he is abusing me but i want my mom to be happy and she has never been so happy that she is married to some one that she loves so much
2007-09-26 06:39:38 · 50 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Putting his hands on you? As in sexually or physically?
Neither is acceptable. If it's sexual, you should report it.
If it's physical, tell your mother (or father).
Your mother's first obligation is to you.
2007-09-26 06:43:29 · answer #1 · answered by Michael K 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
this is a tough one to answer and I really feel sorry for your situation. the good news is you have the power to do something about it.
by putting his hands on you, I will assume you mean in inappropriate ways
this is not acceptable!! however, you first need to make sure that he knows that he's doing something wrong. if he's hugging you or being physically inappropriate
tell him in no uncertain terms that you feel uncomfortable when he touches you in certain ways and he needs to stop.
do you have a clergy member or some unbiased person that you can talk to or maybe mediate? you can say that you appreciate how happy he has made your mom but that you are not going to allow this to continue. it's your life.
Please note-if you've established that he knows what he's doing is wrong and still continues, he is a committing a crime and someone must be made aware of this. call the police. get someone from child services over there. talk to a teacher.
don't let him get away with it.
good luck
2007-09-26 06:56:17 · answer #2 · answered by CGAA72 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. Tell your mother--your safety should come before her happiness. Your safety is a physical state and affects you physically, whereas her happiness is a emotional state that she made up her mind to be in.
2. If that doesn't work, go to the police station and report this.
I know the two things I just told you will require some guts, but it's the only thing you can do if you are serious about getting out of this situation. I wish I could offer emotional support, but all I can do is clear your head a little bit for you. Good luck. God bless.
2007-09-26 06:45:35 · answer #3 · answered by wizball 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's nice that you want your mom to be happy, but she's going to be devastated by this pedophile. You need to tell your stepdad if he doesn't keep his hands off you, you WILL tell your mother and then do it. In the meantime, you need to tell the school counselor, a grandparent, or any other adult in whom you have trust. This is NOT okay. I don't care how happy he seems to be making your mother. And think of it this way: it's probably not the first time he's done something like this and it won't be the last if you don't put a stop to it. TELL SOMEONE!
2007-09-26 06:45:09 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In putting his hands on you do you mean physically or sexually? Does your mother know anything about all of this? You can try by telling your stepdad that if he doesn't stop, you will tell your mom. She might be so much in love with him that she sees no flaw. If that is the case, then you would have no other choice but to go to DSS and tell a child protective worker. YOu may not want to do that either. Would it be possible to get up a "posse" of your male friends and have them kick his sorry a**? With the right guys, that could prove to be most effective! Soprano style!
2007-09-26 06:51:00 · answer #5 · answered by froggsfriend 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your moms only happy because she thinks hes a good man. But, no good man would ever betray his wife or step daughter for that matter. If you mom really knew how he acts, she'd never of married him. Every moment from here on out he disrespects your mom and you. Tell your mom immediatly. Then the both of you together call the police and report to them whats happening.
2007-09-26 06:45:33 · answer #6 · answered by Jason 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My dear little lady just because he makes your mom happy doesnt mean you are his play toy. You need to tell your mom or someone else this isnt right. He is married to your mom hes not married to you and should not be touching you at all. Mom will be happy no matter what I think shed rather not have her kid abused by her husband than to. If she loves you shell understand. Please tell someone I to was abused by my step father. Dont be damaged for life Please tell someone or if I can help you in any way feel free to ask.... Dont let him hurt you like my step did me PLEASE
2007-09-26 06:47:14 · answer #7 · answered by preistess 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should tell your mom & if she refuses to believe what he has done, then go to an aunt or an adult at school. She loves the man she thinks he is, not the creep that he really is. You are probably not the first young lady & you won't be the last if you don't do something. I'm sorry he has put you in this position. I've been there, & my mom wouldn't believe me.
2007-09-26 06:46:47 · answer #8 · answered by scaredeycat 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your happy and your mother's happy== which is more important is the question. You ask for yourself and come to a conclusion. Do not take anything to your heart. Your step father may think that there should not be anybody between him and his wife. He may be correct as far as he is concern. Your mom has to take a clear step. I do not want to go deep in this issue. You are an adult and you can manage yourself . All the best Yours vRVRAO
2007-09-26 06:45:41 · answer #9 · answered by Raghavendra R 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Dear,
Your mother knows best about your step Father. Your mother love him so much and that means she trust him. When your mother marry him, automaticly that's your father. In Islam he's your "Muhrim". He's your Father. I don't think he purposely abusing you. There must be a very strong reason. Look at your ownself in the big mirror. There's maybe some of your deeds against the family culture. Your step Father must have abuse you for good reason maybe. Ask your mother what goes wrong with you which make your step Father abuse you. Let your mother tackle your problems in future. At the mean time check your ownself behaviour.
2007-09-26 06:51:08 · answer #10 · answered by AHMAD FUAD Harun 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Listen I have been in almost the same situation. Your mother
will not be happy with this man if she is told he is abusing you.
I understand you want your mother to be happy, but you also
owe it to yourself to be happy and feel safe. I didn't tell and
my life was affected terribly because of it. If you go on and
years from now your mother does find out, she will be devastated. Because her life and yours will be based on lies. Be brave and tell your mom
2007-09-26 06:52:19 · answer #11 · answered by marysteven1991 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋