He must Always and ONLY be available & accountable to YOU; His eyes and mind are yours to control and he must NEVER look at or think about another female...including his mother; Always share his deepest feelings with you but KEEP his personal opinions to himself; He may only hang out with his friends that YOU approve of and ALWAYS check in with you where ever he is.
If he objects to any of these rules, he's a jerk and is possibly / PROBABLY already cheating.
2007-09-26 05:19:52 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
What ? I am not like that . OMG that's would be what a control freak would do. I got news for you there are men out there like that . I was married for twenty years to some one like that was a control freak, he did all those things you listed and more.
As a couple you should complement each other now try to boss each other around. Just because you are in a committed relationship doesn't mean you give up who you are . You should never give any one that much control over you.
2007-09-26 05:55:08 · answer #1 · answered by Precious 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He should be available to you when you need him, everyone looks but should have the respect to not do it in front of each other. Deepest feelings should be shared and some, not all opinion should be kept to urself as far as friends that should be your choice no one elses. You never come between a mother and son, it will never work mom will always win in the end. And u should let your partner know where you its respect. Now how would she feel if you imposed the same rules? You should try it on her. But in answer to your question not all women are this way. Thats control not love..
2007-09-26 12:27:04 · answer #2 · answered by Julie J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Eww.. That sounds controlling, clingy, needy and freaky.
Commitment, to me, is something between me and him, a deep trust that we hold for each other. I'm a Sagittarius and the love of my life is a cancer. we committed to each other but we both have a life outside our relationship. He fights for his career and comes home very late every night, He goes out with his friend for a cup of coffee. I'm totally fine with that.
On the other hand. I can go out and have fun with my friends, partying and traveling (I love to travel but he likes to stay home). but he lets me do things I love to do.
However, our hearts are committed to each other. No matter what happens, at the end of the day, we'll always come back for each other cuz the love and trust are there. we are committed to do anything and everything to make our relationship better and will absolutely do no harm to our relationship.
However, to be honest with you, this is only my own explanation and point of view. actually he doesn't really think and feel the same way although he's tryng hard too. He's more like what you've described. He's a cancerian. He lets me do what I love doing and gives me the space to move because he has no choice. we do fight a lot. he just can't seem to understand me.
2007-09-26 14:14:09 · answer #3 · answered by #1 Girl -She's Bittersweet- 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
of course not u can't own him. he should control himself to some degree suppose not looking another female in front of you or even think about sexual relationships with others, but u can't say he can't even look or think about another girl. about his friends, u may monitor some of the girls with him but not all. also u don't have to check where he is all the time, that's what people call a control freak. about controlling his mind, well u are controlling him that's why he's with u, but what about if u lose control? let him choose what he likes provided that u two are still staying together and he doesn't have sexual relationships with someone. all other girls in his eyes are just friends if u and him stay together and know u two are in a relationship and u two spend times together for a long time.
2007-09-26 12:36:02 · answer #4 · answered by Victor N 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You describe an average love, meaning not love at all. There, everything you do is a conflict. No possibility of communication. Let alone communion.... Real love, spiritual love is another thing. There, there is no possibility of conflict, whatever happens deepens love you feel. Completely different from the first description. Everything is communication and proof of love even the things that you describe. They look the same but they taste different. They taste on love. Everything becomes communication and there is COMMUNION. Melting. Becoming one. Not out of dictatorship as it may look to others but willingly out of deepest need for communion. But to understand that, you must be one of the chosen ones. To really be able to love. Until then, stick to your own explanations. It is easier for you.
2007-09-26 12:31:48 · answer #5 · answered by radharani 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
These rules seem like theres no trust. If you and a guy are committed to each other then there should be no reason to be open and honest about things. Family is also important and if you get jealous over family then how can you have a relationship.
2007-09-26 12:25:53 · answer #6 · answered by all4ugurlie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Commitment in a relationship means you are focused on your relationship. That you want to be with that person only. That you are willing to go the distance. It means not cheating on the person you love. If you are looking at cheating then you don't really love the person you are will so you would not be commited to that person.
2007-09-26 12:25:43 · answer #7 · answered by Alan J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, is that really what guys think? No wonder so many men are afraid of commiting!
Well...but it sounds more like domination though! There are women who likes doing that but some men are the same. As long as they are happy to each others, who cares is what I think. Every couple has different way of making each others happy and that's that.
2007-09-26 12:27:45 · answer #8 · answered by Este 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is such a load of crap...if a woman is like that ...talk about your insecurities.....and i thought i was insecure...i don't want a zombie for a boyfriend...i want someone who has their own mind and if you don't look at women then you are just not human or you know not into women...which is not something i would like either...if you can't agree or one or the other has to controll to be able to get along then you don't need to be together....relationships should be a good thing not destructive....it should compliment who you are not change who you are...geez...
2007-09-26 12:30:05 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes,I've been there,my first love was obsessive,I couldn't control it.But one learns from the experience and, hopefully,grows more secure. What you describe is either very young women or women so badly bruised from previous experiences that they haven't a clue why you want to be with them and are terrified that you really don't want to be there.Paranoia ensues...
2007-09-26 13:27:49 · answer #10 · answered by Barbara D 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋