and we didn't go on a honey moon. i m not really for holidays, i don't like them, and now my mil is being a total pain about it wven though it has been nearly 7 months since. any way me and hubby aren't to worried, but she keeps on telling us that we are going to break up cause we didn't consumate the marriage the right way. she eckons that if we get divorced it will be my fault, and is telling my hubby that he should have chosen someone who will do as she says, and that he made the wrong choice. what can i do about mil from hell!!!!????????????
2007-09-26 02:15:59 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
i also didn't want to go on a honeymoon, cause we have a 3 year old. i felt that i was leaving her behind, and i didn't want to go with her.
i don't like holidays because i get stressed out when im not in my own familar area. my mil was quite nice to me before we got married and now she is actinglike this. she is a nutter!!!!
2007-09-26 02:49:06 · update #1
Did I read your answer correctly? That your mother-n-law thinks that the both of you have not 'consumated' your marriage because you did not go on a honeymoon? Does she (or you) know what the word 'consummate' means? It means to make your marriage legal, you and your husband had to have intercourse while you guys were married.
So..(haa haa) does your mother in law actually believe the two of you have not had sex since you guys didn't go on a honeymoon? I just want to get the story straight.
If that is the case, that your mother in law is that dumb, tell her not to worry, the marriage has been conummated correctly. But, honestly, it seems that your mother n law is just using the whole honeymoon thing as an excuse to diss you. I think there is something more going on,
2007-09-26 02:34:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Okay, so tell her to mind her own business!
Sounds like SHE's going to cause problems in your relationship.
And, just because you did not go on a honeymoon does NOT mean that you never consummated the marriage.
Put your foot down now, sounds like mama doesn't want to loosen the apron strings just yet. You DO NOT have to obey HER.
2007-09-26 03:42:08 · answer #2 · answered by Terri 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen all that is crap- I too married in March( by the way it does not have nothing to do) and I too did not have a "normal"
first night of marriage- this has nothing to do with all the love you both have for each other- my husband and I celebrated 25 years of marriage - so you see those trivial things have nothing to do with happiness. You consummate your marriage the way you want to do it- DON'T LISTEN TO OUT SIDERS- YOUR HUSBAND AND YOU ARE THE ONLY TWO IMPORTANT PEOPLE IN THIS WHOLE ISSUE!
HAVE A GOOD ONE!!
2007-09-26 02:24:28 · answer #3 · answered by Taz 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
All you have to do is remember that you married this man, not his mother-in-law, don't let her bother you by what she says. It will only ruin your marriage. You don't need to do anything for her, just make your husband understand your point of view, don't bad mouth your MIL but do tell him that it bothers you.
2007-09-26 02:30:26 · answer #4 · answered by heathermichelle9 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
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2017-01-02 17:09:09 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her to get stuffed. Just ignore her. She sounds like a stupid woman. It's none of her business about your marriage. I hate interfering parents!!
If she really wants you to have a honeymoon, tell her to pay for one for you. Anyway, who doesn't like going on holiday? That's weird.
2007-09-26 02:39:31 · answer #6 · answered by BTB2211 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ignore her, that is not going to make your marriage fail. You have good reasns why you do not want to go and if you hubby doesnt care then its fine. I really hope she gets better or it could be a rough road ahead.
2007-09-26 03:38:56 · answer #7 · answered by lisadaisy165 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that if she has such a problem with you guys not going on a honeymoon to fork over the money to go on one. That should shut her up.
2007-09-26 02:51:59 · answer #8 · answered by theewokprincess 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell your husband how you feel, let him know his mother is in the wrong and then have him put his foot down. She runs her mouth because he hasn't stepped up to the plate and told her to stuff it. He needs to stand up to her plain and simple.
2007-09-26 02:37:11 · answer #9 · answered by L H 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Tell your husband to man up and talk to his Mother... he needs to express to her that this is the decision that both you you guys made and it is really none of her business.....
2007-09-26 02:24:35 · answer #10 · answered by Moe 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋