Guys, what would you do in this situation?
this girl you've been chasing for months (about four) finally gave in (sexually) but you didn't have a chance to really explore her the way you wanted. When you ask her to do it again, she said no and that was the end of it. No matter how hard you try to persuade her (manipulate). You were not able to get much more than words that showed that she cared about you but she wouldnt give in sexually because she stated that she felt that after that experience she felt that it would be best if she stayed in a non-sexual relationship. What would you do in this situation?
she was a virgin
2007-09-26 01:37:18 · 9 answers · asked by . 3 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Many people who are virgins develop fantasies about what their first experience will be like. Rarely is the first experience as wonderful as people imagine it will be - perhaps not *even* rarely, perhaps never.
I would suggest you talk with her if possible. Ask her if possibly the first experience was not what she expected and that's why she's turned off. Perhaps you can explain to her that you really like her and want to continue the relationship but understand if she's uncomfortable with that. Perhaps if the first experience was not what she expected (awkward, for example, instead of magical) then you could explain that that's the way it is sometimes but that doesn't mean that it's always that way. In fact, the more two people are together - both sexually and nonsexually - the better the sex can become.
It was her first experience. It wasn't that great. There are two possible reasons: it's never that great (the first time) or it was *you*. In her mind, she can't distinguish between those possibilities. Only thing you can do is help her to do so. If you're unsuccessful, oh well; nothing further you can do.
2007-09-26 02:04:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ummm - give up move on. The fact that you are using words like chasing, finally gave in, explore her, manipulate - make me believe you don't actually care for this girl and it is about the "prize". Trying to manipulate a girl who's virginity you took so you can further explore her is twisted. I'm glad you posted in mental health cuz I think your sick!
2007-09-26 01:42:34 · answer #2 · answered by chrissy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Continue on with the relationship, and not pressure her. She may have wanted just the experience, or she may be testing to see if you really care about her.
2007-09-26 01:41:02 · answer #3 · answered by Beau R 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think she realized you were "in it to win it"
Have more respect for a virgin, kid. If you're looking to sow your oats look for a partner who is in it for sex, too.
You're a vile, sick man, who is only interested in what you can get, and resort to manipulations to get it. I'm SO glad you
can't have more. Serves you right.
2007-09-26 01:43:04 · answer #4 · answered by S&NFervor4Ever 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Wake up and smell the coffee. Wash you hands or the keyboard will get sticky and eventooly break.
2007-09-26 01:40:57 · answer #5 · answered by Mr Adventure 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wait for green signal meanwhile prepare for green signal
2007-09-26 01:42:39 · answer #6 · answered by Funny QNA 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
go get another virgin and keep having fun.
The four F's of women:
find them
Fu** them
forget them
forever
2007-09-26 01:41:06 · answer #7 · answered by CSND 3 · 0⤊ 4⤋
give up.. move on.. there are other girls out there
2007-09-26 01:39:40 · answer #8 · answered by fireguy 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Not have sex with her.
2007-09-26 01:39:43 · answer #9 · answered by Don't Try This At Home 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋