My Wedding is 3 weeks away and was told last week that I could not be wed in a catholic church....(i was Married before) I do have an anullment but it's from the state and I need a church anullment. My finacee wants to marry in a church but I dont know what to do.....any suggestions??
2007-09-26 03:29:45 · 18 answers · asked by Big Daddy Lou 09 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Unitarian Universalist Church.
Try finding those.
Or a nondenominational.
2007-09-26 03:34:11 · answer #1 · answered by Terri 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
WHOA!!!
First of all- this all should have been caught MONTHS ago. In the parish I work for, you can't even SET a wedding date on the parish calendar until any church anulment papers are in the hands of the pastor!
Either you weren't honest upfront with the priest or he dropped the ball BIG TIME.
You didn't say which of you is Catholic, but it boils down to this- if you marry without the RIGHT annulment, you are committing adultery. The Catholic Church upholds the dignity of marriage and assumes ALL marriages are valid unless proven otherwise. That's what an anulment does.
If you marry outside the Church, you are living in a state of objective mortal sin and cannot recive the Eucharist until A. the anulment is granted, B you go to confession and C your marriage is convalidated by the Church.
MARQUEL is WAAAAYYYYYY wrong- a priest is NOT obligated to give that kind of blessing. Infact, he will get in MAJOR trouble for blessing a civil marriage that cannot be convalidated in the Church. Unless both parties are free to marry, the priest cannot give a blessing.
2007-09-26 05:47:25 · answer #2 · answered by Mommy_to_seven 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Try asking another catholic church in your area. Different churches have different opinions on re-marriage. If you still are not able to get married in the catholic church then find a local church directory and choose a religion that you feel comfortable with using. Non-denominational would be a great church because the tend to me more open to all religions moreso than a lot of other denominations.
Another option would be to find a catholic priest who will marry you outside of the church. So, you could get married in a garden, park, etc. but a priest will still reside over your wedding.
2007-09-26 03:53:21 · answer #3 · answered by Wedding Planner 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why is that people feel that God can only be found in a church?!?!?! God is everywhere! Why not find an outside chapel and a non-denominational minister to marry you. That's what we're doing. Or if it *has* to be a church, try Unitarian. I'm surprised the Catholic church waited until 3 weeks before your wedding to tell you this...then again, Catholics are evil. Good luck!
2007-09-26 05:19:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You want to marry in ANY church? Then start calling around. Are one of you Catholic? Catholics look at marriage differently than most other religions. You need to look into what it means to you and what role the Catholic faith plays in your live. If you are not following the Catholic faith, then your options are wide open.
Or if the Catholic SACRAMENT of marriage is meaningful to you, get on the phone with the priest that married you and see if this is something that can be accomplished inside of 3 weeks. You never know...
Otherwise, start calling other churches now.
2007-09-26 03:42:18 · answer #5 · answered by Proud Momma 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look in the phone book or ask some friends. The other thing is that a lot of ministers are requiring premarital counseling so work on this quickly.
Contact a hospital or funeral homes to see what clergy they use or could recommend when families don't have those representatives.
Other non- Catholic Christian churches.
2007-09-26 03:50:56 · answer #6 · answered by That NC Girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your fiance has three options:
1) marry outside a church, but still have a pastor officiate.
2) marry in a non-catholic church.
3) push back the wedding and get the 1st marriage annulled by the church.
those are your only options. there is no magic that can be worked. god will still ordain your marriage and acknowledge it, even outside of a church, because as the bible says, "where ever two or more are gathered in my name, i am there." remind your fiance of this scripture and proceed with your plans. don't confuse church (man-made) doctrine and rules with god's rules. He is there whether you are in a church or not.
2007-09-26 11:05:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
try nondenominational....The Catholic Chuch has a lot of rules...I want to be married on the beach and am Catholic...but the priests won't marry outside the church. nondenomenational or methodist or some place that is less strict should marry you. Although, you normally need to belong to the church to be married there... or give a generous donation? check around with your local churches that aren't Catholic.
2007-09-26 04:40:26 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Frankly, I'm not sure where you could get married if the catholic church won't let you. I'm not very religious and no virtually nothing about the differences between them, but couldn't you try getting married at a Christian church? Or something similar?
2007-09-26 03:38:40 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Many churches do not require a "church anullment" to get married. You can also have a private ceremony and have a minister perform the ceremony.
2007-09-26 03:36:48 · answer #10 · answered by Asked and Answered 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My fiance was married before, yet he doesnt have the annulment, but I talked to a catholic priest and we will have a "blessing for the NEW family" its not a wedding per se, we will have only wedding bands. Its a beautiful ceremony and Priests have the obligation to give this kind of Blessings.
Good luck
2007-09-26 03:58:58 · answer #11 · answered by Marquel 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋