I have recently purchased a vibrator, my boyfriend found it and went mad he says it makes him feel not good enough. What should i do??
2007-09-26 02:20:06 · 21 answers · asked by Susannah 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Maybe you should start by explaining why you bought it. He may feel insecure about you having one because it may seem as though he's not satisfying you sexually. If your sex life needs a little more spice to it and it's not because he's not satisfying you try letting him use it on you or use it on yourself and let him watch. He'll love that! As for it being wrong,..well I'd rather find a vibrator in the drawer than a man in the closet!
2007-09-26 02:28:40 · answer #1 · answered by johnnie b 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You get rid of it. If you got it just for getting it and the reason ISN'T because he isn't good enough, show him that he's wrong and that he's everything you've wanted.
Or--Tell him you can't "have" him anytime. LIterally, anytime. I mean who knows? What if you wake up in the middle of the night wanting? It may not happen but its possible. Can he be there? As much as he probably wants to, he might not. Then you have DUM DUM DUM DUMMMMMMMMM the vibrator.
2007-09-26 02:23:59 · answer #2 · answered by A wonder 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is absolutely nothing wrong with pleasing yourself if you're with someone and it has nothing to do with how good or bad he is in bed! Don't let him guilt trip you into thinking otherwise. Knowing your body and what turns you on will only make you a better lover, so he should be happy about it!
2007-09-26 02:23:40 · answer #3 · answered by ۞ Vixen ۞ 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
if you cant beat em join em :) I dont have a problem with a vibrator, cuz it cant do what I can do ;) I guess its a pride thing to some. But its just another toy. and no toy replaces the real thing
2007-09-26 02:25:34 · answer #4 · answered by Flying Spagetti Monster 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Do your best to make him feel more secure in his lovemaking. Teach him the things you like and don't like. Improve your bedroom life. My bf and I bought a dildo together and sometimes I use it on myself when he's not around and sometimes he uses it on me for fun. But there is no problem because he knows he is a great lover. Compliment him and make sure he knows he's the best!
2007-09-26 02:24:59 · answer #5 · answered by FlowerChild 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
For what ever reason you have for it , tell him.Any
other negative responses should be met with "get
used to it". There is an innermost part of every
human being and we each have to deal directly
with our own -- even if the squeeze don't like it.
(adultrous behavior is definitely a no no)
2007-09-26 02:30:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
No its not wrong. I'm sure he still masterbates and you have no problems with that right?
You may want to re-assure him that a toy can't take the place of warm hands or a mouth.
2007-09-26 02:24:36 · answer #7 · answered by trysh_mc 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that you really bought it because it turns you on to have him watch you do yourself with the vibrator.
2007-09-26 02:22:32 · answer #8 · answered by Trevor S 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Come on, what century does your boyfriend live in?
But you might invite him to use your toy together, perhaps that makes him less afraid of it.
2007-09-26 02:35:54 · answer #9 · answered by cyranonew 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get a new B/F ......Why is he not doing his job. Don't think it's your fault too many fish in the sea. Men love sex and will have it at the drop of a hat.
2007-09-26 02:24:30 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋