I have been w/ my bf for almost 4 years and now he is back to going threw a bad drinking problem and when hes drunk he says things like " how bad would it hurt to put a knife threw my hand" after drinking he still goes to work every day and works over time...on top of it he had gainned weight and thinks hes fat so won't eat i have to trick him to eat...idk what else to do i work at night so im not home w/ him i feel like im a baby sitter some times, i worry about him alot...hes really responsible other wise and knows hes not right but doesn't stop it
what can i do next he sees his dr but his dr. just quit so he has to start over and is scard to do that w/ a new dr but he is doing it slowly..any advice would be great on this but please don't say go the hospital that only makes him 20000 times worse and he will lose the advancement at his job he just got
my next question is where can i find free support groups either online or in my town i really need it for myself and him
2007-09-26 03:56:53 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
Drinking enhances depression and makes bipolars much much worse.. ask me, i'm a bipolar recovering alcoholic...
He might try Alcoholics Anonymous for starters. He has to WANT help and he has to DO THE WORK it takes to manage his illness and life. You are not responsible for what he eats, or whether he eats at all. You are not his mother.
You could try Alanon, which is a free support group for those of us whose lives have been affected by an alcoholic. You will be suprised at the number of people living the same life you are as the result of living with someone who drinks... Alanon also has a website, and you might want to do a Yahoo search for Alanon for more information.
Please don't be his caretaker or codependent. You have your own set of issues. I can't understand why you'd put up with his drinking at all.
His drinking is probably the key to a big improvement with his illness issues. Quitting helped me 100%.
2007-09-26 07:32:33 · answer #1 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
www.dbsalliance.org has a lot of information on bipolar disorder and at this link: http://www.dbsalliance.org/site/PageServer?pagename=support_findsupport you can search for support groups in your area, if you're in the U.S.
Sorry, I can't be of more help.
2007-09-26 04:36:22 · answer #2 · answered by fiVe 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋