ok ive been with this guy for almost year. i really do love him but lately ive been kind of worried. i kind of wonder if he is considered abusive? this is an example last night we were just hanging out talking and then he starts talking about how i have such a horrible body and that i have a big nose and started comparing me to freaken models and it really hurt my feelings and he says these things alot and i dont think im ugly or over weight im 5'4 and 120 i think im ok but he makes me feel bad i get confused bc he'll one minute tell me to eat something then the next when i want to eat something he tells me not to eat or ill get fat. then he always talks about fighting with people and hurting people and i mean hes 21 years old im 19 grow up you know then sometimes we will just be playing around and ive noticed hes really rough when he is just playing around he leaves bruises on me constantly and then trys to ask where they came from. theres more.. but i just wonder why he does this.
2007-09-26 00:38:59 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I've stopped wondering why women put up with this crap from their "lovers". I don't care anymore. Dig your own grave.
2007-09-26 00:46:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Your b/f sounds like he needs to be in control of you and everything about you...telling you to eat, telling you to not eat.. That is a controlling behavior which yes is considered abuse. When you guys goof around there is still no reason for bruises to be left on you. The fact that he asks where they come from afterwards is kinda idiotic. He is putting you down and telling you "you're body problems" to weaken you and make you feel exactly as you are. He wants you to think that he is the only one who wants you and no one else will ever want you being "fat, ugly, big nose" whatever... He is an abuser and you need to get out of that relationship before his rough play turns more tragic. Trust me...been there!!
2007-09-26 00:46:28 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Run Gal Run !
If he is already doing this to you this shows that many others are on the way.Run for ur life u are worth more than this.You cant afford to hold on to a person who does not appreciate u.Am sure that there is a man out there who will appreciate you wholy.Gal to be frank-its evident that this guy does not love you whatsoever.
2007-09-26 01:37:48 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
This guy wants to feel superior to you, which does indeed make him a mental abuser. Most people that behave this way have so many insecurities it makes them feel better to belittle others. Don't waste anymore of your time with this LOSER!!!!! Find someone who treats you with respect and values you!!!! You have to value your own self worth and let him know that this treatment from him is not acceptable! Don't allow him to bring you down to his level, things with this person will NEVER change!!!!!!!!!!!! Good Luck
2007-09-26 01:24:21 · answer #4 · answered by Rhonda W 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your bf is showing early signs of domestic abuse. It is natural for women in abusive situations to look for reasons for the behaviors and to try and "fix" him. You need help to understand what he is doing to you, then you can decide what you want to do about it.
check out www.revolutionhealth.com
and read the 10 signs of an abuser.
or call 1-800-799-safe for information and free counseling.
Good Luck.
2007-09-26 01:13:13 · answer #5 · answered by ruby 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it may take it slow to truly learn this, yet what others think of of you is NONE of your corporation and vice versa. The irony is, as quickly as you stop stressful approximately it, they stop saying it. the different difficulty is, there is often somebody extra useful than you, and worse off than you. assessment is futile in the long-term. finally, as you're a at once A student, there is probably somewhat jealousy between those different people who placed you down. I propose, powerful academically AND stable-looking? that is be a fluke, precise?
2016-10-20 00:41:52 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry but he sounds like a d*ck and you can do better for sure. a lot of girls would kill to be your weight. and i know that i have a big nose but if my boyfriend ever said anything about it i would punch him in his face i am not kidding you.
anyway, i wouldnt consider him physically abusive for playing too rough but he sounds like an immature idiot either way and you are too pretty/smart/sweet whatever to be with him.
2007-09-26 00:46:21 · answer #7 · answered by Sophie 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's a control thing and he does it because putting you down makes him feel like a big man. You don't need someone like this in your life. You need someone to value you for who you are, someone who supports your point of view and your goals. Let this one go and find yourself someone worthy of you. He may try to convince you that he's just kidding and that he loves you but, really, you see the red flags of warning yourself. Stick to your guns and find someone better. Good luck.
2007-09-26 00:47:05 · answer #8 · answered by Lady G 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He puts you down to be the dominate one.It's called mental abuse.The worse kind of abuse.Bruises heal.Wouldn't you rather have someone to make you happy?Then why do you stay with him.Get smart and get out of the relationship.Guys like that aren't worthy of our love.
2007-09-26 00:48:05 · answer #9 · answered by lollypop 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Seriously i dont think you should be bothering about for a guy like this. He is simply not concerned about you or your feelings. He could be a sadist.
2007-09-26 00:44:26 · answer #10 · answered by Mermaid 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋