to throw the invitation out that would help so much!! You should never invite someone to your wedding who you feel is an enemy or a threat!!
2007-09-26 08:41:46 · answer #4 · answered by Kash 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not very gracefully. Maybe there's some reason you don't know about that she doesn't like wedding talk. Are you sure she 'talked about you' and in what context? She was probably being defensive that you had the neve to confront her.
That could turn an uncomfortable situation into an all out war, and no one needs that, especially when you're getting married.
If she doesn't want to come, she wont. I'd let it ride and enjoy your wedding.
2007-09-26 07:44:28 · answer #5 · answered by Asked and Answered 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've got 2 months to snub the bi*ch. Don't talk to her, look at her, or answer her if she talks to you. And let mutual friends know she in uninvited. She'll get the hint soon enough and you don't have to contact her. If you feel you must make a formal extraction of the invitation, drop her a note, but not in her door slot, mail it even though you live next to each other.
Write something like, "Due to the circimstances you'll understand we don't expect to see you on our special day".
Sincerely, Sue
2007-09-26 12:07:05 · answer #6 · answered by Gr8estluv 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This isn't the 5th grade. Once you invite someone, you don't uninvite them, (unless they commit a crime in the interim and are dangerous to your guests.) And none of these passive-aggressive moves either, such as seating her at a table with someone who is annoying. If you're mature enough to get married, you're mature enough to take the high road.
2007-09-26 07:30:20 · answer #7 · answered by Ms. X 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can give her a call, or go by her house and talk to her in person and let her know :
"Unfortunately my husband to be and I are unable to fully extend an invitation out to our wedding being that we don't seem to be on the best terms, hopefully someday we will be able to get past these differences and become friends again."
2007-09-26 07:04:39 · answer #8 · answered by cherriwaves 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Don't uninvite someone. That just makes you look bad. Instead, keep the invitation open just to spite her. It will make her look bad whenever she said she would come but then skipped out.
2007-09-26 07:09:46 · answer #9 · answered by theewokprincess 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
What is your major malfunction? Other people are not interested in your wedding, unless they are a guest. Its not a slap in your face; its just that no one is interested in anyones wedding if they dont know the person.
Dont revoke the invite. Its so petty. But on the other hand, you might be sparing your neighbor the pain of going. So, sure, slip an un-invite in her mailbox! You go girl!
2007-09-26 07:00:19 · answer #10 · answered by fizzy stuff 7 · 4⤊ 3⤋