Its been 8 months since my ex dumped me, and admitadlly i think about him quite alot, i don't know why but i think about what happened when we were together, he was my first more serious boyfriend and i really cared about him, i didn't sleep with him but we did everything else together, thats not something i have done with another guy before, all the memories to do with that often come into my head, is it true when you have had a sexual relationship with someone that you become attatched? because i think it brought us closer?! and now i can't get over it!
2007-09-26 06:06:44 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Its different for men, some just want sex, for me personally I would become very attached after sexual relationship, it may take you a while to get over it if you thought a lot of him, but it will get easier, just look to the future, remember the good things not the bad
2007-09-26 06:13:17 · answer #1 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i just posted a question similar to this...
Of course your bound to think of your ex, you still care for him, maybe even still love him. and it's harsh but it's going to take a little while longer to get over him.
somebody that makes you feel that special, and someone you share such great memories with isn't going to be immediately erased from your mind.
Perhaps a sexual relationship brought you two closer together, only you will know that.
But what's important is that you don't waste your time thinking about it...
Go out with your friends, have fun and just try to forget.
I know it's hard, but you won't hurt forever. Eventually in your own time - you'll find somebody else.
But don't try and rush into another relationship, be ready and take your own time!
Good luck, hope this helps!
2007-09-26 13:14:41 · answer #2 · answered by °♥Amelia Rose♥° 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will get over it, it will just take some time.
Each passing day makes the memory of the hurt you feel now harder to remember, until in the end you won't clearly remember why you hurt so much to begin with.
I don't think the emotions of love are no stronger in a sexual relationship than in a non sexual one.
2007-09-26 13:33:31 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
mmmm..you think and feel its something you can't get over, and that is perfectly natural...something very natural and comfortable, and secure has been taken away from you so you are going to feel...bad inside.There are millions of adults who have had sexual relationships, and been in love, who have moved apart and had to move on somehow, and they've found it difficult too.That's why we learn from our experiences, and we can learn from good experiences as well as bad ones.It probably feels worse coz he woz your first serious boyfriend, and when you share everything like that, the bond does become very very strong, but it is not impossible to overcome.The corny thing is, it is only time which will make the wound disappear..eventually it will.You can't prevent yourself from thinking about him, so dont, and dont beat yourself up about it, if you do try to stop yourself you will fell worse, you will think about him more, so go with how you mind and body feels, and let yourself grieve, its like losing someone dear in death, thats how it feels doesn't it.?If you focus on yourself and keeping busy, cramming as much activity into your day as possible, and finding someway of relaxing with something you enjoy at the end of the day it will help the stress, be around others as often as possible as in isolating yourself, then you're more likely to dwell on the past.You will surprised when someone new comes along just as exciting and tempting and soon you will have forgotton all about this boy.
2007-09-26 13:18:56 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why shouldn't you?
It shows you were genuine and not fickle in love.
It will fade in its own time... and if you're young... as soon as someone nicer steals your heart... for oldies like me... after long partnerships of decades... we often never cease to stay in love with deserters... and there's no fault in that either...
If someone dies... we are allowed to keep their photos... speak of them and recall happy times... divorce and desertion make that unacceptable sadly... in this selfish 'get over them' society!
Don't be pushed or told to move on till your ready... what you show is rare... true love... and that... is worth its weight in gold to someone else one day... when you are really ready:-)
Have a happy future:-)
2007-09-26 13:13:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It'll take time. Enjoy spending time with your friends and family. It's corny but 'there's no point crying over someone who won't cry over you'. I should take my own advice sometimes though cos it took me ages to get over my ex!!! Just spend time with people who genuinely care about you...and who knows what gorgeous guy might be just round the corner. Good luck sweetie.
2007-09-26 13:18:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
when you have any relationship, sexual or not, then its going to be hard to forget the person right at the end. just give yourself time, to forget about him, and maybe try and start a friendship/relationship with someone new.
2007-09-26 13:12:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
doesnt happen for s l u t s
but someone who r sensitive and sensible which probably u seem to b ............. it does happn for those ppl
but its not jst sex
mainnly it is the absence of tht person tht u miss
not jst the episode in the bed
2007-09-26 13:21:24 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you still like him deep down.
2007-09-26 13:14:01 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is very hard to forget when you don't have a life of your own.
2007-09-26 13:13:54 · answer #10 · answered by elgil 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋