i'm 16 and i have a boyfreind who keeps asking me to tell my parents about us i try to tell my parents that i'm gay but i just keep hearing a voice inside my head telling me not to but if i don't i will be living a lie what should i Do?
2007-09-26 02:16:38 · 16 answers · asked by Spike 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I have never gone through this personally but back in high school one of my best friends did. It was probably the hardest thing he had ever done up until the point. Its a hard situation to make suggestions on because everyones parents react differently. My best suggestion is to find someone you trust to discuss the matter with. Someone to be a support system for you. Do not tell them if you are doing it simply because you feel pressured to do so, you have to be ready to come out. It is for you and not anyone else, so you have to do it when it is right for you.
2007-09-26 02:24:49 · answer #1 · answered by Cebsme 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is an alternative lifestyle for gay and lesbians people, along with a host of others--such as myself who are into BDSM. Google it. But see below. Most of the sites that deal with fetishes and alternative lifestyles are pay sites, but one listed below is free. Just be careful and follow all the safety rules. You'll meet people there who can advise you. You cannot change who you are, it is how you were born, but I believe you are too young to "declare" yourself just yet and I'm of the opinion that you should wait until you are legally an adult. However, I do know how you feel "living a lie" and this is why I chose to tell my daughter I am in the lifestyle rather than hide it from her--and I'm far over the age of consent!
Good luck.
2007-09-26 10:43:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's possible your parents know and are waiting for you to come to them. I knew with my son. You probably know your parents view on gay issues, so it's up to you how you approach them. A lot of parents of gay teenagers think they are going through a phase and that they'll grow out of it. That they're just exploring their sexuality, so be prepared for them to tell you that. You'll also get the lecture about AIDS, so I hope you're being safe on that. My son has gotten tested three times already and he's not even 19 yet. It's very scary for me, but I have to accept it. They might be hurt, but they do love you. And it's not fair for you to live a lie. You have a right to happiness as yourself, not as someone who they would expect you to be. Write things down if you have to so you know exactly what you want to say. Then hope everything turns out okay. If not, at least you know you can be yourself. Good luck.
2007-09-26 09:29:05 · answer #3 · answered by 2Beagles 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Live that lie for a couple of more years if your gut tells you not to. You aren't capable of supporting yourself, and there is college to think about. If your instinct tells you they won't have a good response, then unless your b/f is willing to support you and send you to college, then keep your mouth shut. Believe me, what seems important at 16, isn't so important when you have been thrown out and it takes years to get back on track.
2007-09-26 09:31:56 · answer #4 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
listen to the voice inside your head cause this is the voice of reason. do not tell them because your boyfriend is pressuring you to. you need to do it at the right time and on your own terms, its a very personal & private decision. Tell him to back off and stop pressuring you as you obviously are not ready to come out to them yet and if he really cares he will.
2007-09-26 09:27:38 · answer #5 · answered by pennylane 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, they need to be educated that being gay is NOT a choice. It is within you when you are born. If it was a choice then why would gays want to be in a situation where they can be ridiculed by some and bashed as well. Once they understand this, then you can go on and inch them in and eventually let them know about you. At this point they will then understand.
2007-09-26 09:39:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Telling your parents your gay is a very hard thing to do. You should do it when you feel its nessisary. No one should push you into it. Tell your boyfriend your not ready to tell them just yet. Your not living a lie your just not ready to tell them. Good luck with that.
2007-09-26 09:23:33 · answer #7 · answered by skitts 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First things first!!!! If you are GAY you are GAY!!!! you would tell the world.... There is no such thing as a closet person of anykind.
Why are we afraid to tell people anything? Because were afraid of their responses!!!! Why? BECAUSE ITS WRONG!!!!
Do straight people say their straight? YES
Do christians say theyre christian? YES
Do gay people say they are gay? YES
The only thing we hide are things we are embarrased about. If you are truely gay, you will tell everyone. Being the fact that you are hiding it, then it makes me believe that you have reservations about it all.
I know you have a boy friend and all..... But there is still a true rooted meaning of life deep inside of you and if you listen to that small voice then it will lead you.
2007-09-26 09:36:52 · answer #8 · answered by okiemuskvet 3 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Why don't you just browse around the subject like mom what do you think about gay people and do you think its wrong and see what she says and then if you feel that its okkay with her then tell it but if she thinks its wrong i would just wait and not tell her and tell her boyfriend that if he cares for you he'd understand that your not ready to tell her yet.
2007-09-26 09:21:46 · answer #9 · answered by Eureka_17 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just make a convo with ur parents about gay people ask them what they think of gay peopel, if they ask why say you think a friend of yours is gay or a friend of youyr s is gay, personally id be fine if i had a gay son, especially if he liked clothes shopping lol
2007-09-26 10:27:14 · answer #10 · answered by lilhails 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋