Yet, he won't let his son (my stepson, I met him when he was 2yo, he is now 8yo) to meet my husband? I don't think this is fair as he has our son (4yo) around his girlfriend every weekend. I asked him if I could take my stepson to a children's birthday party this weekend and he said "of course, just as long as this guy isn't there".
I don't understand. I don't want my stepson to feel as if I forgot about him.
2007-09-26 01:30:21 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I've spoken to him and there is no reason. He just won't have it. I guess I'll learn to live with it.
2007-09-26 02:40:53 · update #1
It is not your son, it is his son, and he makes the rules. Sorry.
2007-09-26 01:38:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Then stop with the drama between you and the ex and pay attention to the stepson. Its his son, he has the right to decide who he is around. If you really care about the stepson, and are not just trying to be tit for tat (he has your son around his g/f, so you think its fair to have his son around your husband), then plan activities with the stepson alone.
You are playing around with the emotions of a child. Knock it off.
2007-09-26 09:43:13 · answer #2 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Your stepson has no relationship with your husband, and realistically even you since you're no longer married to his dad. But your son is seeing your ex's girlfriend because she is part of his life now and may one day become his stepmother. Hard as it may be to take it, your stepson is no longer a part of your life.
2007-09-26 08:57:26 · answer #3 · answered by 2Beagles 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The thing is, you are no longer married to your step son's father and although you still care for your former stepson, it's his father's call (however immature). He actually doesn't have to let you see him at all.
The fact that you try to maintain a relationship with your step son is admirable and your ex is acting like a jackass as he appears to be more consumed with his feelings about your new boyfriend than those of your stepson.
2007-09-26 08:55:10 · answer #4 · answered by drewxjacobs 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It's your "ex's" Son !. ......If the child was your 'birth child' then you would have equal rights.....The Father has the right to decide where & who HIS child see's.......If the 4yr old is the child of both yourself & your "ex" then you have rights as to where the child goes when under YOUR supervision, and vice versa with your "ex" . It's a sad situation for you & the 8yr old step-son, but legally the child is no relation to you after the marriage ended. Hopefully the Father may relax his rules in the future, after overcoming whatever issue he has with your new Husband.........I hope so ...be patient...Love conquers all !
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2007-09-26 09:21:18 · answer #5 · answered by maharg 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If it is'yours and his son' - I understand the son being around the girlfriend...as far as the the step son- he is not your son - - that is totally up to him - because that is his child.
doesn't seem fair - but, it is what it is...if you really want to spend time with the step - son - just make it a private outing with just you and him - nothing wrong with that.
I also don't agree with the girl above me that said its wrong to bring the son around the girlfriend..she's a human being just like everybody else..I highly doubt they are having a makeout session at the time - she's just another person that the son has met......its not like he's going to be tramatized when the girl leaves.
2007-09-26 08:50:32 · answer #6 · answered by ★★★ Katharine ♥♥♥♥ 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It is very wrong of him to take a young child around a "girlfriend". But your "husband" would be a different story. The reason is that your husband is probably a staitionary part of your life and your child's, but girlfriends come and go. That woman has no real commitment, like a ring or marriage license, and it would be easy for her to walk away. Bringing people in and out of a young person's life is very damaging....it happened to me when I was younger, so I had mild trust/leaving issues with everybody for awhile. You have a husband, he made a commitment to you to be with you for his life, and although that may not end up being the case, it is still more definite that he being a "girlfriend". Also, the fact that he is being very hypocritical and having double standards makes it even more unfair. Sounds to me like your ex is still very jealous and controlling. And he is trying to just cause problems and hurt you. I would talk to him and the child...good luck, this is a tough one, but you are in the right, hope everything works out!!
2007-09-26 08:44:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anxious 2 · 1⤊ 3⤋
Bah...I gotta learn to read these things better...first off...if it is you EXES son, then you have no rights. Get over it. If it was a biological child of yours, then it would be different. Why in the world would you expect your ex's child to meet your new partner anyways???
2007-09-26 11:35:52 · answer #8 · answered by A R 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well i can understand the part where he don't want his son to meet your husband
but not letting to go to the party bcz your husband is there is weird.....
ask him whats his problem
maybe hes scare that he might do something to his son which is crazy to think that
2007-09-26 09:13:52 · answer #9 · answered by maya 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you asked your ex? Apparently there is something about your new husband that your ex doesn't like and doesn't want his son exposed to.
2007-09-26 09:36:58 · answer #10 · answered by Lady G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋