please do answer seriously..oh my God, I know this sounds so pathetic but I really need to hear from you guys..He's been with me for almost a year now..but I've caught him several times..texting other girls..ok..he has this habit of getting interested with other girls..dating, texting them out..and when I find out (God, I check his phone without him knowing it!),he would discard them..i know men are men but isn't there any chance that he would just stick with me..just me!..whenever i bring the issue out, he would actually put the blame on me..i was supposed to be the one angry because he's kinda flirting with other women but he turns the table on me..and he gets mad because I check his phone..Oh God, I know, I should be dumping him..but i just couldn't..he could easily talk things out smoothly and makes it appear like it was my fault..he actually doesn't think that he's doing something bad..what am i supposed to do..is he really right? am i just overreacting?..
2007-09-26 03:44:18 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He sounds like a loser and he's manipulative. You sure you want to be his "only one?" I would trust him as far as I could throw him. There are better men out there...trust me on this one. You don't need him and his manipulative ways.
2007-09-26 03:48:37 · answer #1 · answered by CC 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm going to be blunt. You are being manipulated, and being a door mat. This man does not love you, nor does he really care for you. You are not over reacting. Get out of that relationship immediately and do NOT look back. A real relationship full of love and commitment does not have the insecurities you are currently experiencing.
Also, know that any man you are ever with will look at other women. But that doesn't mean that they will act. Men and women can be friends but it usually requires that you be at least acquainted with them as well.
2007-09-26 04:01:31 · answer #2 · answered by Poppet 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Besides the texting have you seen any other evidence to think that he may be going out with these other girls? It might just be friendly flirting. I would be cautious though if this happens a lot. A relationship is all about trust and there just isn't much trust in this relationship from what you have written.
Best thing to do would be to move on and find someone else you can trust.
2007-09-26 03:50:28 · answer #3 · answered by Die S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't want to get paranoid because of the texting, but if he is actually texting to ask the girls out on dates, then you definitely need to dump him. he isn't ready to be committed to just one person. You can either accept him the way he is now, or find someone who thinks like you do about committment. It's up to you to make a change, because he isn't going to .
2007-09-26 03:52:08 · answer #4 · answered by The pink panther 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. In the first place you should have not looked into his phone coz that is a personal belonging. I am your boyfriend I would think and feel that you don't trust me enough therefore it is not me whom you love but yourself. It is but natural for human to mingle with other people but for you to hamper it would be an over reaction. your not his wife yet and your acting like one. Boys don't like that. they want that their girl respect their privacy and most of all trust them. If you continue to that you are just pushing him to look for another who trust him and one who never assumes too much.
2007-09-26 03:52:37 · answer #5 · answered by mitchell 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would run!! No your not the only one. If he will do it now then he will do it again and again.
No your not over reacting. If you do not trust him now you will never trust them. You do not want to live always having to check his cell phone, pager, or email, Thats not a way to live!!
2007-09-26 03:48:53 · answer #6 · answered by New B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here's the dead truth.
He is seeing other people, he does not have any respect for you--bottom line...if you choose to stay with him, your stupid..work on your self esteem, there are plenty of fish in the sea, dump this loser, you are too good for him.
2007-09-26 04:18:34 · answer #7 · answered by Annie M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are only dating, then it is ok for him to see other people.
If you live together or very serious then that is different.
Speak to him and see what he is wanting from the relationship.
2007-09-26 03:48:22 · answer #8 · answered by tayhay 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not over reacting. Women have a 6th sense about these things. If you suspect he is a cheater, then he probably is.
2007-09-26 03:48:29 · answer #9 · answered by happydawg 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you need to drop him. you're wrong for checking his phone without his consent, but it sounds like he's creeping, and in that case, you have every right to feel the way you feel!
2007-09-26 03:48:35 · answer #10 · answered by [♥]ÿºú-kñºw-whº[♥] 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋