I was with my ex for a short time, i ended lying to him and losing him. After that he forgave me and we became friends and we'd hang out and chill. This past april, i found out he was engaged to his first girlfriend which they were to gether for 6 years before me. And i decided to brake off our friendship because i just had stronger feelings that i suspected. Well they broke up and he is single now and working full time and going to school full time and he has told me repreatedly that he does not want to be in a relationship because he has no time. I finally told him that i am in love with him and he gave me the same response, lets just be friends and see what happens. Yesterday he calls me and said he ex took a pregnancy test and it came out positive. I was hurt and devasted and he said i was reacting overboard. He told me **** happens, that im taking it worst than both of them, but i am in love with him. I dont think he understands. What should i do, i feel helpless.
2007-09-26 05:41:46 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I dont think he appreciates the fact that i love him and i really do, i even got a tattoo of his name on my lower back. I am hurting so much that i am really just driving myself crazy. I just want him to take me seriously but he tells me that he does, but there is nothing he can do.
2007-09-26 05:44:01 · update #1
#1. He Thinks of you as a friend.
#2. He does not want a relationship with you.
#3. He was complaining about not having time for a relationship.
#4. He has a baby on the way. He now has even less time.
Just because you love someone, it doesn't mean they have to love you back.
Please find someone who appreciates who you are. I wish you luck.
2007-09-26 05:50:01 · answer #1 · answered by makawao_kane 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You need to be as mature as you can be in this situation. He is working full time and going to school full time - that means he has no time! I know - I was in the same position in college, I barely had time to get my homework done and sleep, and eating what was that? I ran myself ragged and ended up getting pneumonia. Now he has compounded the issue with having an ex gf that is pregnant. He comes with a lot of baggage - I understand how you feel, I truly do, but you have to realize that neither of the exes matter right now because he is having a baby too! He wants to wait to see what happens to see if he's going to end up back with the mother of his child or with the woman in waitng (you) that's why he's telling you let's just be friends. He doesn't want to lose you, but he doesn't want to string you along either. He is trying to be as sensible as possible as far as I can tell. If you feel that deeply about him, then hold on for a little while - that does not mean pine your life away forever waiting for someone that may never come. Ask him how he feels about her and you and the baby, and tell him to be honest with you and to not worry about hurting you (because you are already hurt - this just may be the closure you need to move on). BTW - sh-it doesn't happen, irresponsible behavior happens. They are not married - planning to be or not - they are not married so why are they having unprotected sex? Now there is going to be another child born without a a family unit - with squabbling bickerin adults acting like children calling themselves parents! I feel so bad for that baby. Why are you tatooing yourself with someone's name that you don't know if they are going to cheat or leave or whatever ? Go gether his name covered and get your head out of your rear end. Do you really want to spend the rest of your life with baby momma drama? His heart is taken by that child. He was being honest when he told you he doesn't have time for a relationship - you know I used to leave the house at about 7:30 AM and not get back from school and work until after 11PM every night - except Sat. and Sun. - and thank GOD for my husband, then BF, because he would wait to come over just to spend a little time with me and watch me do my homework and the only real time we had was the weekend, then everyone would wonder why we never went anywhere - I had too much homework, housework and was exhausted. He is going to have to make time for that child. You are going to be third fiddle for a long time or at least until he finishes school. I hope this helps and good luck.
2007-10-04 04:57:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you were only in a relationship with this guy for a short period of time, then you need to get over it. think about it, are you really going to be okay when he goes with her to the doctor visits and goes to pick out a crib and all the stuff that comes with becoming a dad. and just wait till the baby comes it's just gonna get worse. and why would you want to be with someone while someone else is expecting his child! you should just move on. i think it's the best thing to do!
2007-09-26 05:47:13 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
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Many girls break up with their significant others, is because they need time to figure things out. Don't take it personally, if you want her back, you have to show her you can help her. If you love her then you'll let her go, that's it. Not everybody who you date in high school you end up staying with, the chances are extremely unlikely. So if she doesn't want to, then you need to let her go.
2014-10-24 11:45:36 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to let him go and move on with your life! I understand that you're in love with him-despite the fact that his ex-girlfriend is pregnant with his baby, but you can't have your cake and eat it, too! Besides, if he tells you that he isn't interested in being involved in a relationship, you have no choice but to respect his wishes and take it from there. Also, its up to you to do what's best for yourself-even though you have to move on without him! Good luck!
2007-09-26 05:50:05 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
My sister always told me: Never consider someone a priority who considers you an option.
Sounds to me like you are putting too much time and effort into displaying your emotions to this guy who couldn't care less. I hate to be harsh, but that's the way I see it.
You don't want to waste your time with a man who will get someone pregnant and then not commit to her and his child anyway. You're better than that. Find someone new...you'll be better off.
~peace love & light~
2007-09-26 06:20:57 · answer #6 · answered by YSIC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl move on he is not boyfriend material you should be happy she the pregnant one and not you becuase its obvious she is going to be left behind taking care of baby all by her self but you should move on i no its going tobe hard but you going to be even more hurt if you stay around for years so he could run back and forth between the two of you or worst both of yall be pregnant at the same time good luck
2007-10-03 18:18:11 · answer #7 · answered by fattyb1980 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-28 04:03:40 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hindsight is 20/20- should have never lied in the first place.
2007-10-03 18:37:34 · answer #9 · answered by Grad 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay away, when the baby comes there is going to be a lot of drama, unless that it what you want in your life!
2007-09-26 05:44:26 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋