i know people say that if you're married young than you'll have more problems because you're both still figuring out who you are. But, what if you're just mature? What if you believe you found that person, it's just your age that makes it seem juvenile? The age I'm talking about is 19-20.
2007-09-26 04:24:55 · 16 answers · asked by ~)~) 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
see the whole worldy idea of having 'fun' isn't what i want. i dont enjoy the party scene nor do i enjoy gallavanting with various men. i have been there and done that for a little and guess what? i found out through it all that i still wanted to be with my boyfriend, whom i have dated for three years. that's speaking for myself of course. recently my boyfriend wanted to go out and do that stuff, then realized it was just other people talking him into it and not being what he really wanted. so, i think when we are able to be financially stable together, in a couple of years, we just might be ready.
2007-09-26 04:51:36 · update #1
When you get married at any age , you will have ups and downs. If you truly Love eachother you will be able to work through it regardless of your age. The younger you are when you get married the more you will grow as individuals BUT you can grow as a couple to. You can still figure out who you are and be a Loving and Happy couple... married or just as a couple.
Good Luck!
2007-09-26 04:30:26 · answer #1 · answered by redhotdancer4life 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
everybody is different and nobody can speak for you. many factors go into such a big decision. i got married when i was 20 and at the time i didn't think i was young at all. looking back i was kindof young but i was mature and i felt that i was ready, i had done all of my partying and wildness and was ready. i'm now 26 and still married. things are going really well. marriage is harder than i thought it would be but it's worth it. nobody can tell you if you are too young, you are the only one who can decide. i know people who got married super young and stayed together forever (a friend's parents got married at 15) then other people wait until their 30's and end up divorced within a few years.
it really depends on your commitment level and how well you get along and how willing you are to compromise.
good luck!
2007-09-26 11:31:08 · answer #2 · answered by somebody's a mom!! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriages fail for loads of reasons and personally i dont think age is a major one. I got married when i was 18 (my husband was 20) and we didn't do it because we had a child together, nor did we get caught up in the moment and rush into it. We just felt it was right.
Growing up and learning to accept the people we are TOGETHER has made us closer, you've just got to know before you take the plunge that your relationship is strong enough to pull through all those changes. I am SO different to the person i was when when i decided to get married and so is my husband, but we are happier for it.
My mothers words of wisdom on my big day were "communication and co-operation"
Do what you feel is right for you and only do it if both your hearts are in the right place.
2007-09-26 11:37:50 · answer #3 · answered by manders 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can marry young, it is just hard. You may not believe it, but you really do change alot between 20 and 24. I am 24 now and I am so much more different than I was at the age of 20. If you really believe you found your soul mate then go for it...just know that you both will be changing alot over the next 5 years...and if he is older...then don't worry about him changing too much...or getting any more mature...HAHA! Good luck!
2007-09-26 11:28:23 · answer #4 · answered by Sara 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It has nothing to do with being mature. Your world view simply changes significantly between the time you are 20 and the time you are in your mid 30's. I'm not saying that getting married when young can't work for the long haul, it's just quite a bit less likely.
2007-09-26 11:29:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm 19 and I got married a month ago to my husband who is 20 and honestly we couldn't be happier. Don't believe what other people tell you. If you are financially stable and you know what you want and you are happy then go for it!
2007-09-26 11:27:55 · answer #6 · answered by ☆ღWifey Wifeyღ☆ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I married young, then divorced young then married young again and divorced young again.
No regrets because I had two beautiful kids and raised them both, but the next time I married I was in my mid 20's and that has lasted for 26 years. She raised my kids with me and is wonderful. I think waiting is best.
2007-09-26 11:29:46 · answer #7 · answered by rumbler_12 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think marrying young is fine, im 19 yrs old and i want to get married, me and my boyfriend are engaged but havent set a date, waiting for the right time. but if you think it is right to get married young that is ur decision not others. do think about others, somethings like this u have to think bout ur self. i have been with my boyfriend for 2 yrs now and im 19 and i think im mature, because i pay my own bills, have my own job, pay for my own things, livin in a house, so if you think ur mature for that world then go ahead no one can stop u.
2007-09-26 11:30:25 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes you can want to marry young and then you'll probably end up getting divorced young also... Really marriage that young is a waste of time and your years that could be having fun...
2007-09-26 11:28:39 · answer #9 · answered by Blond3 BombShell 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Do wat u do cant nobodi tell u wen u can get married..... Do wat u real iz right... get married... If u think he's the right one then go for it... see i wanna marry my bf but it might not work cause he cant control his d*ck and he's about 2 move with his brother so i already kno it aint gnna wrk out... Do u Cant nobodi tell u wen u can get married when he ask u thats wen say yes if u love him but dnt change yo mind cause that will make alot of ppl mad.. Hope thiz helps
2007-09-26 11:35:46 · answer #10 · answered by Buttercup 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋