Do Christians feel like this?

Question

I'm a Christian a Pastor's kid. Please don't leave rude comments, because they will be ignored.

Not everybody's relationship goes right first off. Mine didn't I got abused and so did the kid's mentally. Their dad did some really stupid stuff and now he has visitation.

Is it normal to feel scared to talk or be around him? They are very "RUDE" to put it nicely. Threatening also.

My kids

My ex

"supervised visits for him" I have to supervise him

Answer 1

The presentation of this question confused me. See if I understand: You are the grown daughter of a pastor. You married into an abusive relationship, in which your children have also been abused by this rude and threatening person. Is this correct?
If you are frightened for your own or your children's safety, you must notify the police for protection and ask your attorney if there is any way to disallow visitation in this case. If you *must* send the children, here's what I did: When I was *required* to send my daughter to visit her emotionally abusive dad and physically abusive step-mother, I had to remember that her heavenly father goes everywhere with her to protect and comfort her, while I could not. I had to entrust her to his care and continuosly pray for her safety and well-being. My friend sent this Scripture: "For thus says the Lord, Even the captives of the mighty shall be taken away, and the prey of the terrible shall be delivered; for I will contend with him who contends with you, and I will give safety to your children and ease them (Isaiah 45:26 Amplified). I *felt* like cowering in fear, but when I realized that my child's safety depended upon the strength of my faith, I rose up "strong in the Lord and in the power of his might." The Lord intervened. In two days, my daughter called to say her dad was divorcing the woman, and he sent my daughter home early. You can trust the Lord. Your children cannot afford for you to be fearful, so apply your faith for their sakes. I hope that you find this helpful, and I pray that it will be well with you and your children.

Answer 2

I'd really need to know details, but - given what you say, why would you WANT to talk to him or be around him? I'm sure the visitation is supervised - if not stay clear. This sounds like a "friend's" father. let your friend and his dad work it out. And yes! Even Christians feel afraid - especially if one has been abused (This could connotate verbal, physical or sexual abuse. Yeah, BE afraid, upset, avoid contact with the person, maybe later, when you are grown, you can figure out how you can forgive him. God tells us to choose GOOD and avoid Evil. This is an evil person, do not let him make you doubt your faith while you cannot forgive him!

Answer 3

Fear is a way to know or suspect that you're in danger. If you feel scared you should determine if there is a real cause. In your case, from what I can understand, there is reason to fear, as the dad has proven to be abusive.

Take steps to prevent possible harm to you and the kids:
1. have a friend or family member(s) present during visits.
2. keep a phone handy and use it if there is the least indication of violence.
3. there are government and private organizations that help people in abusive situations, contact several for advice on how to protect yourself and the children.

Answer 4

Yes, Christians can feel like that. Why? Because a person doesn't stop being human when they become Christian!
What you mentioned...the rudeness, the threatening, those things can be just manipulation techniques an abuser will use.
Is it normal to be scared, even be around such a one? Yes, if you really have no way out.
You really NEED to talk to your trusted parent about this, and they NEED to hear this from you.

Answer 5

i'm hectic and uneasy around them, usually. The ''born-agains'' have a manner of transforming into me sense very uncomfortable. there are a number of in those communities who've an fairly elitist way of questioning (''no real Christian could ever try this or have faith that, or make a mistake''), and that's probable what does it for me. Mulereiner and Crusader supply appropriate examples of this with their solutions. i will guess $50 they have not got faith that the Eucharist is the literal physique and blood of Jesus Christ, yet this is strictly what the Bible says. nevertheless, i'm not a ''real Christian'' to them by using fact it is what i think. i don't purely like the way such quite a few fundamentalist communities are so wrapped up in politics, nor am I a Zionist who needs to ''hurry God up'' while it includes Biblical prophecy. one in all those outlook makes me hectic for the way forward for the finished globe. yet to be user-friendly, the leaders of fundamentalist communities are doing a lot to help human beings lead greater effective lives. they help their congregants with habit, moneyhandling issues, and all way of different ''residing issues'' greater desirable than quite a few different communities i've got observed. it is the place we average varieties would desire to probable stand to take notes. i think that anybody who considers himself to be greater effective than yet another for the easy actuality that he's Christian hurts Christianity. I additionally sense that ''hellfire and brimstone'' preaching does the comparable, yet those messages and attitudes would desire to come from any member of any Christian denomination. Peace, Drew

Answer 6

yes, I grew up in that kind of environment, you have to refuse the negative emotions and work through your feelings and just be honest and realize that you have the greatest back-up in the universe.I would keep detailed records of this persons actions around your kids, a witness would be a bonus. If you tell him how you feel about his abuse it may or may not help your situation but you will feel better for being honest. Please contact any local shelters for abused women and ask for some support, even a shoulder to cry on can be a lifesaver. Also contact your local police if he becomes threatening or abusive to you or your kids and your social worker should also be in the loop. I have helped many women escape my abusive kin folks just to see them return for seconds. So be careful of any traps he may lay for you to regain control over you.

Answer 7

Many young people suffer from what is called the `Father Wound` and it is the cause of great instatbility among the youth, violent and absentee Fathers sow seeds of destruction and leave scars on their children that cause them to grow up embittered and angry with religion and sometimes society at large.
It is one of the cause also of teenage suicides and these dysfunctional Fathers must be shown their errors and educated on the facts.
Overbearing militant type Fathers do indeed instill fear intheir children and it may well be that a lot of these were treated like this by their own Fathers, but still it is something that needs to be addressed.

Answer 8

I'm Christian, lets take that fact out of the picture. Yes, your feelings are normal. You must stand on your legal rights, always. Never interfere with his visitation. You have the right, every time he walks in your door to get the kids, to record the conversation, but tell him you have a recorder running every time, with that statement taped also. He has the right to say nothing on tape, respect that right. Be the person you know you should be to him, but you must have proof of his pattern of conduct for future reference. I'll bet you'll never have another threat. If they continue, on tape, with his consent, he could be deemed by the courts as dangerous and loose visitation.

Answer 9

My dad did some bad things when me and my sister was young. We tried to forgive him for those things, but he never tried to have a relationship with us. Now years down the road we don't even see him and he still doesnt call us.

Answer 10

I'm so sorry this is happening to you. You can't do anything about his visitation rights. Try to be brave for the sake of your children and I'll pray for you to have peace about this whole deal.