During my fiance' best friends bachelor party the bachelor cheated on is fiance' which is my friend. What should I do? Also what are the olds this might happen to me when my fiance' goes on his bachelor party?
2007-09-26 05:27:21 · 12 answers · asked by Someone's Mom! 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
d- its was oral sex with a stripper
so i'm thinking it was a one time thing...just dieases is what scares me about it for his finace's sake...i trust my finace' not to...but i just don't see the point of him going to a strip club when he knows he they will try to pressure him to do more the watch...he said he will talk to them before they go...he said he was not that type of guy and some of the other guys did behave themselves...
2007-09-26 05:37:50 · update #1
if i tell i'd be compromising my fiance's trust...he wouldn't be happy with me for telling...and his best friend and his relationship might end also...so i think it would be a big mess...
2007-09-26 05:40:24 · update #2
my fiance' is not okay with what his best friend did....
2007-09-26 07:11:30 · update #3
You probably shouldn't get involved - even though what the guy did was wrong, in my opinion.
As far as your guy's bachelor party: The best think you could do is start by having a chat about his friend's bad bachelor behavior. Ask your guy what he thinks his friend should have done, and where he would draw the line for himself. Have an open discussion about what the two of you think is appropriate behavior for a bachelor or bachelorette party, and be sure that the two of you are in agreement. Then you have to trust him, and he has to trust you.
2007-09-26 09:27:17 · answer #1 · answered by SE 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's really despicable that the marriage vows and the seriousness of committment of a marriage are broken down beforehand by the cheapness of the thrill of oral sex with a stripper! How much do this guys vows mean if it's OK with him and his best buddies and who knows what else that he did this before his wedding? In what way is this honoring the women he's getting ready to marry? In what way is this respectful? How can you respect your fiance if he's OK with this behavior? Shouldn't he stand for something? Isn't that what a man does? If he thinks he should just stay out of it or look the other way, how does he really feel about this sort of thing? I would be re-thinking my entire decision of a fiance at this point.
2007-09-26 06:14:29 · answer #2 · answered by reddevilbloodymary 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How would u feel if the tables were turned?? Your friend needs to know---HE needs to tell her...Is this really how they want to start their life together..?? Talk to HIM and make him tell her...OR u can say to your friend.."I heard at the bachelor party it got a little outta hand, maybe u should ask your fiance if anything happened.." The they can handle it.
2007-09-26 05:45:40 · answer #3 · answered by brooklyn7582 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Don't tell. What happens at a bachelor party stays at bachelor party. By telling you'd be getting in the middle of a nasty fight, and chances are you will get blamed for a lot of it. Oral sex... big deal. You won't know what you fiancé will or will not do at his bachelor party - but would you REALLY want to know? If you're ok with the general concept of going to a strip joint as a prelude to being married, then try not to fret about the details. There's a place and time to go to a strip club, and, IMO, right before getting married ain't it. My personal feeling that if a man is immature enough to insist on a strip club in connection with his marriage, he is probably immature enough to do the stupid sh1t that his fiancé wouldn't want to know about.
2007-09-26 05:59:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋
You need to talk to your friend who cheated and let them know they have 3 options...either they break off the engagement without telling your other friend the real reason why (the cowards way out...but still a way out), or they tell them the truth and hope they forgive them, OR lastly if they don't take the other two options, then you will tell the other person. It's only fair. This person obviously has little respect for their partner. I mean, hello...diseases???!!! Emotional damage???!!! The fact that many of the friends know behind that person's back???!!!
2007-09-26 05:33:45 · answer #5 · answered by A R 1 · 4⤊ 0⤋
stay out of it. ignorance is bliss is what they say. so how did he cheat? kiss someone else? or have sex with someone else? if it is the former, just let it go. it is a drunken night.
and don't be paranoid about your fiance. hopefully he knows better than that. i think guys cheating on their fiances at their bachelor party is not something common that happens all the time. don't get all crazy with your man and not let him go or have one...
2007-09-26 05:32:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
well first off i would find out where the stipper was hired from and i would call the cops on them cause thats illegal. she just became a prostitute.
second, i would tell your fiance flat out that you either dont want him to have a stripper or you do not what that bachlor there because he has poor judgement and you will have none of it.
2007-09-26 06:40:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Stay out of it. In addition there is no way to give odds on such a situation. Wild speculation is the best you'll get and not very reliable.
2007-09-26 05:30:26 · answer #8 · answered by Quasimodo 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
you do nothing, did your fiance tell you that the bachelor cheated? you can only trust your fiance when its his turn....
2007-09-26 05:56:15 · answer #9 · answered by Adrienne L 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
DO N OT GET INVOLVED!! yes you know and feel guilty but if u tell her and evertythign blows up she will blame u int he end not him. its better off if its left alone. obv he loves her and was drunk and made a mistake. let ur man know u will have spies looking out for your best interest so he better be on his best behavior.
2007-09-26 06:12:42 · answer #10 · answered by spadezgurl22 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋