I was busy nursing my 4month old this morning, while be 2.5 year old watched cartoons. She said something about going and getting her animals to play with and went to her room, took off her pullup and pooed in the floor. I put the baby in his swing, cleaned my daughter up and put her in timeout.
I had to walk away for a few minutes because i was so angry
What do you do when you get this upset with your kids?
2007-09-26 05:12:28 · 17 answers · asked by llllll_amanda_lllllll 6 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Shes already potty trained for the most part.
Im not asking for your judgements people! All i am asking for is how other parents deal with this, if your not going to answer that then dont answer this question!
2007-09-26 05:42:59 · update #1
Go in a closet or the bathroom with a pillow, put it over your mouth and scream. You will feel better! You get to scream, without scaring your children. It's hard sometimes!
What is it about 2 year olds that do this?? One of my friends has dealt with the EXACT same problem with her 2.5 year old boy 3 times in the last month.
Kids?! Love em, but they make you a little crazy in the process!
2007-09-26 05:17:53 · answer #1 · answered by Christine 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, that was definitely an attention grabber and you reacted just like any good parent does - timeout and walk away for a few minutes to calm down. My child is 15 and I still have times where I just have to walk away, take some deep breaths and come back when I'm less likely to lash out and say something I'll regret later.
Your daughter will outgrow this stage soon, but she'll find new ways to get under your skin. Just be prepared and keep your cool. Just think - you only have another 18 years of this and you're free! :-)
2007-09-26 12:34:50 · answer #2 · answered by the_dragyness 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
First of all, the older child is trying to tell you it is time to potty train.
Frustration is normal. What we do about it, is another thing. Leaving the room is a good idea. A couple minutes away to calm yourself is good. Your life is changing. Two kids are more work than one.
When you get frustrated, and after it is over, ask yourself how you could have handled it better.
Talk to other moms your age and older about how they handled something.
2007-09-26 12:26:35 · answer #3 · answered by tysdad62271 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I have four kids--my older two are 17 months apart, then three years later I had two more, 18 months apart. Having babies close together in age is really hard, and can be daunting. But once they start school, it's amazing how fast time flies!
I walk away in situations like that. Once, I had a situation where one of my kids pooped on his bed because he was angry. I walked away to my bedroom, screamed into a pillow, and called my mom. She came over to help me clean it up (thanks, Mom!) and help me calm down.
It's easy to get so angry when you're the lone adult in the house. Especially when you're nursing, and you only have one hand to attend to the other child. If another adult is there, your child's behavior is more likely to be annoying and kind of funny, rather than enough to make you want to scream.
2007-09-26 12:24:42 · answer #4 · answered by tac_stamper 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I would just scream. Then try to remember that it's a natural reaction for the older sibling to act like a baby when she's jealous of the baby and wants the parents' attention.
2007-09-26 13:23:26 · answer #5 · answered by cyranonew 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We have all been there done that, but it doesn't change the fact that your blood pressure gets going and you have to leave. What I do is I say to the child I LOVE YOU, but mommy needs a time out. Then I generally go into the bathroom and shred a magazine....sounds silly but it works, and that way the kid doesn't think that what they have done is so horrible that you don't love them...which is hard to Gage at that age. Good luck!
2007-09-26 12:24:49 · answer #6 · answered by CaCO3Girl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You did the right thing, and every child goes through stages of behavior and believe me it will get better...My 3 year old daughter when she would get mad would spit on me. I never hit my child but I do raise my voice and I find it to be effective because I always talk calm and quiet so when I yell she listens. She doesn't spit anymore, it was a stage. Life is about testing limits and making limits as to what as parents we are willing to except, you'll be fine. Just don't lose your cool....
2007-09-26 12:18:59 · answer #7 · answered by All for her 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let them know that the things that they are choosing to do are making me feel angry. Then, try to walk away for a little time out until I can deal with it without raising my voice.
I always feel awful when I don't do this calmly & quietly, because I expect them to try to do the same. If I do start yelling, I apologize afterwards, hoping that they can, at least, learn a lesson from my mistakes.
2007-09-26 12:23:14 · answer #8 · answered by Maureen 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It's hard when they're that young - you did the right thing walking away. When they get older, you can tell them (like I do) that I'm losing my cool, and I need a time out. That way they know I've had it, and I need time to calm down.
2007-09-26 13:00:38 · answer #9 · answered by PunkMom 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
To be honest I put her down in her playpen (she's 8 months old but she has her days) and go out and take deep breaths until I feel better. Because of her age I can't reason with her, I'm the grown up and I'm the one in control, so I need to act accordingly. DEEP BREATHS!....children can really take you near the edge uh? I never knew I could be so patient!
2007-09-26 12:17:10 · answer #10 · answered by Baby Ruth habla español 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋