Would you find a woman attractive who is slightly overweight because of medication if she has a pretty face?

Question

One year and half ago i had to have a ft and a half removed from my small intestines. They do not know why this happened or what causes it. Since then i've been on medication for my digestive system. It took me 4 months to recover enought to get out of bed and be more active. I currently enrolled in a dental program and hope to gain more energy to eventually lose the weight and more importantly gain my self esteem back. All of my friends give me compliments all the time, but are they just being nice cause they don't want to hurt my feelings?

I also wanted to mention that i do have a fiance and not a day goes by that he doesn't say i'm still HOT!

Answer 1

one thing you need to remember is that everyone's appearence changes throughout their life, whether it be illness, depression that leads to weight gain or weight loss, car accidents and such, etc.

You should be proud and feel good that you are doing better and that you have a fiance that gives you so much support. You are just as beautiful as you were before the operation.

Dont worry what other people think about you. They dont know exactly what you are going through. This experience should teach you alot about yourself and alot about other people. Alot of people may judge you just by your appearence, but these people are shallow. Not even worth your time what these people would even think about you.

Good luck

Answer 2

You will and always will be pretty. Don't let you illness control your life. All you can do is do your best to try and overcome your battles and be a healthy as you can be. Some people face illnesses and don't come out of them alive. You should be thankful that you still have a life to live. Now that you do have a life to live, you must now face any challenges you have face on and continue to love yourself no matter how you look. Things could be a lot worse for you and you should appreciate the things that you still do have. Just continue the rehabilitation process and don't try to rush it. Focus on getting healthy and everything else will fall into place. Trust me, you don't want a guy that only wants to date you because you are skinny and have a pretty face. You want a guy that can appreciate and understand all that you have been through and someone that can see you for the person that you are and not for your physical appearance. You definitely don't want a shallow guy. Also, learn to appreciate your friends. They could have easily abandoned you while you where going through your challenges. However, they didn't and now they seem to praise you every chance they get. What's not to love about that? You sound like you have a great group of friends who will be there for you eternally. Appreciate all that you have.

Answer 3

I don't know where everyone gets the idea that being thin is the route to true happiness or successful relationships. I walk through the mall and do you know what I see? A lot of thin women shopping alone and a lot of somewhat overweight women shopping with their husbands and children.

I don't think it matters how thin a woman is. I would much rather have a woman that is easy to be with than an obsessive high maintenance type on a constant diet.

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Answer 4

Ok, not everyone wants a superthin model like girl. Believe it or not, men like curvy women.

Here's my advice to you.

Build your confidence back and re-charge your self esteem by loving yourself again. It's great that you are up and walking again and are recovering from a huge surgery--but let that be your focus right now. Focus all of your energy on getting better, don't worry about who finds you attractive.

Don't change your diet or anything unless you speak to your doctor about it first, you don't want to put yourself on a diet that ends up counteracting with your condition.

Now taht you are active you should lose weight, it may take time but you will. And you will find someone who loves you for who you are, who cares what society says--there is someone out there for all of us--and that's whether we are 100 or 500 lbs.

Love yourself and let that be your confidence...there is nothign more attractive than a confident woman or man..even if they are heavy

Answer 5

being a woman, it might be awkward to help you here.

there are many beautiful women who are overweight. and because of this they are accepted into groups of friends as well as being clean and actually have a personality.

most overweight people get into such a depressed state about themselves that they turn into these really mean and ornary people. that is the reason other don't want to be around them. they also are very rude to women who are not as large and this causes the leaner women to steer clear making things worse.

if you have a good heart and you like people, your weight should not be a burden to you. keep in mind you friends are trying to help you by complimenting you (things they do see in you) and hope you come out of your slump. you must be worth it or they wouldn't be around.

Answer 6

This world is harsh to overweight people. Its like it is just okay to make fun of them. In Good luck chuck, overweight people are made fun of. It sucks, but it is true. And being told you have a pretty face will get real old real quick.

Answer 7

im also in the league of big girls and i used to get so low and down about it all as well, i have an under active thyroid which dosent really help with my weight, he causes weight gain and also it makes it hadr to loose it, but hey so what.
I am thankful that i have family and friends who care and love me and a guy who adores me and tells me im lovely. Im not perfect but id rather have that little bit more meat then look like a pile of bones. You sound like a decent person and any other decent person will see that as well, if they dont then do you really want to know and be around a person like that, i wouldnt, i value myself to much. At the end of it, i and you should know that to be a warm kind person comes top of the list any day,look at what you have done and achieved and be proud of yourself, once you are happy with you then so many good things will come to you, i wish you lots of luck.

Answer 8

I am a BBW and I feel very attractive and know that others are attractive to me because of my personality and my caring way of treating people. Sometimes I even forget that I am 70 lb overweight. People will treat you the way you allow them to treat you. If you project self esteem people will look at your heart not your looks. Believe it or not there is alot of men out there that are attractive to BBW. Looks are not everything in life. Take care of your health and good luck

Answer 9

that sucks, but no i wouldn't find her attractive.

humans find other humans attractive who look balanced: ex. slim, porportionate, and symetrical.

people who are over weight, have weak chins or have other balance issues are instinctivly viewed as being unhealthy and therefore unattractive.

to continue the human race we want to mate with the most healthy looking memebers of the opposite sex so that our offspring has the greatest chance of surviving.

doesn't sound like you fit this discription.

so while you may have an attractive personality... it sounds as if you may be bloated/swollen and generally unhealthy looking. it is hard to believe that someone would be genuinly overly attracted to you right now.



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Answer 10

You need to love yourself first before you let someone else in. Weight can come & go, so don't stress about that, just worry about your health and yourself first. Your friends are being genuine, they are there for you and would tell you if something needed to be fixed. There are only two people who will tell you the god to honest truth, enimies and true friends. I hope you are well now & good luck!