I dont think people who live in apartments should have kids - if you disagree state why...?

Question

Kids need to be outdoors for playing - they need yard.
Kids need stability of living in an OWNED home.
Kids make noice which disturbs neighbours - apartments are even harder to contain noice in.
Apartment kids have no contact with nature - eg. dont have gardens etc.
Parents who live in apartments and then have kids will find it more difficult to save $ for home ownership.

Sooooo Basically I am saying people should buy a home first BEFORE having kids - or simply NOT HAVE KIDS!

I have not seen 1 advantage or 1 good reason why kids are better in apartments - I dont want answers from selfish points of view - I want answers as to WHY ITS BETTER FOR KIDS TO BE IN APARTMENTS???

I live in the country.

putting the interest of your kid ahead of your own biological desires is NOT being selfish -
just because you WANT a kid - doesnt mean you offer the BEST home environment for it...

Landlords can kick you out at any time - its unstable...

I used to live in the city... but left it because you are so out of touch with reality when surrounded by cement structures..

when you OWN - you have an investment - rather than putting $$ into a landlords fat little hands...

Answer 1

You make everything sound so simple. If everyone waited until they could afford their own home or whatever before having kids, the population growth would come to a screeching halt. Not everyone can afford to own a home, if they could there would be less apartment buildings out there. Honestly, I don't think there is a generic BETTER choice.

I think you're unfair in saying that kids who live in apartments have no contact with nature. You make specific reference to gardens. Not all homeowners have gardens. Those who live in apartments can give their kids contact with nature by going to parks, zoos, etc. Many apartment complexes have many more amenities (playgrounds, pools, weight rooms, etc) than I do as a homeowner.

It's not just kids who make noise in apartments. How often do you hear of police being called for noise disturbance because of someone's party and loud music? Some adults are also just noisier than others too.

Did you ever stop to think of those serving in the armed forces? They cannot buy a house at every location they go to. Some live in base housing (which often has a long waiting list), while others find residence off base. Yes, some do buy their own homes, but most cannot afford to. This can be due to their income/debt, but realisitically, they have no way of knowing how long they're going to live there and they would take a loss if they move within a couple years or so.

It's not WHERE you live, it's what you DO that determines the best place for kids to live. You deal with what life dishes out and you make the best of it. If you don't like kids in apartments, maybe you should buy your own house so you don't have to worry about it.

Answer 2

I do not agree with you at all on this subject and I think that you are somewhat of an *** who doesnt like kids and you live in a apartment with noisey neighbors with children.

Some people do not have a lot of money but you are gonna go and tell them that they should not have children because all they can afford at the moment is an apartment.

I live in a 2 bedroom condo and pay $500.00 dollars a month for rent, I have a huge back yard and the whole inside is brand new, my landlord will not bump up the rent because she just wants someone to live there to take care of the place and keep it up and clean.

Granted I do not have TONS of money in the bank but I have some definitely not enough for a down payment on a home. But my Husband and I have been married for two years and we want children. So therefore whether you live in an apartment or not as long as you give the child a loving, nourishing and clean environment to live in then what is the problem???

Ohhhh and by the way I have a garden 2 in fact!!!

Also, learn how to spell or use spell checker it's NOISE not NOICE!!!



9 wks Pregnant and I Rent my home

Answer 3

Children can thrive in either apartments or houses or townhouses or on a houseboat for that matter. A stable home does not mean an OWNED home or one with a yard. It means one free of abuse of all kinds and one that lacks hostility among the family members. A stable home has love and caring, and family bonding. Now I believe a child does need security and does need a place to call their own, whether it's rented or owned is irrelevant -- it's the homeless and poverty stricken children that I worry about in that regard.

As for the noise level in apartments? Give me a break. I'd take a family with 5 kids over someone playing their music at 2:00 a.m. any day. And there can be noise in a single family home too -- people everywhere fight, play music, run lawnmowers, etc. There's no getting away from noise unless you move out to the country . So don't use the noise level as a reason to keep people from having kids in an apartment. Disturbing neighbors should NOT be a relevant factor when deciding to have kids.

Having children and owning a home do not and should not go hand in hand. And while you're not looking for selfish answers, you sure asked a selfish or at least self-centered question. Everyone's entitled to their opinion of course, but you vented yours a bit too dictatorially.

Answer 4

My husband is on disability and is unable to work. Does that mean he should never have the opportunity to be a father because there is no way he'll ever be able to buy a house? We live in an apartment that is close to several large parks and near the water front which has a bike/walking path where our kids can play and go exploring.

If you want a good reason for kids to live in apartments then here's one- respect. When children live in apartments they learn that yes there are other people living in the building and they must keep the noise down, pick up after themselves and be kind and courteous to other people. I've known many children who lived in houses that run and scream throughout the house then do the same thing when they are around other people because they've never learned to respect other people. They also leave their toys laying around because they don't share the space with anyone.

So for our family apartment living is a learning experience and it's the best thing we can do for them.

Answer 5

It's not better for kids to be in apartments. It ain't worse, either.

But it shouldn't be forbidden by any means!

Parents can take their kids to parks and playgrounds
Kids don't give a crap whether their parents own or rent-stability scmability in the mind of a child. There is no proof existing anywhere, ever that a child needs to live in an owned home for any kind of stability.
Many apartments are child friendly.
Kids have contact with nature any time they walk out the door, whether they live in a house, apartment or trailer.
Parents who live in apartments can certainly save for home ownership if that is a priority. Maybe they get a raise at work. Maybe they have saved all along. Who's to say??

I am assuming due to your language usage and closed mindedness that you are very young. Sweeping generalizations and the closed-mindedness that you exhibit above always make my skin crawl.

You don't know what goes on in other people's families. People do what works for their own, specific family.

Answer 6

Some apartments have better aminities then homes, what matters is how you raise your children in a loving enviroment, not if they live in an apartment or a home, it is still a roof over their heads.
You go to like New York area and most people live in apartments with their children but it doesn't enable them from being able to care adn provide for their children.
You living in a home or an apratment should reflect on the abilities to raise a child, if you have a home, are financialy stable and have the heart and are ready for a child then you should be able to.
Just because you live in an apartment doesn't mean that you are unstable nor unfinancally equipt to have a child.
My mother managed an apartment when I was a child and my father lived on a private lake and honestly I had fun at both of them, they both had swimming facilities and alot of kids to play with.
My mother didn't have to worry about me being blocks away because everyone lives right there.
So being in an apartment and being in a high class neighborhood had no effect on me.

Answer 7

For one, you are selfish and probably live in an apartment with a noisy kid upstairs, I have a 4 year old daughter, and we live in an apartment. In fact, we have for 2 years now... and our neighbors dog makes more noise than my daughter. She plays outside constantly, we have a garden and a river in our "backyard", there are other kids, pets and people to spend time with. She has playmates that come over to play on the weekends and other times as well. I can't buy a house as of yet, I am building credit, and I want a husband who wants to buy a house as well. What you are saying is unfair to the single parents, young parents, and so on. I never said my daughter is better off in an apartment, but we make do. We have close neighbors who know our routines, and know my daughter very well. We look out for each other and take care of one another. Like I said, you probably have some loud kid upstairs, and are bitter about it.

Answer 8

LOTS of people OWN appartments/flats, What kind of person are you??!!! Obviously one who has no children and no life if this is all you can worry about.

Children are no better off living in a house than an appartment, Lots of appartments are plenty big enough for a a family of 4 or five with plenty of outdoor space too, besides most families take their children out places to the park, to visits friends etc.. its nice to get away from home a few hours a day plus children are a school 5 days a week and have plenty of outdoor time and social time.

GET A LIFE!!!!!!!!

Answer 9

You don't want answers from people with selfish points of view? Your "question" is one of the most selfish points of view I have ever seen. When my husband and I were first married, he worked at a job where he was transferred often. We did not buy a home before we started having children, because we did not want to buy a home if we might have to move in 6 to 9 months. We mostly rented houses with yards, but we lived in an apartment or two. They were actually nice. They had a playground area and a pool. One of the apartments we lived in had a little creek running beside it where we could fish. I couldn't say that kids are better off in an apartment than in a home that their parents own, but I wouldn't say that they are necessarily worse off either. I don't really think it matters if they live in a house or apartment or if their parents rent or own. What matters is that their parents love them and spend time with them and take care of them. We own our home now, but there is a park down the street and I think my kids play there more than they play in our yard. You really need to get off your high horse and mind your own business.

Answer 10

Its impossible to keep kids that age from not running. As long as its during normal hours (like not super early in the morning or super late at night) - then I don't see any problem with it. One suggestion - if you don't have it already, can you put some rugs or carpeting down where they are running? they can help reduce the noise considerably. And keep your kids in socks or bare feet in the apartment - less noisy than shoes running. If your neighbor complains again, explain the measures you have taken to help reduce the noise, but also nicely let him know that they are toddlers, and while you'll do the best you can, unless you tie them to their beds all day, they're going to make some noise occasionally. If you want to be super duper neighborly, you can always ask him if there is a time of day that he absolutely can't take the noise of them (maybe during dinner or something) and you'll do your best to keep them quiet during that time period (if you think its even possible!) Good luck!