Well last night I found out that my Brother in Law's Girlfriend is going to have a baby and they also just announced that they are gettign married Next Saturday and I have been nominated to plan the wedding, weddign shower and baby shower and I have never done anything like this please help!
2007-09-26 01:00:23 · 18 answers · asked by My life is now complete PWK&RJC! 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Impossible to plan all three by next Saturday, and ridiculous of them to expect it.
And why is it your job to plan THEIR wedding? Brother-in-law and girlfriend should be doing that themselves.
If they have dropped it on you and you must do it all , I would concentrate on planning the wedding. Keep it simple as possible. Perhaps a very small intimate ceremony in THEIR home?
1. Find an officiant. Perhaps your regular clergy person?
2. Call a florist. Perhaps bouquets for the bride and her attendant, and bouts for groom and best man? Maybe a centerpiece for the table?
3. Call the bakery. Order a small cake.
4. Beverages? Champagne? Fruit punch? Coffee? Teas? Water? Sodas?
5. Plates? Utensils? Cups, glasses? Napkins? Cream? Sugar? Lemon? Ice?
If the wedding has to be planned by next Saturday, then I would consider anything else an extra. If you want more . . . then do it (say additional food? hiring a musician?) . . . but consider it an extra. Nice to have, but not strictly necessary.
Enlist the help of others. Why aren't this bride and groom doing anything? (They at the very least need to find their own clothing, get the marriage license, and do the invitations.) And where is the bride's family? Can they help with food? Can a family member act as photographer?
I would totally skip the bridal shower. It's not a necessity, and it is too much of a rush to plan one. This couple didn't give you much time. IF the couple MUST have one (and remember a bridal shower is not a necessity), enlist another person to be the hostess of that. Maybe an aunt or cousin, perhaps? Or maybe the bride's honor attendant?
Baby shower should not be held until the end of the pregnancy. A month or six weeks before the due date would be good. Delay the baby shower for now, even if her due date is rapidly approaching. Just concentrate on the wedding for now.
Look to theknot.com for ideas. And good luck to you.
2007-09-26 01:17:48 · answer #1 · answered by Suz123 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
With only one week you have a lot of work to do! I just don't know how you can possibly do all of those so quickly...Work on getting the church reserved and finding the preacher first. A lot of preachers require marriage counseling before they will marry a couple and this is usually done over several sessions. Have your brother-in-law and girlfriend go and get their marriage license right away too from the court house in the County they are getting married. Also start working on food...for the wedding reception and shower now. Hopefully for your sake (and depending on the wedding budget) you can find someone to cater both the shower and the wedding reception. And do the baby and wedding shower together!! Keep in mind you will probably have to do the shower on Thursday because the Wedding Rehearsal/decorating for the wedding usually takes place on Friday for a Saturday wedding. There is also flowers and a cake that has to be purchased and possibly locating a photographer. If you have a friend or family member who has some experience with planning a shower and/or wedding then enlist him/her. You will probably need help with all you have to do!
2007-09-26 01:17:57 · answer #2 · answered by *Almost ready* 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Guys, "brother in laws girlfriend"
I.e. her husband's brother has a girlfriend who is pregnant and getting married.
WOW, I cannot see you planning a huge wedding with that short notice.
Nix the baby shower for now. Frankly they should not be requesting a baby and wedding shower, its up to whoever is in their wedding party or whoever wants to plan one.
SO first concentrate on the wedding itself. They should not expect a big wedding with this close to when they want to get married.
Find out where they want to get married as well as who they would like invited. If they like the outdoors, find a park somewhere. Ask them what their budget is, as the budget will determine the wedding size and place.
You've only been nominated, so ask for help! From both the bride and groom and their families.
2007-09-26 03:38:28 · answer #3 · answered by Terri 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Geez, you are going to be busy!
Obviously, they cannot be expecting a big wedding or reception, so I think find someplace simple for the ceremony.
A nice park or someones home or a small church, if that is what they want.
Or you could find a nice restaurant that will do everything there. Alot of nicer restaurants have rooms that they will do the ceremony and then dinner, or maybe just drinks and appetizers, and they will even do the cake.
Try a bed and breakfast or an inn, they do that sort of thing alot, just try to keep it simple or you will drive yourself nuts!
As for the baby shower, you have a few months to deal with that. I wouldn't have that until she is at least 7 months along.
BTW, perhaps the brother in law is her HUSBANDS brother!!!
2007-09-26 01:22:05 · answer #4 · answered by haleigh's mom 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow, that is a lot to do in a week. Skip the baby shower for a week or two and concentrate on the wedding shower and wedding. I hope they are not expecting a royal ceremony. Depending on what kind of ceremony they want you may have a hard time arranging the wedding that fast. Good luck to you.
PS - I guess you are lucky they didn't stick you with the bachelor party too.
2007-09-26 01:11:33 · answer #5 · answered by remowlms 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If they are getting married next Saturday you will not have time to plan all that. I would just focuse on the wedding and forget the other stuff due to time. I wedding will be rough enough to plan. Start at the most important thing they want in their wedding and work from there have businesses and friends refer you were to go. Good Luck
2007-09-26 03:41:23 · answer #6 · answered by lisadaisy165 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi. I don't get your family dynamics. If you have a brother-in-law, then that would make him your husband's brother???
Well, in any case whomever they are, they cannot expect you to plan all of this by next Saturday. It is impossible.
If they insist on next Saturday, then there will be no bridal shower.
They will need to go to the courthouse to get married. No invitations can be sent -- it's way too late for that. They can call close family and have a reception at someone's home, but that is about all they can do at this late date.
A baby shower can be planned when she is closer to her due date. Simply Google in "baby shower ideas" and you will get lots of ideas.
Good luck!
2007-09-26 03:15:58 · answer #7 · answered by iloveweddings 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow that is a big job to do all in one week. You should do the Wedding shower and Baby shower all in one! That would help out a lot!
Instead of Cakes for the showers, I have seen ppl doing cupcake cakes and they look great, depending on how many ppl you are going to have there. Hopefully you have a good bakery in your town/city.
Give some details on the wedding and we can help out more...
2007-09-26 01:03:37 · answer #8 · answered by Grants a tractor luvr! 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Wow, that is a lot for one person. So, since you've been nominated are you to foot the bill for any of this? That will be expensive. I think you need to make a team and get some help. You won't be able to do it all alone. I think it was selfish of them to ask 1 person to plan 3 events especially in such short notice. Good Luck!
2007-09-26 03:56:32 · answer #9 · answered by cunnitr 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell who ever nominated you that there is not enough time to plan a wedding for next Saturday. She will still be pregnant for sometime. Tell them you do not mind helping out but you are not being responsible for the whole thing
2007-09-26 01:44:08 · answer #10 · answered by EmmaNicole 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋