have a friend who is def an alchoholic but not one who drinks every day... just someone who needs to be DRUNK in social situations - she KNOWS she is an alcoholic. I told her to join AA and she wants to but is super aprehensive, saying she wont fit in because she doesnt drink ALL the time and all... Will she fit in or is it only for more severe alcoholics?
2007-09-26 00:37:24 · 7 answers · asked by Mommyof3 BGB 5 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Your friend sounds like me. I'm an alcoholic when I drink, that is I can't stop until i go to sleep. But I don't drink but maybe 3 times a month. I went to an AA meeting and everyone there I promise will make her feel welcome. Tell her you will go with her the first time. Noone knows her name and she doesn't even have to speak, just listen. But remember this, some people at that group are there for different reasons. Some are court ordered and have to be there and then leave and go get drunk. Others want to know your weaknesses then play on them. Don't get involved with the opposite sex when talking about problems. Stick with the ladies and get their phone numbers and she should be fine. Tell her to try it once and if she doesn't like it she doesn't have to go back.
2007-09-26 01:30:40 · answer #1 · answered by SueAnne567 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
There is no such thing as a "more severe alcoholic". You are either an alcoholic or you are not.
That is the thing she has to understand. AA is a great organization, and can help her immensely.
I would encourage her into going to a meeting, that is the first step. The folks at the meeting will set her straight and help her get started off on the right foot.
2007-09-26 07:43:42 · answer #2 · answered by Truce 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your friend may call themselves an alcoholic and you may call her an alcoholic, but I doubt she is. The clinical definition of "alcoholic" is different from AA's definition. AA has a 'misery loves company' attitude about their make believe disease and they will tell just about anyone that they are their sole salvation. AA is full of social misfits, predators and armchair psychologists, tell your friend you were wrong because you lacked the truth about AA. Tell her to stay away from AA, just for today.
2007-09-26 12:18:34 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she'll fit in. There's way more to being an alcoholic than drinking everyday. You can drink once a week and be an alcoholic. Tell her to check it out.
2007-09-26 08:04:54 · answer #4 · answered by Pico 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She is in denial, and that is usually how it goes...they never do think that they are as bad as others..but in reality, they are going down fast...tell her to go and you will go with her, for the hell of it to check it out...tell her then, if she is still not ready, you will be there for her when and if she wants to go. She is lucky to have you...and no, it is not for 'severe' alcoholics...they are all alcoholics, if they need 'one' drink to make it through the day hon
2007-09-26 08:24:04 · answer #5 · answered by MotherKittyKat 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If alcohol causes her problems AA is worth looking into.
2007-09-26 07:44:19 · answer #6 · answered by Simmi 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the only thing to do is keep encouraging her with wisdom
2007-09-26 07:41:51 · answer #7 · answered by Claude 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋