I have a therapist and all and I sit there but I cant open up. She knows I have the problems with trust but its like Im right at that line where I can walk away or just jump over it and open up. When I get pushed to open up I get angry and I push people away or cut them out of my life. I want to do that with this therapist but she is the only one who knows certain things and I know for a fact i wouldnt open up with anyone else in the real world. What can I do? This trust thing is so severe and it makes me look like an idiot when I am in safe situations. My therapist has no reason to hurt me but I just dont want anyone to screw with me. What is it going to take for me to finally let someone in and see my world?
2007-09-26 04:26:31 · 9 answers · asked by b 4 in Health ➔ Mental Health
I can hear so much pain in your words. Please take a chance- you know your therapist is trying to help you. She is sworn to confidence, so nothing you say will come back to bite you. She is not going to make fun of you or think poorly of you. Therapists go to school for many years just so they can learn to help other people. Many of them have had pain in their own lives that motivates them to help others. The only way you can overcome your problem is to face your fear. You don't want to be on your deathbed wishing you had lived differently. Have faith in yourself. God will help you if you ask.
2007-09-26 04:51:32 · answer #1 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I understand exactly how you feel. I've been there before. However, you have to move on and find a new therapist. You will know when you have found the right one. You will want to open up. Sometimes finding the right therapist is the most difficult part of healing especially with issues of trust. But it is possible to find that person. Don't give up. You will be able to find someone to let into you world and allow them to help you.
2007-09-26 12:28:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's going to take you deciding you will trust the therapist. You are doing this for your health and well being, open up or else the therapy is not going to work. There are some things that you can keep private. You dont' have to tell her/him everything, but as it concerns those areas you need help in, then yes you have to talk about it. How else is it going to work if you don't talk?
2007-09-26 11:52:16 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
look at it this way. what could your therapist possibly have to gain by screwing you? nothing. you know that.what do you think would happen if you opened up? will the sky fall in?will life end? no and no. you'll finally be able to breath that much needed sigh of relief b/c you aren't keeping it to yourself any longer. perhaps you get angry with YOURSELF about the issues and misdirect it to whomever you're near. this person went to school specifically to help others. he/she wants you to feel better. if there's anyone you can trust, it's them. give yourself a bit more time. this didn't happen to you over night nor will it go away over night. be patient with yourself.
2007-09-26 11:40:37 · answer #4 · answered by racer 51 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will find someone that suffers the same as You. I am sure your therapist doesnt have to deal with what You do? If you have faith I am sure that you will meet somone that you can relate to and slowly build up trust overtime and before you know it You will be helping THEM too..... trust me. u will find that person Your thereapist isnt probably going to be the one NO for sure not.... check out some meetings like emotions anonymous...
2007-09-26 16:05:36 · answer #5 · answered by Livefor2day 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Put on your roller skates and zoom on in....you seem to have established a relationship with this therapist, She/He already knows a lot about you including this insecurity and has not screwed with you. I think you have a confidant there. You are lucky to have someone to talk to about such personal issues. Ease into the conversation you want to talk about and just shut your eyes and do it.......God Bless!
2007-09-26 11:39:54 · answer #6 · answered by LAURA 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Seek a new therapist... Or talk to someone you dont know online.. just dont tell them your name and talk about what is your problems.. it helps sometimes
2007-09-26 11:30:37 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell God all that troubles you ,
2007-09-26 11:41:09 · answer #8 · answered by rl153 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you adopted?
2007-09-26 11:35:58 · answer #9 · answered by Lillie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋