I have been going through so much. I am only 16, but my life is so messed up. My parents hate each other, my mother has chronic depression and severe anxiety, my father is a perverted sex addict, and I just went to the doctor yesterday and found out I have asthma. Oh, and I left my church about 3 weeks ago for reasons I would rather not discuss. I hate this so much! I want to go find a good church, I want to be healed, and I want to leave my house ASAP. If there is anyone out there who cares enough, please pray for me. Advice would be great too. I cannot take this much longer!
2007-09-26 04:17:40 · 14 answers · asked by chocolatechipcookies2006 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
16? Get your GED, get a job, move out, and start your life alone. Prayer will not get you this, your work will.
2007-09-26 04:20:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 6⤋
I also grew up in a dysfunctional family. I devoted my teenage years to getting myself to college, because I wanted very badly to leave home. I knew since I was little that only on my own could I really make my life how I wanted it to be.
I sympathize with your plight and I know it's hard, it's very, very hard. Your parents are failing you, and you are having to grow up and cope earlier than a young lady should have to. It isn't right, it isn't fair, but there it is.
So I want to tell you something that I hate to even remind myself of today: regardless of what you believe spiritually, the fact of life is that no one will save you from your life but you. (Quote: God will do nothing for you that you will not do for yourself.) YOU have to be your own heroine. The strength is inside you. You have to steel yourself, chin up, and go forth and make your life how you want it.
It's not as comforting a thought as being swooped up by Superman or being given a blanket and hot cup of tea by a fairy godmother, but it is empowering. You have the power over your life... at 16 you may have some time to wait before leaving home, but start the groundwork now and you'll be ready to launch when you come of age. It's a good time to start making plans. Patience has its value.
Of course, if there's extended family who can take you in, in the meantime, so much the better.
I will hope for the best for you. I am wishing you strength and wisdom beyond your years. I am wishing you success and joy. I am sorry you're having a hard time, but I believe you can make it better for yourself.
2007-09-26 11:39:06 · answer #2 · answered by KC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My advice to you is to find some counseling for yourself - either through school, or ask your parents to find you a counselor. My mom was depressed and angry a lot when I was growing up, so I can empathize with you there. I didn't have the option of going to the school counselor or talking to someone outside the family, but I think it would have helped me a lot.
Please talk to your school counselor, at least as a start. You've only got a couple more years before you can leave the house as an adult. I think you can get through it, but start looking for a support system outside your family.
Edit to add: If your dad is abusing you or harassing you sexually, then you definitely need to talk to the school counselor - he or she will know the correct next steps.
2007-09-26 11:22:23 · answer #3 · answered by milomax 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry that I can't pray for you (I'm not religious), but there are many resources available for teens in trouble. Here is a list of some of the better ones:
Girls and Boys Town, shelters and support for abused, neglected or severely at-risk children
http://www.girlsandboystown.org/home.asp
800 448-3000
United Way, one of the largest and most respected children's help organizations in the world
http://www.unitedway.org/
800 411-UWAY
Covenant House 9-Line, 24-hour anonymous teen help line
http://www.nineline.org/
800 999 9999
2007-09-26 11:38:10 · answer #4 · answered by marbledog 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well for one...you got it on the prayer and two life with parents can be hard....and sometimes finding a good church can be even harder. Most importantly keep the faith.....things will get better. God loves his children and even though things get rough you can make it. Also your 16 only 2 more years left....you have made it this long.
2007-09-26 11:22:42 · answer #5 · answered by SS4 Elby 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
i was abused from conception onward. i didn't even Know
that i needed out! so your one step ahead! since you
can't leave until your 18( unless you go through social
services), you will have to find a way to protect yourself
at home. if you have your own space can you lock it?
can you hang out at libraries, zoos, museams, art galleries?
do you read or study? this helped me immensely. have
you tried an Assembly of GOD church? Salvation Army?
read Psalms too.
YESHUA loves you. ADONAI Doesn't Want you treated
this way. that is satan's game.
find YESHUA for yourself. welcome to the family of GOD.
you are never alone, ever!!!
2007-09-26 11:32:12 · answer #6 · answered by Judy E. T 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are in my prayers but you need to get some help. Don't go through this alone. Talk to a minister, family member or a school counselor. A lot of people are going through this. You are not alone.
2007-09-26 11:22:01 · answer #7 · answered by ___ 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You know what, I will pray for you! Life is hard, not to mention being young and having all of this added "grown-up" stress on you.
Good Luck!
~oh yeah, is there any adult that you trust or value their opinions? I would talk with them...
2007-09-26 11:23:24 · answer #8 · answered by bessiedarlin 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Hi chocolatechipcookies20...,
You are so overwhelmed that a short answer does not exist for you here.
I will be happy to help and pray. emailme:bryant@chicuniforms.com
It will be better soon
2007-09-26 11:24:52 · answer #9 · answered by An Nony Mous 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
cant you get immancipated? or inform authorities about your parents obvious probs and get in the foster care system?
good luck
if i had a dime for all time times i ran away to detach from a similar situation..i'd be able to buy myself an ipod phone
2007-09-26 11:23:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Seriously, forget church. That makes problems WORSE. Get a job & move in with a friend. THAT is the best advice.,
Good luck.
2007-09-26 11:23:44 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋