i know of a 1st grader, smallest in the class, who's being bullied. the teachers say, "we don't allow that". the child's grades have gone down, acts out at school (no problem at home), saying that if he/she gets in enough trouble, that maybe he/she will be sent back to old school. finally i requested that he be seperated from the bully in class and sit somewhere else, grades going up, behavior in class has improved, no more "heart pains".... but bully still causes problem at other times.
i remember an "Andy Griffith" show, where Opie was being bullied and Andy (the sherriff) and Barney (the deputy) taught Opie how to defend himself and that he would have to stand up to the bully. that's the way it used to be. it worked. the bullies never bother u again after they know ur going to stand up to them. the school has to change their thinking and let kids take up for themselves. who do you think is doing all the suicidal mass murders at the schools? it's the ones who were bullied.
2007-09-26 05:33:40 · 11 answers · asked by (!)listen 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I just want to thank all the people who responded in a caring and understanding way.
2007-09-26 08:20:43 · update #1
.... AND BEING VERY REALISTIC ABOUT THE SITUATION.
2007-09-26 08:21:38 · update #2
i wish i could pick more than one answer, u've all been such a tremendous help.
2007-09-27 08:24:34 · update #3
If you live in the States...
Sue the bully's parents - AFTER you speak with them and tell them that you find their child's behaviour offensive, and ask them why they are allowing this kind of criminal and border-line terroristic behaviour. Should their child, after a reasonable time, not cease being the bully then you bring suit.
Should you wish, you can also advise the bully's parents that, were the children of an appropriate age, you would be pressing criminal charges against the child. After all, whether verbal or physical, an assault is an assault.
2007-09-26 05:57:39 · answer #1 · answered by jcurrieii 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can give the kid practical advice, telling the teacher is a good one but hardly ever actually works. Tell him to always walk with friends between classes as bullies are more reluctant to confront him with a group. Second tell him to sit close to prefects at break. He does not have to sit in top of them just in eyes view. As for the classroom as you say he has been moved which is good so he can now concentrate on work.
It is never right for another child to pick on another, i hope he can solve it soon and have a happy school life.
2007-09-26 05:45:01 · answer #2 · answered by rabbit1986 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Talk to the parents of the bully. If by chance you can get both children and the parents together to talk, even better. Don't forget to be open minded; our children are not always the angels we want to believe. But if the parents aren't cooperative, I'd be picking my child up and giving those bullys a very loud angry piece of my mind in front of everyone.... That just might settle them down.
2007-09-26 07:53:43 · answer #3 · answered by happyendinggs 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Alot of schools have a "no bullying" policy. Too bad they don't enforce it the way they should. Parents end up doing their job for them. You can teach your child to defend themselves and it is empowering. However, then your child is also at risk for discipline at school for sticking up for themselves. I kept records of every event at school and on the bus. I reported this to our state dept. of ed. parent consultline. I also made the school give emotional support services to my child, and training on how to deal with bullies. I also made the arrangement that each time my child feels uncomfortable he is permitted to go straight to the principal or emotional support teacher, no questions asked.
2007-09-26 06:02:21 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
i learned how to fight early on in life. i was always the one being ridiculed and teased. and i did fight the bullies off and learned to defend myself, and yes i got in trouble with the school. but i was getting beat up enough at home, that i didn't feel like getting beat up at school too. now, i make sure my younger sibs know how to defend themselves, but i also make sure they know that violence isn't always the answer. if they can run away from the situation, then do it. but if someones on top of them, punching their lights out, they know how to make that bully wish he'd never been born/. i taught them well.
2007-09-26 05:51:18 · answer #5 · answered by ...... 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think the school should be doing more. Talk bullies parents and see what happens.
2007-09-26 05:40:49 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
my son is in 1st grade and is the smallest in his class.
if he were being bullied, i'd talk to the principal and/or his teacher. im always hesitant to talk to the parents because .... what if they dont care? what if they're bullies themselves? then that would just make it worse.
(but in the back of my mind, i think "i'd kick the sh*t out of the bullies parents if the bully laid a hand on my son!!!')
2007-09-26 05:41:26 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
start sending to a self defense class.so he can learn when to use his skills so you won't be sued teach diplomacy first ,how to duck a punch, run, if nothing else stops the bully and he has exhausted all avenues then he should prepare to defend himself when the fight comes to him.
2007-09-26 05:43:26 · answer #8 · answered by dms 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to fight to defend
be smart in it
choose the right battle(s)
know your limits
but if you are going down, you make damn sure they go down with you and they don't get up when you are done with them!
2007-09-26 05:37:29 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
ur child should just shout at dem and say "go away and leave me alone" the bullies will be so shook of his/her reaction dat dey will back of. i kno how it feels 2 b bullied coz wen i was younger i just about plucked up da courage 2 do dat and da bullly left me alone. hope ur kid is ok and dat da nasty bullies will leave he/she alone. :D
2007-09-26 05:38:58 · answer #10 · answered by kaos 2 · 2⤊ 2⤋