We moved in to our new house about 6 weeks ago and so far hardly anyone has come over to say hi, or if we are outdoors and see them across the yard, they still don't wave or smile. I know everyone loved the people that lived here before us, but come on! So, it's been 6 weeks and we are now settled and I am wondering if I should walk around and introduce myself? Even though they should have been the ones to do it...can I do it this late and not seem weird? Thing is, there are a lot of moms at home around here like myself and I'd really like to make a friend with similar interests to my own. Thanks for any advice!
2007-09-26 02:54:11 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Yes.
I've always been forced to flip the script and bring my neighbors a dish even though I'm the new one!
The truth is that many people today ignore the important rule of welcoming new neighbors. They are ignorant and short-sighted and do not mind not knowing their neighbors.
2007-09-26 03:05:14 · answer #1 · answered by alanastarkey 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sadly in today's world , our neighbors don't introduce themselves like they did.
Why not host an informal party for all the neighbors at your new home.
Serve a light beverage, and some appetizers, make it a come and go through the afternoon on the weekend.
You could have the football game going for the men and set up something for the children to do to engage the moms and children.
Be sure to invite some of your old friends, so that your new neighbors do not feel as if they have to entertain you.
Make the invitation something funny so your new neighbors know you have a good sense of humor.
"The last day of Sunshine Backyard BBQ"
"Meet the Neighbors"-( we promise we're not the Hollywood story)- imprint some sort of goofy looking neighbors on the front.
"We're packing up the lawnmower party"
Anything kind of goofy.
Good luck and hope you meet some new friends
2007-09-26 10:05:14 · answer #2 · answered by silly_me 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it is a housewarming party. Invite the neighbors over for a barbecue or picnic on your front lawn or driveway. Invite the neighbors personally, and besure to ask for any dietary restrictions. Like if they were koser or allergic to peanuts. Tell them to dress casual and no gifts are required.
On the day of the party, you can rent folding chairs look up rental in your phone book. Or you can suggest everyone bring their own, but that is more tacky. Decorate the front of the house with balloons or something. Have your cake and punch and plenty of food and paper plates. Also have some Reynolds wrap handy so people can take food home.
If you got the budget you can hire a DJ or a clown to entertain the kids.
2007-09-26 10:02:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I wouldn't assume that they are upset because you moved in where a beloved neighbor once resided. However, I do think it a bit terse that they don't seem to be acknowledging your presence.
However, sometimes people are introverts and it is not within their nature to make the first move. Take it upon yourself to introduce yourself. If the "frostiness" continues look elsewhere for new friends.
Good luck.
Peace.
2007-09-26 10:21:23 · answer #4 · answered by -Tequila17 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You could go over and let them know that you were thinking how you still haven't really met everyone and you just wanted to introduce yourself and say hello. If you think about it, it may be the same thing the people before you had to do. These paople may be shy at first. It won't hurt to go over.
2007-09-26 10:08:00 · answer #5 · answered by Steve P 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't go knocking on their doors, but if you see someone at the mailbox or in the yard, it would be nice of you to go introduce yourself. We've had the same issue on our street. We just waited and waited for people to say hi and it never happened. 4 yrs later, we still barely know anyone. I would love to go back and be more outgoing. I feel like now it would be weird.
2007-09-26 09:58:42 · answer #6 · answered by PandaJ 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Of course. Introduce yourself. Knock on doors if it's not too early or late or about dinner time if you feel comfortable doing that. The rest of the neighbors are just as curious and shy as you are.
2007-09-26 10:11:55 · answer #7 · answered by jack of all trades 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should introduce yourself. maybe that's why no one has made the first move, because they were waiting for you. It's not weird wanting to know your neighbors at all! If anything, they'll appreciate the fact that you properly introduced yourself! Good luck!
2007-09-26 09:59:24 · answer #8 · answered by [♥]ÿºú-kñºw-whº[♥] 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, go ahead and do it. It can't hurt anything and maybe you will find a new friend. Just don't stay long at any one place.
2007-09-26 11:21:06 · answer #9 · answered by makeloans2 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Leave them alone. If they don't smile or wave, do the same.
2007-09-27 04:25:47 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋