2007-09-26 06:31:42 · 17 answers · asked by sofia 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
My fiance and I did something really fun last weekend. Our wedding is in 2 1/2 weeks and we were also getting really tired of making decisions about the wedding.
So, on Saturday we spent the entire day having fun without making any decisions! We took a dice with us all day to make decisions for us. We started with what we should wear. If we were trying to pick between 3 outfits, we just said I'll wear this if I roll a 1 or 2, this if I roll a 3 or 4, or this if I roll a 5 or 6. It was so much fun to see where it took us! We used it to choose between the zoo or a baseball game, what restaurant to eat at, what to order on the menu, what movie to rent, everything! We also made a point not to talk about the wedding at all. It was just us spending time together.
2007-09-26 07:14:46 · answer #1 · answered by Stacia T 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When you have great emotional bonding with something or someone or you expected something which could be your love, life or anything and the things not going as you expected or failed where you give your 100% effort, you will felt like dying. Some are so much bonded they couldn't bear the failure and give up immediately where mind stops working and you will listen what your mood says. Although its temporary feeling to do suicide. Some overcome it and some do it immediately. In that siutation, a people who is bold or fearsome concept won't work. A fearful person become bold enough and starts thinking that my life is in vain without this, I have nothing now...and ultimately lead to do suicide. Especially this happens in love case or the study or career... Just imagine, when you see someone in difficulty and your emotional or humanity says to save him/her and at that time even if you get bruised mark you didn't feel the pain but when the story over and you start thinking consciously and taking rest, you would find you are bruised and feel the pain. This login would exactly put in to the suicidal case where suicide action is of no more pain, a person of deep emotional hurt which in real make him/her senseless although he/she is awake. God bless you!
2016-04-06 02:09:58 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I went through this last summer...and it really depends on the person. Personally I could NOT take a break, because I thought for sure something would fall through the cracks. The two things that destressed me were, 1, write it all down. I didn't have to keep track of when to send in deposits, or when my meetings were, or what dishes I was thinking of, because I made a list to keep track of them all. Spread sheets are your friend. Every time you think of something you might forget to do, add it to the "Things still to do list", that way it won't run through your mind any more. As for a de-stress, the only thing that worked for me was going to a movie. Sounds stupid but I felt if I took time off for a few days it would stress me out not being on top of everything. But somehow a 2 hour movie seemed perfectly acceptable. Good luck, and just remember no matter how much you stress and plan, no one is really going to notice if they used buttercup-yellow or carnation yellow but you...so just breath!
2007-09-26 06:44:30 · answer #3 · answered by CaCO3Girl 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I'm with you! The only advice I can really give is to make out a complete list of EVERYTHING you need to do. It feels soooo good to completely mark something off of the list when you're done with it.
Also, when I get to that point...I just stop with wedding stuff for a few days. I tell people we aren't using the "w' word today, and everyone understands. Usually my fiance and I go out and do something cheesy and romantic. It reminds me of how much I love him and why I am going through the stress of putting it all together in the first place. Remember that it will all come together with time.
Don't hesitate to ask anyone for their help!
Best of luck!
2007-09-26 06:39:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I did most of the planning and paying for my wedding. To help you out I would make a list and have your maid of honor, mother, dad, fiance and whoever else help you get things done. Tell them you are too stressed and can't handle everything right now. Go take a day or two for yourself and get mani + pedi, go leisure shopping, get a massage, facial or anything else to help you unwind. It only lasts for a lil bit but it will help you not have a breakdown. Good Luck and congrats on soon to be wedding!!
2007-09-26 06:39:40 · answer #5 · answered by shortysml 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Pass some undone items along to your bridesmaids and family. That's what they are there for! They can make centerpieces and pick out the wine served at the reception.
For you: go and get a manicure and pedicure. A massage would help, too. Just take some time and do something for yourself instead of for the wedding.
2007-09-26 07:14:02 · answer #6 · answered by theewokprincess 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need a solid person that you can lean on. That is what helped me. My cousin was a godsend and took so many tedious details, phone calls, etc off my plate. You would be surprised at how heavy on your mind making a simple phone call is when you are planning a wedding (well, you probably do!) She didn't think any of it was a big deal, but it meant the world to me.
2007-09-26 09:29:12 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just go ahead and decide on eveything, then forget it. The decision is made and you don;t have to worry anymore (until a week before the wedding). So have a steaming hot bath (even better if you have a spa), take a glass of your favourite liquor with you have fantasise about the honeymoon... (fact: peoples pain threshold is 50% higher when thinking about sex, maybe it works for stress as well!)
2007-09-26 06:42:34 · answer #8 · answered by Stiffler 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Take a week or two off and do nothing wedding related. I went to work, went doubled up on karate, layed out at the pool, had some real "me" time, and basically unplgged my phone so my mother in law couldn't call me. I also screened my cell phone. Otherwise I would've seriously canceled my wedding and broke it off with my fiance. I handed everything off to my sister and told everyone not to bother me for 2 weeks. Not kidding. Needless to say it was incredibly helpful.
2007-09-27 05:18:14 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have the Bridesmaids help. Talk to your Fiance, MOH & Mom...I feel it helps to network and talk out frustrations. Most of all for yourself--do something nice...pedi & mani or a nice haircut. You deserve it! Take sometime off...you're allowed to...this is suppose to be a fun time...the most important thing is you're marrying the man of your dreams & you're going to live happily ever after...FOCUS on that!! Remember--the Wedding is a production but the true beauty rests in the marriage. :) GOOD LUCK!!
2007-09-26 08:08:48 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋